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Closeted member from Colorado
Posted: Mon Dec 21, 2009 8:16 am
by Michelle M
Hey all!
I've been checking out the forums for a little while now and felt like actually signing up. I've been dressing up off and on since I was around 9 years old. I'm considering coming out to my wife here soon (probably after the new year). I really should have done it sooner, but I thought I could ignore my desires to dress. Take care.
Michelle
Posted: Mon Dec 21, 2009 9:04 am
by Susan
Hi Michelle
Welcome to our sorority, I am sure you will find much in common with us all here. I hope it all goes well with your wife. I remember my experience and to say I was not looking forward to it is an understatement. It was for the best as I told her before we got married and we are rapidly approaching our 24th anniversary.
Join us in the chatroom some time and meet some of the other girls here. You will find it hard to find a more friendly bunch than here.
Best wishes
Posted: Mon Dec 21, 2009 10:39 am
by SilverLady(SO)
Hi, Michelle, and welcome to the Forum! Your wife (SO) is welcome to join the forum, too . . . we GG's have an area that's off-limits to the CD's so she can post if private, if needed.
- SL
Posted: Mon Dec 21, 2009 12:18 pm
by Virginia
Hi Michelle,
Welcome and if I may, would you share with us, BEFORE you "come out" to your spouse, just exactly what your plan would be?
A lot of us have "been there done that" and perhaps we could critique your approach, if you would like. We may have some suggestions that could help ease the introduction of Michelle into her life.
One thing, which I hope you or no one else would do, DO NOT let her walk in and find "the other woman" just THERE! The shock, trauma value can get you a trip to the ER!!!
Virginia
Posted: Mon Dec 21, 2009 3:06 pm
by DonnaT
Hi Michelle,
to the forum.
Hi Michelle
Posted: Mon Dec 21, 2009 4:28 pm
by MelodyPerkins
Do take care to do things gently.
I made the mistake of going the shock and awe approach. It's a harder road to travel.
Posted: Mon Dec 21, 2009 5:08 pm
by Carly
Michele,
Make sure you read the stcky posts on telling your wife. I wish I had that info 40 yrs ago.
Posted: Mon Dec 21, 2009 8:36 pm
by Carol Ann
Hi Michele and
I agree with my loving sister Virginia, as it is best to be up front and talk to her. As far as me my wife knew before going in to our marriage as my mother told her
Yep 46 years and counting and Carol dresses everyday.
Posted: Mon Dec 21, 2009 9:10 pm
by Virginia
Carol Ann, honey, your mother told us a lot of things that you don't know about and we would not dare post on this forum.
Love ya,
Virginia
PS: Sorry, I just could not resist!
Posted: Mon Dec 21, 2009 9:52 pm
by Patti D
Welcome to the Forum Michelle, Telling your spouse is one of the big steps you will take. Time and patience will be your strong set afterwards.Tread slowly, give her time to grasp what you are telling her. Her response may very from others that have crossed this point of their life. I do know that it is a good feeling to have her support. My wife and I enjoy the mix and have a lot of fun. stay in touch,
Posted: Wed Dec 23, 2009 2:53 pm
by Leeza
Welcome, Michelle, and good luck.
Leeza
Posted: Sat Dec 26, 2009 10:08 pm
by Bernice
Hi, Michelle, and welcome to the Forum!
I'll be less helpful than those here who've had to reveal their "gift" after the wedding. I've kept no secrets from my SO for 34 years now. The important thing is that being totally honest with your wife can be done, and that it does not have to kill the marriage. Usually, the marriage ends up stronger for it, though the journey may take years of sustained effort. As in love and in war, there are no guarantees.
Hugs,
Bernice
Posted: Mon Dec 28, 2009 1:58 pm
by Stephanie H
Welcome and please be an active participant in the discussions.