Gelinda,
Most of us understand what you have said, and some of us have gone through the same things as you to get to where we are.
I think the thing that has stood out in this thread is that the SOs are really stretched. It appears to me by what they have communicated here, that it is very difficult for them to have a decent relationship under the circumstances in which they have found themselves in.
I tell you when I look at all this confusion it makes me glad that I am single. I can not find words adequate enough to express the feelings I have for them. I don't think you will find better dedication to a relationship anywhere. It appears to me that if they are not able to continue to support there husbands it certainly won't be for a lack of trying. And you can't ask for better than that from anyone.
A willing supportive SO or a reluctant supportive SO.
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Dear All;
Where it is a good Idea for a potental partner to find out early in the relationship; It is not good for the partner to make a rash decision.
I found out 19 years into our 27 year marriage. Husband outed big time 4 years ago at work and in the public spectrum ( newspapers, radio, and Internet ). I had to go from not knowing, learning all the terms ( TG 101 ), to appearing that I was totally accepting in less than 3 years.
It all happened to quick for me to completly comprehend. We were both on an emotional rollercoaster and under a lot of stress. Stress from the unkown, what if anyone found out, if they did then what.
Being outted the way he was relived some of the fear factor. But the aftermath has not always been easy. There were a lot of changes and emotions we still had to deal with.
Some of my fellings back then have changed for the better..... My husband's CDing has not been a death sentence for our marriage so far. There are other women who would havee walked away form their relationship long before this.
I still don't know where our marriage will end up. I HAVE CHOOSEN to stay on this roller coaster ride called " Marriage " for now. There may come a day when I will get off because I had to for several reasons.
My husband seems to be a lot happier when he is able to crossdress. We do a lot of things together including going to a mainstream church with him En femme.
Shirley(SO)
Where it is a good Idea for a potental partner to find out early in the relationship; It is not good for the partner to make a rash decision.
I found out 19 years into our 27 year marriage. Husband outed big time 4 years ago at work and in the public spectrum ( newspapers, radio, and Internet ). I had to go from not knowing, learning all the terms ( TG 101 ), to appearing that I was totally accepting in less than 3 years.
It all happened to quick for me to completly comprehend. We were both on an emotional rollercoaster and under a lot of stress. Stress from the unkown, what if anyone found out, if they did then what.
Being outted the way he was relived some of the fear factor. But the aftermath has not always been easy. There were a lot of changes and emotions we still had to deal with.
Some of my fellings back then have changed for the better..... My husband's CDing has not been a death sentence for our marriage so far. There are other women who would havee walked away form their relationship long before this.
I still don't know where our marriage will end up. I HAVE CHOOSEN to stay on this roller coaster ride called " Marriage " for now. There may come a day when I will get off because I had to for several reasons.
My husband seems to be a lot happier when he is able to crossdress. We do a lot of things together including going to a mainstream church with him En femme.
Shirley(SO)