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I have always wondered what a GG meant when she said a particular dress made her feel sexy. Do you think that this is close to what CDers feel when they dress? Ms Jane.

Absolutely!

Probably

Before the GGs chime in I'm going to say maybe or I have no idea.

Beauty

Well Beauty that was a very wishwashy answer!! LOL

Since i work around children all day I am usually wearing slacks, jeans, capris but like to wear fem tops along with them. I feel I look nice.

When I dress to the 9ns to go out with my husband for a night out I put on my lacy underthings and pull out a dress that I rarley get to wear. I know my husband loves the way I look wearing that dress and it is the combination of how he looks at me and feeling good about wearing the dress and the accessories that makes me feel sexy and desired.

Honey (SO)

Yes it was wishy washy, wasn't it?

Good news that you feel sexy when you dress. That lends more to Jan's absolutely and Donna's probably.

That's really cool that your husband loves the way you look and bravo to him for telling him you look sexy! I'm sure your hubby does find you ultra-sexy and behalf on all of us who have wives, may your sexiness be as contagious!

Beauty

Ms Jane wrote:I have always wondered what a GG meant when she said a particular dress made her feel sexy. Do you think that this is close to what CDers feel when they dress? Ms Jane.

The obvious answer would be 'if they had that particular dress'!

As Honey said, the combination of self image and how you are percived by those you are close to makes the world of difference. I can't say from personal experiance, but I would think that by having a particular outfit for special occasions you can learn to associate this rare dress with having a good time. When you are at ease with your apperance in that specially chosen outfit, and having the appreciation of it from other people -even if it's just a nice glance- can make that outfit more than just pleasant feeling cloth. Put it on again, and not only would it feel good as clothing, but it would feel good because of the positive vibes that it got.

And of course you're going to choose something you think looks sexy, or at least flattering, when bying for a special occasion anyway! If you wore it all the time it might loose a little of it's power, because you'd come to associate it with the norm, not with the situations that make you, as Honey said, feel desirable.

So, enough hi-jacking of other peoples' words. That's my take on it. So perhaps for crossdressing every outfit has a little of that, at least at the start, because it's something that has to be saved and indulged. By that same token, you come to associate crosdressing with pleasurable indulgance, so get some of the same effect.

It's just supposition and a little personal observation, but it sounds right.

I dont know the best way to describe the feeling of putting on a dress, "sexy"? , I dont know.
I think that I am insinificant or invisable when I'm in my normal DRAB , when I go out in a dress I feel attractive and real.
I feel that I'm part of the real world instead of me being in my own little world , I could say that I spend my time on the bench EN-DRAB and when I put on the dress I have entered the arena to be part of the game.

I would use the term " feeling attractive " rather than "feeling sexy " to describe my own feelings.

For me its not so much how the close feels on my body, though they do feel nice, Its more how they make the form take shape, that makes me feel more femm and beauitiful, the feeling i have the form or the body, makes my movements and gestures more real feeling, and graceful, so a outfit that i really like, shows off my form, and i feel sexy.

Hi,

I had to respond to this, as I have developed a different outlook for me. I agree with parts of what everyone has said.

I particularly agree with Elandra. In my male ego, I was one who used to think that women did dress sexy to attract attention. I could not come to terms with the fact that I did love to look and feel sexy in particular outfits that seem to accentuate my good features and minimize the bad. I am speaking only for me.

I do feel the connection with life in ways I could not as male. My wife could not understand why I needed to go out dressed in the world without having a sexual intent. She believed that I was hiding something. My wife never felt the need or want to be dressed sexy. What I have finally figured out, is that our fundamental upbringing taught both of us sexy women were bad women.

I now believe that it is ok for me to feel sexy and beautiful with lots of help. This feeling fulfills a part of me. I am not evil or on the prowl, only because I enjoy the feeling and neither are all women that do to. My wife finally believes what I tell her. I have never given her a reason to believe otherwise. But I too have to understand that cross-dressing is far from being socially acceptable and that, in turn, could harm my wife. Most of our wives who have not bought into the cross-dressing experience of their husbands and have not accepted all the social risks, will in fact remain tense at times with us.

I am required to remain sensitive to my wife's fears while enjoying who I am. It is a difficult balancing act.

Hugs and kisses,
Kersten