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Here for moral support

Posted: Thu Aug 14, 2008 9:45 am
by Bonnie_SO
Well, here I am. Another SO searching for more enlightenment than I thought I had. I knew my current husband was a cd before I married him. It didn't bother me at all. I thought I had it all together until now. We've been married over 7 years now and I feel like things are getting out of hand. I'm hoping this forum helps me understand what is happening and help me handle it "for us".

Hello to e1 !!

Posted: Thu Aug 14, 2008 11:21 am
by DonnaT
Hi Bonnie, -wel- to the forum.

Hopefully you'll find some answers here. May not always be what you want to hear, but answers none the less.

Posted: Thu Aug 14, 2008 3:32 pm
by Kay
Hi Bonnie
Welcome to this wonderful forum from me across the pond *sink* I hope you can get some answers here, I can't think of a better place.
Kay

Posted: Thu Aug 14, 2008 6:56 pm
by CJ
Hi Bonnie,

Welcome to the forum! 8) I'm not sure what you mean, exactly, by things "getting out of hand," but I'm sure you'll find the odd sketch of an answer to your questions by getting in touch with some of the SOs on the forum. By the way, be sure to contact SilverLady(SO) or GalicianGirl(SO)--they're the forum Administrators--in order to ask them to grant you access to the SOs-only section of the forum. You can do so by sending either one a private message (PM).

I hope the time you spend here, Bonnie, bears fruit. It's a good place to be and the gals (of both the XY and XX variety) are good souls and good sounding boards. I look forward to hearing more from you.

Love,
CJ

Here for moral support

Posted: Thu Aug 14, 2008 7:29 pm
by Bonnie_SO
Gee ya'll...I feel so full of friends already. Your welcoming posts warm my heart and make me feel like I will find the help I'm looking for. Thanks so much and I will be crusin around in here alot. Now off with me so I can go get my hall pass into the SO section...LOL.

Love ya's
Bonnie

Posted: Thu Aug 14, 2008 7:31 pm
by Amelie-Laveau
Hi Bonnie,, feel free to ask whatever is on your mind.

Posted: Thu Aug 14, 2008 7:40 pm
by Virginia
HI Bonnie,

Like my sis, Donna said, you will see several approaches to the same situation, and they may not be exactly what you want to hear, but they will be truthful and from the heart!

Virginia

Posted: Thu Aug 14, 2008 9:47 pm
by SilverLady(SO)
Hi, Bonnie, and welcome to the Forum, and I've already given you your 'hall pass' (before I read your PM)!

If your hubby is not already a member, he's invited to join the forum, too!

- SL

Posted: Fri Aug 15, 2008 1:04 am
by Anita
Hi Bonnie-
Welcome to the forum! We've covered a lot of territory on here, so I imagine you will recognize elements of your situation in several places. And you can always post about specifics, too, and see what kind of answers you get.

Posted: Fri Aug 15, 2008 2:51 pm
by Lucy Michelle
Hi Bonnie I'd like to offer a warm welcome to the forum.

Posted: Sat Aug 16, 2008 4:36 am
by Anne Murray (SO)
Big welcome to another SO, look forward to chatting with you sometime
Anne

Posted: Sat Aug 16, 2008 4:00 pm
by Carol Ann
Hello Bonnie,
If I may ask what is the problem? My wife knew going in to our marriage I dressed and was not a problem in fact for what it's worth it was a turn on for her. have been married for 45 years and I still dress. Come on lady tell us what is wrong and we will help you fix it, or try. (--)

Re: Here for moral support

Posted: Mon Aug 18, 2008 1:57 pm
by KimberlyS
Welcome Bonnie. My wifes intro could be similar. She knew before we were married and about 8 years ago I realized there was more to my CDing than a bit of fun once in a while. Caused us a few years of conflict and one of hell but we worked our way though it. Lots and lots and lots of talking and communication between us. It took some time for us to work through things and try different things, situations and setups to see if they worked for both of us. And a lot of tweaking as we went and continue to do. Seek professional help to improve your communications skills as a couple if needed.

kimberlys-cd
joe in a skirt