Crossdressers-Haven.com

Salutations from SC. I am a CD with a wife and kids and am so happy to find a site where I can see and read what others are going through and see how they are copeing with the daily life. Dont get me wrong, my wife supports me and encourages me and she is my world, I just feel like we are on an island here and there is no one else around. So I just wanted to express my gratitude at the availability of such a wonderful site.

Thank you,
Thank you,
Thank you,

Van

van bagwell.. hia.. and may i be the first to to the forum..

Pauline

Thank you, yes it is a way to express your inner woman, Liberating to say the least.

Truly,
Van

Welcome to the Forum Van

Thank you Donna, its so nice to be recongnised by others.

Thank you ,
Van

Welcome to the site Van. Lots of pretty and helpful people helpful here. Join right in.

Love
Tristen

Welcome Van,

The people here, both the CDers and the SO's here are wonderful!

Let your wife know that we are here for her too.

Grab a coffee and jump on in!!

Sinjoy(so)

Hi Van! I´m glad you found us. I ´ve always felt like home here and for me this forum is some kind of haven where I can rest awhile reading , writing and chatting with friends. All the girls here have always been so nice to me


Joanna

Thank you all, it is so nice to be noticed, my wife was and is the first and only person who recognised me as a person. Before her I was in a relationship with another individual for almost 14 years and when we went out or to an event it was "Hi everybody, I am Gina and this is Van". Never was I refered to as the boyfriend or even as a Bo, I was crushed during the years and had given up hope and had resigned myself to "This is my life and I have to live with it". But, as it goes, I had my eyes opened by a friend and found a few things in my life that had been missing. First was the person who set me free, we hit it off immeadeatly, hmmm, we spent our first nite in the front of a Toyota Pick up just talking and learning what each of us liked. My EX (girlfriend) had wanted an open relationship and I had granted her this about 2 yrs before and had struggeled emotionally with it till I met Loy. We set in that truck and talked the whole nite. She respects me and I her and I had never been in anything like this, its sooooo fulfilling. As things go Gina was informed and blew a gasket because someone was actually intrested in me and even though you spend many years together and you do have feelings for the other person, the husk they have left behind becomes a flower and it starts to bloom anew and a decision has to be made.I saw that we were going no where and she was always out with a new Bo every other nite I just told her we needed to talk, a relationship, a real realtionship is not suppose to be the way we were. It took all of about two minutes and she was ready o split out the door. I was, to say the least suprised a little as she actually confessed that she had been seeing other people long before we went into an open relationship. She thought she would keep me and lead me along so she would have a place to stay. I actually felt dirty after she told me, I never thought someone could do that. I was kind being that I am a gentle person and gave her one month to GET OUT. When I told Loy about what Gina had done, she was mad as a hornet, Loy works in the local ER and was looking for her to come in for something. reveng at the hands of the local ER can be devistating, I told her that she should let it go and after some persuading she did.
As time goes by you notice things that you otherwise dont notice, I had always loved RHPS, THE ROCKY HORROR PICTURE SHOW and had been to see it over 40 times when I had heard it was going to be in town soon after our first child was born. So we went. During the show and audience participation Loy had noticed me really digging some of the outfits a few of the Ladies and FRANK was wearing. She asked if something was wrong and I said no at first but I was thinking "OH how beautiful these people look in their outfits". I couldnt get it out of my mind and the betterhalf could tell something was up. I finally told her I was having some odd tendencies and didnt know how to express what I was feeling. We went the next Friday to the show again and it was all I could do not to join in with the cast on the floor doing the stage show with the movie. Loy came out and asked if I liked John(OUR FRANK), I said well yes but not like you think, I like the way the outfits looked and was interested in what it was like to put them on and go out in front of so many people and share a part of yourself that noone has ever seen. Hmmm, Loy said "OK next week we wil go shopping and we will dress you up and see how you feel. I thought I would drop thru the floor when she said that, but from that point on I knew there would be no looking back. Monday that next week we wound up in the local Victorias Secret and a very very Posh Ladies Botique. The Ladies Botique acted like it was a normal thing for a man to come in and look for clothing that was for him, they said I wasnt the only one here.Victorias Secret was a little different but they finally turned out to be very helpful in finding pieces that fit me in all the right places without binding and pinching. It was a very different feeling and experience all together. The following friday evening we invited all our friends to the show and talk about being nervous I couldnt stop shaking but from that point on I have worn anything Fem and dont think twice about it. My wife Loy still supports me and yes we still goto the RHPS, even after these 3 yrs its been here, we have kept the show going since 2002 and we are still running strong as ever. Now I dress at home and have venturd out a few times into the public but never too far from home, and I now star as Magenta in the cast here in our town. I must say that the RHPS has shown me a side of life that I was wanting all along but I didnt know what it was I was wanting. Before I figured out what I was going thru I would look a ladies and see the clothes they were wearing and would wonder how it was to wear such clothes. I thought something was wrong with me, I thought it was wrong but as I got to know the cast and crew, the more I learned about myself and my lovely wife guided me out of dark and into the light and dressed me up and when the stage lights go on I scream out"GIVE ME AN RRRRRRRRRR!"

So when someone says its good to see ya here and we are glad to have ya I do apperciate it like you will never know, I am frrrreeeeeeee:P

I love you Loy,
I love you all,

Van

What can I say Van, but Wow. Heck of a start. Loved it.

Thank you for the welcomes all of you, after I said hi to everyone I thought I should give some insight of what I have dealt with. I guess I needed to get that off my chest and let others know how I got thru it myself, Loy was always there and has guided me all the way.
Once again, thank you all for the kind words.

Van

Wholy Van, what an fantastic story, and a amazing wife you have there, thank you for shareing

Van and to the forum

Great to see you here. Wonderful group of people to spend time with.

Rikki