On this one I think it's going to be up to you to decide.
Here's what you've said. You've said I don't want to lie to my father and you've said I don't want to tell him who I'm seeing or hanging out with, or who I hung out with in Vegas.
Looks like you have a pretty big decision to make now. I say go with honesty if it doesn't mean he'll put you out on the street. In the same breath though I still have to say I really think it's your choice to make. I'll be here no matter what decision that is.
I did think of one other thing you can do. You can just repeatedly say, "I don't want to talk about it." He may wonder however if you're hanging out with a crowd that may get you into trouble with drugs and alcohol rather than people you identify with because you're a cd'r. Sheesh.. It's so hard to tell. I guess that's what they mean about the web of deceit. It just gets more and more tangled.
I wish you the best. You'll do great, no matter the decision!
I guess I should fill you in with what I have told him. I told him that I meet these people threw the e-mail and pretty much hung out with them each day I was there. He kind has been pressing on how I got to meet them like what interest do we both have that would cause me to suddenly hang out together. At one point he mentioned are they gay (I SOMETIMES get the feeling that my dad belives that I may be as I am more emotional than he is) I don't know if that is true. The two of us have been really close thrw out my life and he knows me pretty well. I have may have brought these upon my self by telling how great of time I hade will in Vegas staying out tell late in the night something that is not normal for me.
Yesterday I spent the day with my father there where several times I felt like I wanted to tell him about Jessie but is just could not feel it out. It just seamed so hard to wonder what he might do I felt it best not to say anything at all. As I have anouther friend who has told me if there is no reason to tell the person that you CDer then why do it. Yet for some reason I do feel compeled to to tell him. I just am not sure I can do it.
Thank's Beauty and all other who read and add to this thread. I fill, when it is right, that when I do tell my dad about me a crossdresser it will be a long conversation and I will have to have a lot of answers for him many of which I think I have from being on this forum. I belive he can handle it I just am not sure I can handle telling him. He often makes small if not odd referances to me maybe being gay (this may be to do me not having an sexual experience) but I kind of blow this off as I contemplate my next step. This may be something I need to discuess with my theropist and the deception thread has also got me thinking a lot about crossdressing and being anouther person.
Next Wednesday we are having a graduation party for my youngest brother. My godmother is coming (she is the one who recently married a MtF transgender pre-op I believe) and my mom thinks I should talk with them or that is what I am getting the feeling from her as she was talking about showing some of the pictures I printed from my Vegas trip and she was going to show the pictures to them.
Well I finaly meet Kate (as she is know now) we did not really get a chace to talk as there where several other poeple at the house we where at. Kind spoke in general terms as such about theropy one goes to and group supports one has. She seams to be handeling really well. In august they are having a weeding reception of sort and I am planning on trying to be there I have already sent and e-mail to my supervisor asking for the weekend off (it is the one after my birthday after all) and since I have given enough time we should be able to take care of it.
I am thinking of telling my step dad today that I am crossdresser as I think I may need a male point of view and he is someone I can talk to about other than my therapist, but I am wondering if I should wait for another day, as this is father's day and that would be selfish of me to lay this one him as I am finding that it can be. Also it will help talk with him about the legal issues of cding as he is lawer and a law professor.
I doubt as a man, he'll get upset about you telling him on father's day. From the way you just described him, he sounds rather cool. So think he wouldn't care that it was father's day. I would think he'd be quite the opposite and flattered.
Since you've told you mom. Did you ask her? She'd probably be the best person to give you advice about approaching him, oui?
UNFORTANTLY I did not have the time to do it. We where so busy setting up a main mask on a new sail boat my step father bought with a friend a racing sail boat. Then there was dinner with anouther family which a complet debolcal because the power to the deck had gone out and it took several hours before we could find the right reset switch. So I did not have a chance to tell him but I may in the next week or so depending on how things go. I will talk to my mom first as you suggest Beauty.
I recentaly got some news about my godmothers SO. She has been passed over for a job promotion again and has to use the male restroom at her work. This is info comming to me via my mom.
While I was change into my clothes yesterday night for the party I figured I would talk with my step dad and tell him that I am Crossdresser. He said that he figured that I was quit surpised by this. We talked for a while while we waited for my mom to get ready for the party. It was nice to tell anouther male about it and did not feel strange at all.
It's really great that your mom is so supportive. 