Hello!!!

Shari (SO) · Post by **Shari (SO)** » Fri Dec 24, 2010 1:03 pm

Hi Susan,

My husband "Rose" says the same thing, he says CD'ing makes him feel much more relaxed. He too is a good father to his children from his first marriage, as well as a good role model and step-father to my son. He is also a loving husband, and he seems to enjoy both his role as a regular husband & father and as a CD. He is a kind, generous person, my mother is elderly and not in the best health as well as my step-dad, what he does for them is incredible!!! So because of all of his good qualities and the fact that I truly love him, is why I decided to try to understand the world of CD and to be more accepting of it. Although, I don't think I would ever want him to CD 24/7, or go out in public for fear of people finding out. We live in a very small town and with my type of job it could be pretty bad. Thanks for listening and thanks for your comments...

Shari

Susan · Post by **Susan** » Fri Dec 24, 2010 4:08 pm

Hi Shari

Thank you for your reply.

I do not "play" close to home purely for the sake of my wife's feelings. I do go out and I have never had a problem. The last time I heard any comment was on a Saturday afternoon in a city nearly 100 miles from home. It was a hot summer afternoon and I was wearing a summer dress and sandals. I overheard a woman saying to her husband "That blonde lady is tall" I am 5' 10" in my bare feet and I was wearing 2" heels at the time. In my mind this is the hardest outfit to pass in but I spent two hours walking around surrounded by people. Even teenage girls ignored me.

I doubt anyone who knows "Bob" would recognise me when I am dressed and made up. Not that I am bothered any more. Thankfully we live in more enlightened times.

When my children were babies I had the lion's share of looking after them - I wake up easily. I really enjoyed most of it and our children are the best thing to have happened to me. You know a daughter loves you when she phones you in work to say she has started her first period.

My parents are dead now but I spent my teen years looking after my terminally ill mother. I miss her even now but that experience has helped towards making me the sort of person I am now. I truly believe this is a gift. Once those who don't share this get over the misconceptions you will realise that. I know a number of others like me. They are really nice people. I hope you come to realise this too.

My best wishes to you both.

Patti D · Post by **Patti D** » Sun Dec 26, 2010 5:53 pm

Welcome Shari, join us in the chat room in the evenings, it's fun and informative. You can ask any question you feel like.

Davita · Post by **Davita** » Sun Dec 26, 2010 6:39 pm

Hi Shari and Rose. Welcome to the forum.

Hope you two enjoy the company.

Vivian · Post by **Vivian** » Sun Dec 26, 2010 9:04 pm

Hi Shari,
I have been cross dressing since about 12 years old. For many years I couldn't cross dress due to my professions. I came out to my wife of 16 years now, a couple years ago. She has boundaries and initially though it was cute I wore her underwear all the time. She was floored when I came out. I am really manly and look manly.
We have lots of fun putting on makeup and shopping. I stay in the closet because my kids don't know about it and I dress when my wife and I are home alone.
We are closer than we have ever been and it has been wonderful. She is painting her fingernails at the moment and I picked the color. I am glad your chatting.

Hugs Vivian

Azurielle · Post by **Azurielle** » Sat Jan 01, 2011 11:50 pm

Happy holidays to you as well, and welcome to the forum.

Lisa D (SO) · Post by **Lisa D (SO)** » Sun Jan 02, 2011 5:19 pm

Shari, We all have had to fight emotions about things we do not understand and think will affect our lives. I've fought these emotions and finally realized that we were both getting to a place that made us both unhappy. My love for my husband is greater than anything life can put before me, and believe me, this is not the biggest thing I've had to deal with. Compromise and be happy, find the road you both can be happy on. Life is short and it sounds like your husband has great qualities to offset any minor bumps you my cross. Talk openly and ask questions , so you can better understand his feelings. Take part in his activities when possible and do not feel you have to compete . Remember the clothes don't make the man. He is the same person you were bragging about earlier, he just looks different. In short , Have fun, Love with all your heart.

Anita · Post by **Anita** » Sun Jan 02, 2011 7:02 pm

Hi Shari--
You can find valuable information on here, and one of the biggest pieces is lots of other people's experience with exactly the same feelings and doubts. You can see what others have done about them over time. Meanwhile, you're doing your own exploration.

Welcome to the forum!

Zeta · Post by **Zeta** » Thu Jan 06, 2011 4:23 pm

Hi Shari-

I'm an older man, over 47 years married to a wonderful woman. Although the interest in crossdressing was there from an early age, during most of our marriage I had too many other interests to indulge. When I retired, some ten years ago, I tried underdressing and when my wife was found to be supportive, wearing feminine outer clothes as well. I never went out of the house in a dress or skirt but usually in women's jeans or other pants.

I enjoy the look and feel of lingerie, even men's 'lingerie' as sold by sites like Xdress.com. I wear either women's or men's 'panties' every day, and occasionally a bra handed down to me from my wife.

I find great pleasure in crossdressing, and although I've been ashamed and purged a number of times I do come back to it.

I do hope you and your husband come to an understanding and enjoy the many pleasures that can be shared.

Zeta

Erica S · Post by **Erica S** » Fri Jan 07, 2011 8:19 am

Hi Shari,

Welcome

Hugs,

Erica