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[SilverLady(SO)]

Hi, Sammy C. (SO) and Mrs. Francis . . . welcome to the Forum!!

- SL

[Gillian]

I mean there could be worse things like a cheater, a beater, etc...

Everything that I have read shows that CD's are loving and devoted husbands. They are good family men, with some different tastes than most other men. Women want to be loved, just like men want to be loved. What difference does it make what someone wears as clothing. Isn't it more important to have a man in your life with some good character traits than getting bent out of shape about his clothing tastes. I was the same way for years when it came to make up and clothes for my SO. Now I encourage Her to buy what she likes, but not because I want to wear them also. Now I have my own clothes. Marriage should be about growing in love and developing better character within each other.
We spend to much time in life sweating the small stuff.

[Leeza]

Hi, Mrs Francis, and welcome to our family on the internet.

Leeza

[Kimberly Kael]

Hi everyone :D I am in need of some insight from some SO's.

I hope you don't mind getting some thoughts fom those of us on the transgender / cross dresser side of the relationship? My wife is a member here but posts very infrequently.

... he promised he wouldnt do it again, and he would throw away all his clothes. There was just one more incident when I found the clothes and he burned them that night!

What you describe is a pretty standard purging cycle. He knows about society's disapproval in general and yours in particular, but there's something irresistible about dressing that he cannot escape despite his intentions.

I have concerns just like many SO's out there. What if he doesnt want me anymore?

His desire to dress and his feelings for you are almost certainly completely unrelated. I understand that it's a common concern, but it makes as much sense to worry about him losing interest in you because you've discovered he likes strawberries. Gender expression and sexual expression are pretty much independent of one another for most people.

He never buys me pretty clothes, and he says he wants to start, but I have nothing beautiful. He never has liked me in make-up, and now all of a sudden he loves it when I put it on?

Buying clothes for women is a skill most men never have the courage to learn, but if he is genuinely interested it would be great for the two of you to go shopping together. Finding something that flatters your form takes experience he just doesn't have. Be prepared for him to find things he's interested in, too, and set whatever boundaries make you comfortable with the trip. As make-up? It's possible he's interested in the process more than the result, as I have no doubt he finds you beautiful just the way you are.

[CJ]

Hi Sammy and Mrs. Francis,

A warm welcome to both of you in this cold season!

Sammy, I think you'll find many answers to your questions, here. And Mrs. Francis, too. Please feel free to poke around the boards; the experience might bring you even closer together... like, uh, a stocking top and garter tab. ::groan:: (sorry )

Love,
CJ