Kersten: Sad and Lonely

Kersten Lee · Post by **Kersten Lee** » Thu Apr 28, 2005 9:07 pm

Hi Friends,

I was sad, lonely and over burdened. I skipped school tonight, after work, to be alone for awhile. I have been near to the edge of crying often today. I took a hot bath with vanila plum bath soap and still I was damp eyed. Put on polka dot panties with a black satin bow, short black party dress that I love and a pair of comfortable black pumps and still I was sad. My wife is not feeling well tonight and I came here.

I saw a post by Yasky(SO). Yasky is new to me. I opened and read to know her better. I cried, and now I feel better. Thinking of all the wonderful conversations with those who have become friends, I remember how I came here a lost, near dead soul and got life.

Yasky, forgive me for stealing your post, but I had to move it here. Your last line is what did me in. At the time when these first wonderful people responded to my pain with kindness, each one of them was the whole world to me! I love you all as family and that includes Shannon and Sharon!

Yasky's post........
I am relatively new to this forum, but from everything I've seen and responses I've received, I think this place is just GREAT!! I had belonged to another forum for SOs but found it extremely negative and totally UNhelpful. Responses to my queries about how to go about dealing with my CDing hubby were mostly "buck up and accept it". Those responses only sent me deeper into my spiral of uncertainties and discontent. I have to tell you, this forum is so totally different - I've found MUCH help and support and NO negativity whatsoever.

So...all that said, all I can say to Beauty, Sharon, and Shannon: Thank you; Thank you; Thank you!!!

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YASKY(SO)
To the world you might be one person, but to one person you just might be the world

Lorna · Post by **Lorna** » Thu Apr 28, 2005 10:14 pm

Hi Kersten... I'm so glad you're back & posting again!!

Every so often we need to allow ourselves a good cry. I believe that tears are the washwater of the soul.

***hugs***

Post by **KimberlyS** » Thu Apr 28, 2005 11:43 pm

Hello Kersten, sorry you are feeling down. Hang in there.

** Hug ** Hug ** Hug ** Hug **

KimberlyS

p.s. maybe if i was not such a nerdette I could do graphical hugs like Lorna.

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Fri Apr 29, 2005 12:31 am

*Kersten Lee*

GalicianGirl(SO) · Post by **GalicianGirl(SO)** » Fri Apr 29, 2005 9:07 am

Nice to hear from you again Kersten....We missed you!!! I hope you are not feeling so sad and lonely today!!!!!

Just remember, we are all here for you if you need a little support and cheering up!!!!

Sharon(SO)

Post by **KimberlyS** » Fri Apr 29, 2005 12:48 pm

Sharon, Nice to see you here again also.

Please remember a quote from a great person on this forum:

"Just remember, we are all here for you if you need a little support and cheering up!!!! Smile" Sharon(SO)

Kersten and Sharon this is your HUG for the day.

Sinjoy(SO) · Post by **Sinjoy(SO)** » Fri Apr 29, 2005 4:14 pm

Dear Kersten,

Sorry to hear that you are having a hard time. Just remember, we all are here for you. Any time you need a shoulder, you know where I am!

I will say a prayer for you and you wife, and always know that you are loved!

Sinjoy(so)

Yasky(SO) · Post by **Yasky(SO)** » Fri Apr 29, 2005 4:45 pm

Kersten Lee,

Hi, there - YASKY here! I am absolutely honored that something I'd said touched you - and how fortunate (for me) to know that. How often do we let others know when something they've done or said has touched us? Not often enough, that's for sure.

I sincerely hope you're feeling much better today - don't let sadness build up - LIVE!! Sometimes the best thing to do (I've found) is go to a tear-jerker movie and CRY, CRY, CRY - it can be terribly refreshing.

Take good care - and I do hope to get to know you better. I've found (nearly) everyone here absolutely wonderful and extremely supportive; as we all are of you now.

Anita · Post by **Anita** » Fri Apr 29, 2005 7:06 pm

Hi Kersten--
Sometimes there is no lonelier feeling than when you're coupled, and your SO is unable to give you any support, for whatever reason. I also hope that you're feeling much better as you read this post.

A strong wave of sadness hit me while I was on a job site the other day, and I was working alone. So I could cry hard for awhile until I felt better. It's very seldom I have enough privacy to feel like I can do that. If your mood comes again soon, I hope that you can do the same thing again--cry. It helps me, even if I don't know WHAT it's about.

Kersten Lee · Post by **Kersten Lee** » Fri Apr 29, 2005 7:25 pm

Thank you for caring about me!

Thank you all for the warmth!

Kersten

Post by **KimberlyS** » Tue May 10, 2005 11:50 pm

Kersten, I hope that you have been feeling better now lately.

KimberlyS

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Tue Jun 07, 2005 9:23 am

Kersten,
Honey, you have come a long way and we are all proud of what you have accomplished thus far!!! You know we all have our ups and downs and the crying, the crying for a lot of us is really a great release. You know, they say that that is a major reason that GG's out live us! They are not afraid to cry, so being CD puts us even closer to that so even macho me has had a good cry more often than I care to share, but I sure feel better afterward!
God shed Her blessings on you sweetheart and let us know how you are doing!'
Love,
Virginia