Hello everyone,
My name is Sharon Rose. I'm a 30-something unmarried crossdresser from Northern Virginia. I'm been crossdressing since my teens, but it wasn't until six months ago that I started venturing out while en femme. I've had some interesting experiences shopping and dining out, and I've received a great deal of support from other members of the TG community, for which I am extremely grateful.
I like how this website is organized, and I look forward to participating in the discussions.
Sharon
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Hello From Sharon Rose
Your future is what you make of it, so make it a good one.
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GalicianGirl(SO)
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Hi Sharon Rose,
Welcome from one Sharon to another!
I'm really glad you found our little forum. We would defineately all love to hear about your interesting experiences. It's great that you found support from the TG community. Hopefully we can all be of some help also. It's alway good to find other places where you can feel comfortable.
Sharon(SO)
Welcome from one Sharon to another!
I'm really glad you found our little forum. We would defineately all love to hear about your interesting experiences. It's great that you found support from the TG community. Hopefully we can all be of some help also. It's alway good to find other places where you can feel comfortable.Sharon(SO)
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SharonRose
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How I started crossdressing
When I was 15 years old, I used to sneak into the attic. I had a female cousin who was a year younger than me, and a sister who is 4 years younger. My sister and I got hand me down clothes from my cousin and her older brother who was 3 years older than me. We used to store the clothes in our attic. I felt sort of left out, because there were tons more clothes for my sister from the female cousin, and only a few things for me from my male cousin.
Also, my dad was kind of an absent father figure. He worked alot, and didn't spend much quality time with me, and he used to make fun of some of my friends (who he thought were nerds), and berate me for not being better in sports.
I was much closer to my mother, and I guess on some level I identified more with the women in my family.
Anyway, I was bored one day, and I went up to the attic and tried on some of my cousins things. The pants were too tight in the waist, but some of the tops fit. I could not believe how excited it made me feel. When my sister got a little older I tried on a few of her things too, but I was very careful to put things back as I found them. No one ever noticed, or if they did, my mom and sister never said anything to me.
When I was in college I was home for summer break, and my mom and stepdad took my sister to look at colleges for a whole weekend. I tried on several of my mom's outfits, and put on some makeup and painted my nails. I stayed en femme for several hours and watched tv around the house like that. The feelings were incredible.
But, I didn't have a wardrobe of my own so when I was in college or graduate school I didn't have much opportunity. But the feelings were still there.
After graduate school I got a place of my own, and began ordering femme clothing and some makeup from catalogs. I bought a few things that didn't really fit well, or weren't the right color for me. I didn't dress that often during this time period, and when I did, I didn't wear the clothes for very long. It would feel good at first, but then I'd get ashamed and take them off after a brief time.
Then, in 1998 I got a computer and an internet connection. I began to explore the TG community online. I bookmarked dozens of websites, and read the bios of many TGs. I also began reading more about fashion and makeup tips on their websites. I ordered some additional things online which fit me better. I also discovered Ebay and began ordering things there, and made some additional purchases.
I crossdressed sporadically for several years. I never purged my stuff, but I kept it hidden in a suitcase in the back of my closet. When I was dating regularly I didn't feel the need to crossdress as often, or maybe I didn't have the opportunity either.
In the fall of 2002 I began a serious relationship which lasted until February of 2003. We were very close, and began discussing the possibility of marriage. There were still some issues which needed to be worked out. I wanted to tell her about my crossdressing, but I was ashamed of it, and had never told anyone about it. I dropped some vague hints, and she didn't respond well to those. Finally one day we were in her apartment, and she was showing me a new outfit which she had purchased, she had it laid across her bed. I was touching it, I couldn't help myself. She asked me if I wanted to try it on, and I (being honest) said yes. She freaked out, and questioned me some more, and I told her about my crossdressing. She was screaming and crying and asked me to leave. I left and spoke briefly with her the next day by telephone. She promised not to tell anyone locally, but she told her family and friends in the midwest.
I was extremely depressed and ashamed about this. I came out to a GG friend, who offered me some support. I also saw a therapist who helped me to overcome my feelings of shame, and live the life I wanted to live. I started going to TGEA meetings (the Transgendered Education Association) here in the Washington, D.C. area, where I met other CD/TG people. They were very supportive.
My family still has no idea, and I am very careful to hide my femme stuff whenever they visit me.
Since February 2003, I have sort of blossomed into a new person. My femme persona is much more developed. I go out regularly (3-4 times a month) shopping, to TGEA meetings, and occasionally with a GG friend en femme. I've shopped en femme at many stores, including Macys, Hechts, Dress Barn, Rack Room Shoes, DSW Shoe Warehouse, Marshalls, Ross, a local consignment shop, thrift stores, CVS, and now MAC cosmetics (see my post on that under the Out and About thread). I have also been to restaurants twice while en femme.
To those of you who are afraid to try some of these things, I say, go for it. You don't know what you are missing! You only get once chance at life, so my advice is to get out there and have some fun.
Sharon Rose
Also, my dad was kind of an absent father figure. He worked alot, and didn't spend much quality time with me, and he used to make fun of some of my friends (who he thought were nerds), and berate me for not being better in sports.
I was much closer to my mother, and I guess on some level I identified more with the women in my family.
Anyway, I was bored one day, and I went up to the attic and tried on some of my cousins things. The pants were too tight in the waist, but some of the tops fit. I could not believe how excited it made me feel. When my sister got a little older I tried on a few of her things too, but I was very careful to put things back as I found them. No one ever noticed, or if they did, my mom and sister never said anything to me.
When I was in college I was home for summer break, and my mom and stepdad took my sister to look at colleges for a whole weekend. I tried on several of my mom's outfits, and put on some makeup and painted my nails. I stayed en femme for several hours and watched tv around the house like that. The feelings were incredible.
But, I didn't have a wardrobe of my own so when I was in college or graduate school I didn't have much opportunity. But the feelings were still there.
After graduate school I got a place of my own, and began ordering femme clothing and some makeup from catalogs. I bought a few things that didn't really fit well, or weren't the right color for me. I didn't dress that often during this time period, and when I did, I didn't wear the clothes for very long. It would feel good at first, but then I'd get ashamed and take them off after a brief time.
Then, in 1998 I got a computer and an internet connection. I began to explore the TG community online. I bookmarked dozens of websites, and read the bios of many TGs. I also began reading more about fashion and makeup tips on their websites. I ordered some additional things online which fit me better. I also discovered Ebay and began ordering things there, and made some additional purchases.
I crossdressed sporadically for several years. I never purged my stuff, but I kept it hidden in a suitcase in the back of my closet. When I was dating regularly I didn't feel the need to crossdress as often, or maybe I didn't have the opportunity either.
In the fall of 2002 I began a serious relationship which lasted until February of 2003. We were very close, and began discussing the possibility of marriage. There were still some issues which needed to be worked out. I wanted to tell her about my crossdressing, but I was ashamed of it, and had never told anyone about it. I dropped some vague hints, and she didn't respond well to those. Finally one day we were in her apartment, and she was showing me a new outfit which she had purchased, she had it laid across her bed. I was touching it, I couldn't help myself. She asked me if I wanted to try it on, and I (being honest) said yes. She freaked out, and questioned me some more, and I told her about my crossdressing. She was screaming and crying and asked me to leave. I left and spoke briefly with her the next day by telephone. She promised not to tell anyone locally, but she told her family and friends in the midwest.
I was extremely depressed and ashamed about this. I came out to a GG friend, who offered me some support. I also saw a therapist who helped me to overcome my feelings of shame, and live the life I wanted to live. I started going to TGEA meetings (the Transgendered Education Association) here in the Washington, D.C. area, where I met other CD/TG people. They were very supportive.
My family still has no idea, and I am very careful to hide my femme stuff whenever they visit me.
Since February 2003, I have sort of blossomed into a new person. My femme persona is much more developed. I go out regularly (3-4 times a month) shopping, to TGEA meetings, and occasionally with a GG friend en femme. I've shopped en femme at many stores, including Macys, Hechts, Dress Barn, Rack Room Shoes, DSW Shoe Warehouse, Marshalls, Ross, a local consignment shop, thrift stores, CVS, and now MAC cosmetics (see my post on that under the Out and About thread). I have also been to restaurants twice while en femme.
To those of you who are afraid to try some of these things, I say, go for it. You don't know what you are missing! You only get once chance at life, so my advice is to get out there and have some fun.
Sharon Rose
Your future is what you make of it, so make it a good one.
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Beauty
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Hi Sharon,
Wow. We're in the same support group and I didn't know all of that.
What a great story!!!
I'm sorry your relationship of a year didn't work out, but I think it was for the best. Now you aren't married to someone who can't accept part of you.
The best part about you going out is that you are so petite.
lol!
SharonRose doesn't draw attention to herself and you'd never know she's not a GG because she looks, dresses and carries herself in a very soft and eloquent way.
Thanks again for more details!!
Beauty
Wow. We're in the same support group and I didn't know all of that.
What a great story!!!
I'm sorry your relationship of a year didn't work out, but I think it was for the best. Now you aren't married to someone who can't accept part of you.
The best part about you going out is that you are so petite.
lol!SharonRose doesn't draw attention to herself and you'd never know she's not a GG because she looks, dresses and carries herself in a very soft and eloquent way.
Thanks again for more details!!
Beauty
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CJ
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Hi Sharon Rose,
(If you don't mind, I'll call you by both names to distinguish you from our esteemed SO.
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I agree with Beauty. Yours is a wonderful story of self-discovery. It's unfortunate that you've found it difficult to find acceptance from your former GF as well as your parents. It's good, however, that you've found support in the groups you go to.
I read what many of you girls write concerning support groups such as TGEA, Tri-Ess, and others, and find myself a little jealous; I've inquired and, to the best of my knowledge, there aren't any such groups here in Montreal.
Our SRS clinic is pretty well known in North America, so there are transsexual support groups, but they're not for crossdressers. There is a local online TV/CD community but it remains strictly online. Too bad. Then again, I do ask myself, would I really join such a group? I don't know. :|
Anyway, thanks for your little bio, Sharon. I hope we'll here more from you.
Love,
CJ
(If you don't mind, I'll call you by both names to distinguish you from our esteemed SO.
)I agree with Beauty. Yours is a wonderful story of self-discovery. It's unfortunate that you've found it difficult to find acceptance from your former GF as well as your parents. It's good, however, that you've found support in the groups you go to.
I read what many of you girls write concerning support groups such as TGEA, Tri-Ess, and others, and find myself a little jealous; I've inquired and, to the best of my knowledge, there aren't any such groups here in Montreal.
Our SRS clinic is pretty well known in North America, so there are transsexual support groups, but they're not for crossdressers. There is a local online TV/CD community but it remains strictly online. Too bad. Then again, I do ask myself, would I really join such a group? I don't know. :| Anyway, thanks for your little bio, Sharon. I hope we'll here more from you.
Love,
CJ
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SharonRose
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Thanks
Thanks Beauty and CJ for your thoughtful comments.
CJ, have you ever heard of the Canadian Angels? They are affiliated with the UK Angels.
Here is their Yahoo Group, which does not appear very active.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/theangels-eh/
Also, this Toronto Support group has discussed outings to Montreal:
http://www.xpressions.org/
Hugs,
Sharon Rose
CJ, have you ever heard of the Canadian Angels? They are affiliated with the UK Angels.
Here is their Yahoo Group, which does not appear very active.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/theangels-eh/
Also, this Toronto Support group has discussed outings to Montreal:
http://www.xpressions.org/
Hugs,
Sharon Rose
Your future is what you make of it, so make it a good one.
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Wendy Seymone
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Hi Sharon Rose,
This is such a massive forum there is just not enough time for me to be as active as I would like to be sweetie. I really just wanted to send a personal greeting to each and every girl that makes it so special. I am looking forward to being able to chat more with you girls.
Hugs,
Wendy
This is such a massive forum there is just not enough time for me to be as active as I would like to be sweetie. I really just wanted to send a personal greeting to each and every girl that makes it so special. I am looking forward to being able to chat more with you girls.
Hugs,
Wendy
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Beauty
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Hi Wendy,
Great point (sometimes getting behind).
What we'd like for users to do, since there are hundreds of users, is to create a post telling everyone hello in the New Members area like CJ and Claire did.
Here are there examples:
http://crossdressers-haven.com/forums/v ... php?t=1467
http://crossdressers-haven.com/forums/v ... php?t=1474
This will save you hours. I hope this helps everyone.
Take care!
Beauty
Great point (sometimes getting behind).
What we'd like for users to do, since there are hundreds of users, is to create a post telling everyone hello in the New Members area like CJ and Claire did.
Here are there examples:
http://crossdressers-haven.com/forums/v ... php?t=1467
http://crossdressers-haven.com/forums/v ... php?t=1474
This will save you hours.
I hope this helps everyone. Take care!
Beauty