To Love and all the other SO's,
The question is,"Why do we want to dress and act like females?"
I am no doctor, Phsychologist, or any other professional with lots of study and theories. I only have my own experience and feelings to go by.
I have been a cd'er since around the age of 5. Did I know what I was? Heck no. I just knew I loved the feeling of the clothes I was wearing and they were the same clothes the person I admired most wore. Did I realize that at that time? Nope! I just kept wearing the clothes and progressing in my feelings towards them My father was a mean alcoholic who showed no love for me. My mother had all the love in the family. Why wouldn't I lean towards my mother and the female side.
The second question is,"Is an SO less feminine because her husband wears female clothes and act like he is female?"
No way. I was married to the most wonderful woman I have ever known. She never liked dressing frilly feminine and most of the time preferred androgynous clothing. It was more comfortable. Was she less feminine because of how she dressed or because I dressed in clothes more frilly than hers? Nope! She was the most feminine and loved person I have ever known. As much as I would liked to be truly feminine, I knew I could never match her. She was real. She was all woman. She was the most perfect person I have ever known. Three years ago, the Lord took her from me and to this day, I have never met anyone who comes close to her. My dressing didn't affect my love for her in the slightest.
I can't talk for every CD'er or husband out there. All I can relate to is my own experience but using that experience, I can say that no matter what your other is wearing, that has absolutely no affect on your status. The only thing that can affect your status is your own actions. While my wife was supportive of me, I know there were times that my dressing bothered her. She told me and I backed off a little for a while. Never once until her illness made it impossible did she ever stop being the lady I married. She was always great and I love her to this day.
I didn't mean to cry on your shoulder. Yes, I do miss her, but that wasn't the subject of this post. I merely wanted to hold her up as an example to point out that your life and love doesn't have to change. In fact, it can be enhanced. Does the outside clothing make a difference if the inside loves and admires you? You provide the answer to that question.
"The early bird catches the worm...But... It's the second mouse that gets the cheese"
Kyra showed me your pictures. All I can say is WOW!! Where'd you get that body? You're curvatious! What is your genetic background? I have a penchant for figuring out people's lineage. Just curious. You look like a red hot momma in those pictures. 
Thank you for your kind words!