What to do

[Rony]

Girls
I’m faced with a bit of a dilemma, while I agree with most of you honesty is the best policy, I’m reluctant to be up front with my SO. As stated in previous post I’ve been married 38 yrs. My SO has been going thru some kind of depression since her mother/best friend died several years ago with althimizers (it took her over five years to pass) that is why this is called the long good-bye. While there is no one else I want to spend my golden years with (that’s a miss nomer), she started drinking heavily after her mother passed, and can finish off a 5 liter box of wine in a couple of days. She starts each day around 1330 in the afternoon and by the time I get home from work I don’t want to discuss anything as serious as my desire to cross-dress. About a year ago I convinced her that I think Barely there panties are more comfortable she went along with black, but drew the line at white or some other color (i.e. pink or with any lace ) and I sleep ever night in VS PJ’s but she will never ask why. If I try to mention my preference in underwear she says “I don’t want to go there”. Ladies as I get older (approaching 61) the desire seems to be growing to dress. I don’t think I want to be out and about I just want to wear girl’s (skirts and side zip pants) cloths more. I like thigh high hose and Wacoal panties slips and skirts Didn’t the nerve to buy my first Bra until this years. There is so much more to this story but I’m reluctant to take up your time in this post. Should I try too breech this subject in my SO sober periods or just hope for the best.??

Rony
PS if I should ever invite my SO to join (if she would) I feel I should change my login.
Ladies as always I will concider any replies to this post, I really wish I had some way for my SO to tolerate my desire ,I could work this out, after all I ignored my desire for a 20 + year career in the military.
Forgive me for the long winded post.

[DonnaT]

It doesn't sound like she would be able to handle the added stress of your CDing around the house. Especially if she refuses to seek help (outside of a bottle) in dealing with her depression.

So, no, if you are still in love with her, I would suggest you find a way to dress without involving her.

And in the meantime, find help for her/both of you/you to learn how to deal with your wife's depression and possible alcoholism (AA can help).

http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/depression.cfm

[Jess(SO)]

rony,
I have to reluctently agree with Donna, I don.t think telling your SO at this time is a great idea. I myself only found out about my DH a few months ago and it was tough finding out about the lies, but I wasn't dealing with depression and a large amount of alchohol consumption at the time so we made it through fairly unscathed.

All us peeps on here are here for you whenever you need to talk, worrry, need advice or a hug,.

You will find that nobody minds how long it takes you to tell or ask what you want friends are just like that and you will find that we are one of the friendliest bunches around
Jess(so)