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Well, not really, I've had a thing about 'dressing up' as long as I can remember, but have managed to keep it quiet. I'm happily married and intend to keep it that way so would love to get some advice from people in a similar position - especially hearing the wife's side. It's also great fun (maybe I shouldn't admit that!) and being 'en-femme' gives me a great inner calm. I suppose that you all know what I mean.

Lisa

Hi Lisa

Welcome to the forum.

I sure do understand everything you are saying. Feel free to ask any questions you may have, you will find we are more than happy to help you and your wife if she wants it.

Best wishes

Hi Lisa, to the forum.

Welcome, Lisa.

It's also great fun (maybe I shouldn't admit that!) and being 'en-femme' gives me a great inner calm.

Yes I know what you mean.

Leeza

Hi, Lisa, and welcome to the Forum!

- SL

Welcome to our little supportive & friendly corner of the interwebs.

Hello Lisa,

Hope you can find time to read some of the previous posts about "your situation." We have a lot of opinions and results of those in and out of the closet!

Hope you stay and participate.

Virginia

Hi, Lisa:
Welcome to the group!

Hi Lisa, welcome. I know exactly what you mean when I am enfeme, I an calm and feel wonderful about myself.

Erica

I think we have the same questions. I'll certainly be looking for answers and seems like this is a good place to find them.

LisaReid wrote: It's also great fun (maybe I shouldn't admit that!) and being 'en-femme' gives me a great inner calm. I suppose that you all know what I mean.

Actually, I’m not always sure what crossdressers mean when they say things like that, but I made an interesting discovery two or three months ago. Based on my annual medical checkup and the tests that entails, my doctor reported (at the follow-up visit) that my blood pressure and LDL (cholesterol) both were “borderline high,” which was a bit of a shock to me, as my readings before had always been within the desirable range. We decided that I would try making some lifestyle adjustments (some moderate aerobic exercise daily and a reduced fat, reduced sodium diet), and that we would reevaluate in three months, to see if prescription medications might be required. So I bought a blood pressure monitor at Wal-Mart, took morning and late evening readings every day, and ate more fresh vegetables and less fast-food items. The elevated readings might have been due to some stresses or other special circumstances, or maybe they did reflect insufficient exercise and too rich a diet; however, one way or the other, my LDL and blood pressure readings dropped into the desirable ranges over that three-month period.

The most interesting thing, though, was that right from the start my blood pressure reading ran about 10 points (mmHg) lower on evenings when I crossdressed than on evenings when I did not. (Individual readings vary from day to day, but the averages clearly showed lower readings on CDing days.) I wonder if that subjective feeling of “inner calm” might not have some more objective conditions associated with it.

Gee I get that inner calm feeling as well. If dressing drops my blood pressure maybe I could get off the meds if I dressed all of the time.

I feel the same; but totally from non-technical reading. But I'm sure if you put the cuff on me, the score would be lower when dressed in tulle, satin and lace. rr

I work in a highly stressful sales environment. The guy at at the station next to me wears a blood pressure monitor on a regular basis, before his frequent checkups. My supervisor, 10 years younger than me, is on a strict regimen due to a minor heart attack. At my recent check up, two weeks ago, my blood pressure was 120/72.

I attribute this to two things; bicycle riding and cross dressing on a regular basis.

The connection? Well, doing both seriously involves shaving your legs.

So the answer then, dear sisters, is obvious. Keep those legs shaved, and all will be well!

Welcome Lisa