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Before I had access to the net, I researched the subject in depth. I could not find a description that fit me. The term Cross-dresser is not in the dictionary nor in any other books that I could get my hands on. Yet it was the only term that I was comfortable with.

My recent research however has caused me to ask yet another question. Are we by calling our selves cross-dressers separating our selves from women who wear what they like, yet don't refer to themselves as being any different from anyone else? By using any term to describe us are we not projecting that we do not see our selves as normal? (what ever normal means.) Are we not putting our selves in a box so to speak?

If in fact we are blessed people (which I believe to be true) should the label of the box we have chosen appropriately indicate that we are? Is the label we have chosen while convenient nothing more than a treacherous friend?

I don't have answers just questions. What do you girls think about it?

I am particularly interested in what the GGs here think about this?

Darlene:
Thanks for posting this question here. I saw your post ?somewhere else? but could not bring myself to respond to it there. Anyway I wholeheartedly agree. First, I don't like labels either and the term that we are labeled with "cross-dresser," ugh! And second, I also see that you and I agree on the fact that we are definitely "blessed" with this gift.
As for the label, I don't know how we can divest ourselves of it. Any thoughts from our sisters would be greatly appreciated. I see the term in politics, law, psychology, etc. Yes to me it is not only a label but has a negative conotation. Not all of us "with this gift" crossdress and some of us only crossdress not having or understanding the responsibility that goes with this (or any) gift so bestowed! Lets start a poll and see what other names we can come up with -not that they would ever catch on but it will be interesting to see what we come up with.
Love,
Deborah

Darlene wrote:Beauty I have erased this message I tried to delete it. if you can not respect my wish to get some GGs opinons on this subject then I have no interest in posting it here. Thank you Please delete this thread.

Darlene.

Oy' the things we say in public.

Darlene I do, very much, respect your wishes to get GG's opinions I was ignorant about where you wanted it. So I moved it. For some reason I thought maybe you meant it only to be for CD'rs. I didn't know it would offend you or I wouldn't have done it, honest. I'm sorry.

It's a good thing to happen, but I wish I'd known you have a good right hook. :-P It's a good thing because anyone who feels, "Hey! Put that back!" can PM me. I do my best to alert folks about any changes I make. This one I thought did require it. Ooops!

Anyhoo, I can't remember the text of the message anymore, but I'm kind of sure it wasn't To Beauty. If you still remember, please type it back in. I'll move it back to where you had it.

Beauty

Thank you for responding Hon.

The reason I was taken back about it was because I had stated in the post that the reason I had posted it where I did was to get the GGs opinion. Also this was the second time you moved a post with out informing me. The first time I emailed Shannon because I thought it had been deleted.

Please know that I still have a lot of respect for you, and the right hook was not meant to be taken personally. It comes from having to find my way out of a very abusive birth family and the after affects which took me half a life time to work through. I aspire to deal with issues that are important to me as directly as I can.

You have shown me that you are indeed a healthy person willing to work through issues so that we can both move beyond this ( it is what is in the heart that is important.)

I will post it again in this category, and we will start over with no ill feelings on my part.

Very Respectfully.
Darlene.

Please feel free to delete this post once you have read it.

Hi Darlene,

Delete this? No way!

When I'm feeling down about myself, I'm going to come here and read that over and over like I did this time.

Thank you for being so understanding Darlene. I love that you posted it again and again I'm really sorry about that.

Talk to you soon!!!!

Beauty