Paulette wrote:
This small group. These so-called TERFs (trans exclusionary radical feminists) seem to be "radical" only in their desire to exclude from feminism's umbrella anyone not born a woman. I don't see that they have anything else to say that hasn't been said by other feminists before them. That doesn't make them radical.
That is interesting that you point that out, Paulette, that their position is not really radical. They could be called reactionary feminists, as they are bucking the tide here.
I think that acceptance of trans women by feminists in general has a long way to go. This is just opinion / speculation on my part, but I think that the fears that the TERFs are voicing are concerns that many women still have about trans women. The difference is that a majority of feminists are trying to rise above those fears, and not be ruled by them. I applaud that, and I recognize that it's not easy to do. I can support equal housing and racial quotas, for instance, but that doesn't stop me from tensing up when I see three black teenagers in front of the liquor store. Ideally I want the best for everyone, but my gut doesn't always go along with my ideals.
Which leads me to my next point: I may get angry and upset about this, but I can't will another person to stop seeing a trans woman as a man. Or more to the point, to stop them from
reacting to a trans woman as though she were a man. As a fair-minded person, a woman may accept the idea of trans women wanting to be recognized as women. But if her gender radar still picks up male cues, she may have a hard time being around trans women. I have had my own bad experiences with men, and I was physically able to fight back against them when I needed to do so. If I had not been able to do this, it's easy to imagine the anger and fear I might feel around them. The point is: If I see you as a man, and I've had bad experiences with men, then I'm not going to be very open to listening about how
you see yourself. I'm going to protect myself against the threat.
Believe me, I deal with this issue every day. My girlfriend is legally a woman; her driver's license, medical records, and social security all say she is. There are friends and family that either can't or won't accept her as a woman, and it creates lots of problems.
We can't ignore the fact that there's a segment of our own "sisters" that don't accept certain kinds of trans women. A portion of women who have had surgery refuse to recognize any woman who has not had surgery. They consider these women to be "men."
Paulette wrote:
This is the same tactic used by unscrupulous political groups: identify a small but identifiable number of people as the enemy, insist they are trying to take away or infringe on rights that don't belong to them, drum up as much fear and hatred as possible by vilifying this group (trans-women and CDs) and insist on attributing motives to them that they may in fact not have.
It is disheartening that some TS women use these same tactics on non-op women, while they in turn are shunned by the TERFs.