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Hi! My name is Roxanne. I am a SO of a CD and we've been a couple for just over a year . We were friends for 10 years before that. He's always had a special place in my heart. He's kind, sweet, patient, caring, honest, funny, he makes me happy not only because I'm with him but he cares enought to make it a point to make me feel good about myself. I've learned so much in our time together. What more coud one ask for? Basically, I truly believe that he is the love of my life and I've told him so.

I knew, he was a CD before we got into a relationship together. I remember when he told me for the first time. We were with a third party and, I thought how great! that someone can be honest about who they are and let the world know it (I've never been able to do it in my own life -I admired him for it and our friendship was great). The problem is that somehow when the person that I was when I was his friend became the person who was his SO, I reacted differently to certain gestures /manurisms and somehow I have supressed his CDing desires (though my admiration and acceptance is still).

Now my relationship is on the rocks and I don't know how to repair it. I have so many questions for both SOs and CDs - I'm just not sure how to go about it all on the forum.

I've spent the past hour trying to get up the courage to join this forum, I've never been on a forum before, nor have I ever really been honest or thruthfully sought advice from people I didn't already know.

I believe this is a good first step. Here's to new beginnings!

Hello, Roxanne - - and a huge welcome to the Forum, we're glad you've decided to join us.

We're looking forward to your participation!

- SL

Hi, Roxanne. Two strong themes you'll find here (in and among all the wonderfully friendly and helpful members ) are a) baby steps and b) communication, communication, communication. In your situation, baby steps by your partner might not be such a necessity. But open and honest communication between partners is always important.

Take the time to read some of the forums. Find a few topics that interest you, and follow them through all the messages. There's so much helpful and wise advice here, it's impossible NOT to find the advice you need.

Finally, WELCOME. (I probably should have said this first.)

Hi Roxanne

A big, big to the forum from a fellow Canadian. I'm glad you found the courage to join us here. If our Administrator SilverLady hasn't done so already, she can give you access to our 'SO's only' section of the forum where you can chat in private to other SO's. Just ask.

With a bit of luck and lots of encouragement, I hope you can find a solution to some of those problems. You certainly have many kind folks here willing to help you get there. Good luck.

Stephanie

Hi Roxanne,
Welcome to the forum.These are the kindest people I have ever been associated with.There is so much help and support here.I hope all works out for you.

Hi Roxanne,

Welcome to our Island in the Stream! You had the courage to join and to tell us some very important aspects of your relationship, now I can hope that you can have the courage to stay and participate.

All I will say at this time is something a lot of SO's will confirm, you could do a lot worse than developing a relationship with a crossdresser.

Hope to see you around the campfire!

Virginia

Hello and welcome along Roxanne, best wishes as well.

Hi Roxanne, to your first forum.

I reckon one place to start is to tell us why your relationship is on the rocks.

Hi Roxanne

A big warm Welcome to the Forum......You will find lost of support form a great bunch of people....Feel to talk freely to them and I am sure you will find the answers you seek.....Join us in the chat room....

Again a Great Big Welcome...

Lori

A Great Big Welcome To You!!!

Hi, I"M Ann Stef. Late for the intro, I have been using the forum for advice as well as passing along info to those who asked. I find the group friendly

Welcome! I'm sure you'll be glad you found this forum, because these really are the warmest, most caring people you could hope to come to for support. Any questions you might have will be treated respectfully and while I doubt you'll find anyone who can give you "the answer" you'll certainly find a lot of insight to help you find your own answers.

So ... dive right in and ask away!

(I'm sorry you're having a tough time right now. It sounds like your partner is important to you, and coming here shows you're looking to learn more about how to open up. That's a great first step, but don't forget to share what you're thinking and feeling along the way. He needs to know you're trying.)

Hi Roxanne and welcome.

I hope you will find this place helpful. You will find a great many opinions here. Take what you like and leave the rest.

As Virginia says there is a real continuum here. Some of the folks are true trans sexuals while others are very definitely nothing more than heterosexual men with unusual tastes in clothing.

It's not surprising that your feelings changed about dressing when your relationship changed. You may find what some of the other SOs have to say about their feelings about their husband dressing as opposed to anyone else's dressing to be illuminating.

Absaroka

Hi Roxanne and a warm to this spectacular, spectacular, spectacular place..

Whatever your questional needs we will do our best to answer it/them in the most honest and open way, we are from all stages, countries and walks of life.

Pauline

Hi Roxanne,

I can't tell you how much this forum has helped me. I found just by being honest I could get some terrific advice and support.

I hope you find the same results. We are here to help listen, support and when asked, give advice.

Welcome to the forum.