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Hello forum! I've been looking around and joining a forum seems interesting because I don't seem to find many individuals like me, and I would love to talk to others with a perspective. I am a genetic girl, I consider myself qenderqueer. The thing is I am highly attracted to cross-dressing men.

I recently became reunited with an old flame. He was the first male I ever saw in womens' clothing as a youth and it sparked something in me. Being with him again, he is very willing and excited to indulge my desire. However, I still feel very shy about it all...I feel it will stop me from really pushing this to where I want it.

Most stuff I find is about the SO finding out about the cross-dressing. In this case, the SO is the one demanding it!

So that's me in a nutshell right now...

I look forward to making friends here!

Your Rare! My Wife understands. It's hard to find partner who accept CD without lots of BS.

Welcome to the Board. Hopefully you can learn about us and help you and your SO.

Rare? Looks like it...

I would hope more wives would understand and share in it.

I am super excited, all I want to do is go out and buy him shoes and panties and dress him up. I am very scared that I will overwhelm him, kill his initial willingness to participate. I feel like my CD has to be tolerated even though I am not the one dressing up!

Or take him shopping when you shop. Lane Bryant forces you to buy 3 pair of panties. Buy matching sets. Get him some Women's Jeans. Ones that pass for men's. Don't go too fast is all. If money is a problem do the clothes at Thrift Store. Heck mens and women's are mixed up anyway there.

Keep us up to date! Sounds like lots of fun!

Hi Dolores, to the forum.

Hi, Dolores, and welcome. You may be rare, but you are welcome here.

I wish there were more GGs like you.

Leeza

Hi, Dolores, and welcome to the Forum!

- SL

Hi Dolores,

Welcome to the forum! I hope you have fun making new friends here. Your "plight," as a CD-loving GG, reminds me of an erstwhile member here, Kathy Bower. Don't know if she would ever have described herself as GenderQueer but the label would probably have fit; she very much liked (and had always liked) "boys in dresses." She was married to her feminized husband, "Amanda." Not sure what became of them, though, as we haven't heard from them in a good long while.

Anyway, again, welcome aboard.

Love,
CJ

Hi Delores,

Welcome, it is good to have a friend that is from the other aspect of our lives, so to speak. It is very nice to know you support and encourage your SO to keep up the CD and are supportive too. My wife does not and it makes it hard for me for several reasons right now.

If you ever need someone to help dress up and be a lady let me know I would indulge you! It refreshing to know that there are women like yourself out there and that gives me hope that others may change their ways.

Welcome to our forum!!

Hugs,

Erica

Hi Delores and a warm welcome,

How I ever missed this post I will never know but when I read it I had to show it to my wife and like you she was the same way. Now when we got married she already know I enjoyed CD'ing and when she met Carol for the first time it was like a light bulb went off in her head. Oh hon the tails I could tell you, we had and still have a wonderful marriage of 45 years and yes Carol Ann is around all the time.

Thank you ladies for the warm welcomes!

CJ, it is a good plight to have, no? Hopefully Kathy is very happy somewhere. Maybe someday she'll stop back in for me to meet.

Erica, thank you for the offer. Although, I'm sure you won't need much help from me to be pretty and lady-like, though.

Carol Ann, it's so sweet to me that you guys have been together for so long and have integrated your CD into your lives. I think it is a testament of how strong your relationship and communication must be overall. I think that is what any relationship can strive for.

I guess in my case, he likes the idea of CD'ing mostly because he knows it arouses me, so it in turn it arouses him. If I wasn't around he would not do it. However, I think he will learn to enjoy it. He naturally makes a beautiful feminine girl. We have just started to explore this...

Welcome Dolores

As they say everywhere else here, baby steps. Let him get used to the idea, and keep respect for his autonomy.

Zari

Hi Dolores

Welcome to the forum

I wish my wife were like you but alas she is not.

Take a look at the gallery here for some pictures of me and my sisters, I hope you like what you see.

Regards

It's really nice to hear from a girl who really likes crossdressing men. Ladies of your ilk are far too rare.! I just wish there were more like you.

How did you broach the subject of crossdressing to your old flame? How did he respond to it? Did he seem embarassed by the idea, at first, or did he take to it eagerly? Or, is HE the one who broached the subject?

Some here have advised that you take "baby steps" with him, and maybe that's good advice. From my own point of view, and maybe some others here, I would think that he would just love to dress up for you, and wear anything you gave hime to wear, and eagerly. I know I would have!

So, take "baby steps" if he seems too embaarassed, or hesitant. On the other hand, if he really likes feminine clothes, HE may overwhelm YOU!

Do you like for him to underdress (that is, wear panties, etc. under his regular male clothes) when you and he go out on a date, etc.? I'd love to hear more about you and your old flame, or for that matter, other guys who may have worn dresses for you.

Do you want him to wear dresses openly, in public, when you're with him? Or, do you prefer to keep it a private thing just between the two of you?

By the way... What do YOU like to wear when you're with your old flame?

Hi Delores,
Welcome to the forum. I'm sure you'll like our little corner of the web.