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Hello

Posted: Thu Mar 03, 2005 5:59 am
by Jean-P
Well I guess this is where I sign in..

Just a little about myself, I am 34 years old and i am in the beginning of discovery.. I just recently had my Trans switch turned on, and have no idea where to go or do?? I don't know even what I want. I am learning quickly that confusion is a big part of this.. All my life I was told "BE A MAN, NO CRYING!", I think I have cried about 50 times since I realized what was happening. Some of you have met my SO Sinjoy, and I have to say she has been extremely wonderful beyond my wildest dreams about the who thing ( "I LOVE YOU, THANK YOU!")... I would like to thank all of you that showed so much support for her, within seconds of her logging in.. And I hope that I can horn in on some of it as well. So at this point I will go have a look around the site...Thanks again.

Posted: Thu Mar 03, 2005 6:29 am
by Aeryn
Welcome aboard! You will find a lot of support here, I know I have since joining a few weeks ago.

Aeryn

Posted: Thu Mar 03, 2005 6:51 am
by Samantha Jane
Hi jean-p,

Welcome -wel- I was raised to think it was a mans world (late 50's) and how silly is that!!!!! Perhaps that's why I CD, it's my way of rebelling. :) :) :)

Crying, I think we've all done that at some stage, I know I have. I figure it's a good release from worry, confusion and tension.

I hope you find comfort and support as I undoubtedly have, from the wonderful girls and SO's here.

Charlotte xx

Posted: Thu Mar 03, 2005 7:35 am
by DonnaT
Welcome aboard Jean!

I found that once I accepted myself, my whole self, it became much easier to be who I am. Crying without shame became easier too.

-wel-

Posted: Thu Mar 03, 2005 8:03 am
by Kyra
Hi Jean, ..o)..

You and Sinjoy are on a road to discovery. Like all roads, it's going to be full of twists and turns and bumps. I expect you'll find it confusing at times...I think we all do. The good thing is that you've embraced it and are moving forward. I'm sure you'll find a level at which you can be comfortable. IMO the most important thing is to talk with your SO. Don't leave her in the dark about what you're feeling. Openness with her will help to lessen the confusion she is facing. Communication...first and foremost in any relationship. Just my thoughts :)

Welcome to the forum. -wel-

Hugs,
Kyra

No need to thank me

Posted: Thu Mar 03, 2005 8:46 am
by Sinjoy(SO)
Hey you!!


First of all... there is no need to thank me... I love you!!

Second of all I am SOOOOOOOOO proud of you!! I know how hard writing here must have been for you!!! I'm glad you finally came out from the shadows.

Third of all I love you!! (short term memory ) hehehe

I know, that together, we can handle anything... we always have we always will. And I know this is the right place for us to be supported, as well as support others.

Always remember that I love you, I'm IN love with you and that you and I are soul mates. That will never change, I love you, NOT the clothes you wear, or how you do your hair!!!!

Love ya,

Me

Posted: Thu Mar 03, 2005 11:24 am
by Mrs. Missy(SO)
Welcome Jean!

You took a good first step -- you joined this forum! It is so nice to have you and your wife together here!

By the looks of things, you both really seem to love each other. What a great way to start this new journey together. This forum helped my husband and I to get over quite a few bumpy spots in the road, but we have now reached the point where we can joke about his CDing and we really have a grand time with it. It has added a new and exciting dimension to our lives.

There are a lot of friendly and helpful folks around here, and you will gain a lot of insight from their thoughts.

Warmest wishes to you and Sinjoy,

Mrs. Missy(SO)

Posted: Thu Mar 03, 2005 11:32 am
by Anita
Hi Jean--
I don't know just how abrupt your trans switching was, but it can be very disorienting to suddenly discover that this needs to come out. That was my story, and it can be a hard road at first. You do have support, and that is a valuable thing, always. Hello to you, and...
Hi Sinjoy! You posted just above me. I'm glad to meet both of you. This is a fine Forum for working together with an SO.

Posted: Thu Mar 03, 2005 1:28 pm
by Virginia
Hi Jean,
First you are so fortunate to have an SO who is interested in supporting you!!!!
Second, just take your time. Don't rush into anything that you are not comfortable.
There are a lot of ladies here who have expertise in a wide variety of areas and are more than willing to share their knowledge with you.
Welcome and we hope you and Sinjoy enjoy your "Magical Mystery Tour."
Virginia

Posted: Thu Mar 03, 2005 1:54 pm
by Joanna_S
Hi Jean-p!

Sisters have spoken so I only say -wel- and =D> for having such an understanding and loving partner. Hugs to you, Sinjoy :)

|O|O|O|

Joanna

Posted: Thu Mar 03, 2005 9:25 pm
by Jean-P
And speaking of crying...I am a little overwhelmed.. Thank you all... I now have NO doubt that I found the right place I am still very uncertain of what is going on with my self, but it is sure nice to know that there are some great people here willing to help...

Thank you again...