Okay, so how to tell new GF(or SO?)

[GalicianGirl(SO)]

Gee, you all summed things up quite well...

I definately agree 100% with Love(SO) and Amber(SO). I think 100% Honesty seems to be the #1 issue. Right up there with honesty is Trust. Without them both, how can you possibly have a good relationship.

I would want to have been told about his CDing when our relationship started to become more serious. I should be the one to decide if I want to continue with the relationship or not.

Know yourself so you can answer any question that might arise. If you don't know who you are how can your partner. Be prepared to answer questions after questions, sometimes the same ones over and over. It takes a while for things to sink in...

You need to be 100% truthful with her. She might not like what you are going to tell her but she can always look back and say, "at least he was totally honest with me". Don't sugar coat it, it will only come back later and bite you in the butt.

I'm just taking this from my experiences and what I would have wanted.

Sharon(SO)

[Honey(SO)]

I'm just going to add my 2cents to this also.
I have known since January about my husband, I too went to the internet and searched for answers. There are so many questions that you just don't even know where to start.
Communication is so important right now, but don't overwhelm her with too much. And don't get so caught up in the fact that she seems ok with this that you display all your feminine ways at once. Take your time to introduce her to your feminine side. It takes us a while to get our selves used to all this. Slower is better.
Do you have any pictures you have taken of your fem side? This might be a good way to introduce 'her'.
Good luck, you have gotten off to a good start by being upfront with all of this.
Honey

[Josey]

Hi Y'all,

Tea Cake - Thanks so much for starting this thread. It provided good info to all of us who either have to talk to our SO, or, like me, hope to have to some day when an SO is found.

Beauty - Once more, I owe you. That list of past threads was most helpful. I sure got a lot of good ideas from them. Now, if I can just find someone to use them with.