I don't know how I missed this topic way back when. Now that I found it, I feel compelled to respond. First off, the mere nature of the topic suggests the reason this category was started is warranted.
It's not as simple as your questions/statements make it all sound. It's not just about coming in and seeing your mate dressed in the opposite gender clothing and I can tell you there's a BIG difference between you walking in and finding your wife in jeans, a beer stained t-shirt, burping than a woman seeing her husband in a dress, wig, make-up and pumps. Now if you had added that she wanted to wear a prostetic penis when dressed this way you'd be getting a little closer to understanding what it's like but even still, not quite there. She'd have to cut her lovely long hair, grow a uni-brow, let her armpit hair and leg hair grow out, stop bleaching her mustache, wear boxers or briefs to bed and start wearing a suit and tie once in awhile to feel "relaxed, normal, whole and peaceful." Oh and lets not forget that she didn't tell you because she was afraid you'd leave, she now wants you to call her Burt and wants to bring the penis to bed (to use on you) every time you are intimate. One more thing, you can't tell anyone about this new giant secret and you need to trust that she isn't gay though she wants to go to TG bars and that she doesn't want to "become" a man. Confused yet? Well, you're just getting a snip it of what it's like for many women who have CDing SO's. Sorry for the sarcasm but you have NO idea what it's like to be on the receiving end of this type of situation and I almost felt offended to have it trivialized. I'm okay now but needed to speak my piece. Thanks,
Kay(SO)
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