Crossdressers-Haven.com

Hi, I'm new here, but not new to crossdressing. I've been dressing most of my life, but I've never had much contact with any sort of community. Ironically, it was my soon-to-be ex who started me down this path in my adult life.

I don't want to bore anyone with ALL the gory details, so I'll just give you the short version. I dressed as a child. My wife is the person who encouraged me to dress as an adult, first for Halloween. We went to a restaurant Halloween party, where they were giving prizes for costumes. I looked so good the judges couldn't find me, and I was asked to parade in front of them. I was disqualified because they thought I was a professional female impersonator. I was both flattered and disappointed.

Then I tried going that route. I hung out in clubs, got to know a few drag performers, did shows for about a year. It was an educational experience, but it wasn't my thing. About a year later we got married, and thus began the binge/purge cycle, which mostly consisted of me purging every time my wife thought I wasn't being "a man" enough. Over time we grew apart, and my CD behavior wasn't as much of an issue as she sometimes makes it out to be.

I'm on my own for the first time in almost ten years. I live with a cat named Spot (not for the cat on TNG). Crossdressing's not my only thing, it's just the thing I have the most difficulty opening up about. People are pretty understanding if you're into historical recreation (Middle Ages and Ren), science fiction or model building, but finding out you like women's clothing is something else. I'm just trying to find/make my place in this world. I tried reaching out to a group I found online a couple of years ago. They sent me a membership application with a long questionaire attached. I didn't know the answers to any of their questions, so that dead-ended. I've known for as long as I've had access to the Net that there's a community out here, I've just never felt like I was a part of it. I'm hoping that changes.

Jaye

Hi Jaye,

It's great having you here!

Welcome to the forum!!!

I think you will get the support you need here. This is a GREAT group of loving and accepting people.

I'm sorry you're alone for the first time in 10 years, but I do give you MAJOR kudos for making sure you were happy with yourself. People underestimate how important that is, ya' know?

I thought your first post was outstanding and I hope to read more about you. Make sure you dig through archives, there are lots of good articles that you will related to and that could help.

Again, welcome!!

Beauty

Welcome to the forum

My husband and I are new here too. We have found support for both of us. It is good to have some one to talk to, and here there are plenty of people to talk to as well as listen to.

Nice to meet a cat lover, we have four.

Marie(SO)

here Jaye,

I hope you find this place all that you envision it to be.

Hi Jaye,

Welcome to the forum from someone with three cats (and two dogs!). They all are good company and they don't talk back!

welcome jaye,
so glad you decided to join us.there are lots of wonderful girls here
to lend a hand.
bunches of hugs,karen.

Hi Jaye,
You know Charlotte has one of the most active support groups in the South. You may want to contact them. I beleive they are at Tri-Ess.com then just look for locations and find Charlotte. Good lllluck and let us know it that works.
Love,
Deborah

Jaye,
Honey I am sorry I had to cut my welcome a bit - have control now.
Anyway, try this website:
http://www.geocities.com/nctgunity/nc_tg_support.htm
It lists 9 different groups all over N.C.
Charlotte is: Kappa Beta,Tri-Ess
P.O. Box 12101
Charlotte, N.C. 28220-2101
(704)-565-5034
infolady@kappabeta.org

Love,
Deborah

Hi Jaye,

to the Forum!

Hi Jaye,
     I join in saying to the forum! I agree with you that the average person will accept almost any personal interest in a neighbor or a coworker — baseball, wine-making, electric trains, or whatever.   The operative word here is almost. Frankly, “wearing women’s clothing” is one of the more harmless personal interests I can even imagine; unfortunately, we have yet to educate the general public about what we are and are not. But forums such as this one provide hope.

Jaye wrote: I've known for as long as I've had access to the Net that there's a community out here, I've just never felt like I was a part of it. I'm hoping that changes.
Jaye

Welcome Jaye, and sorry I didn't get round to saying that sooner.

It sounds like we have something in common, because I'm not much of a 'joiner' either. Having said that, I'm really glad I joined the rest of the folks here, and I hope you will come to feel the same.

Cheers,

Caroline.

Hi Jaye,

Glad you have joined this GREAT forum and ENJOY!!

This community understands and does not judge.

This community is like minded SO and CD welcoming and existing for each other.

this community has not judged me, They have allowed me to expand my horizons, get stuff off of my chest, and expose my trepidations to the light of acceptance causing them to wither beyond recognition.

I have found a kindred spirt manifesting it self in all good forms and talk. Aislin has developed to more than just a part of us, she has integrated without fear or reprisal. This then is the one place we have found acceptance without confinment, sharing of honest answers and questions, and a complete lack of prejudgement. (Almost said lack of judgement)

I Aislin am happy here. My voice speaks without censorship, beeing free and not limited by those around me. My sisters allow me to apeak my mind in a most un-PC way. I can rant at the world, show my fears and experiences without reprisal. I can in fact be me in a forum allowing that expression of same.

apologies Jaye I semm to have rambled. Remember you are not alone. You have firends and sisters who care. you can count me as one.

Aislin, life unscripted.

Jaye,

I think too, you will find this a great home!

Kersten