Self-Righteous Nags/Critics

[Merinda]

I should add,

For me < I get frustrated and angry when people nagg me in relation to an issue that I have non or little control over.

I used to get :

When are you going to get a girl?
When are you going to put on some weight?
When are you going to wear decent cloths?
When are you going to get a job ?

Answers

No girl will have me, even though I've approached many
I eat plenty
I cant wear anything without someone knocking my cloths.
when employers stop rejecting me at the interview and give me a chance.

1999 your hairs too long
2003 your hairs too short
2004 I give up !

[Lorna]

Yes Lorna ,

you shouldn't be treated like a little child that wont brush her teeth.

One approach would be to have selective deafness when someone starts up on you .
when someone says " when you gonna give up them smokes" ?
You reply , " think the coffee table would look better in this corner ".

Keep this up and the person nagging you will get frustrated and give up.

I like that a lot. And over the phone it can be even more dramatic! I can throw in a long pause and change the subject.

[Merinda]

Being a small person in male-mode is a lot of fun if you enjoy taking crap from the community , for me my limits were exceeded many years ago.
If I had a verbal argument with someone , I was sometimes threatened physically and I'm not built to fight so I have to back off.
When working in a shop , any irate customer would single me out to make their heated complaint even if the salesman who caused the problem was standing nearby.
Its called taking the path of less resistance , take your temper out on the small guy because he is an easier target.
I was many times blamed for things I didn't do , why?, because I was the smallest amongst all the others . .

The only up side of being small is being Merinda , being a girl is the only time I feel good in my size and fitting into those small outfits.
I respect the fact that my family dont want to be embarrased by my crossdressing , however if I was single I would front the world as Merinda and to hell with what the community think .

I dont care what the community think of me crossdressing because I cant win in male-mode either.

[Amelie-Laveau]

Merinda I sort of know how you feel. When I was young I was overweight and the target of many. This led me to be shy and timid, which at times shows up today. I was told the same things, the hair, the job, the clothes, and when are you going to grow up. If it was only my parents it wouldn't be so bad, it was everyone I met. My parents weren't that bad, we got along. Strangers would even tell me things I should do, One guy who worked with me said you better change the way you look, cause if you go to jail they'll mess you up. WOW! great advise, why don't I just avoid jail, the moron. That is probably why I became a Punk-Goth that way I was telling people to piss-off right from the start. As time went on you learn to ignore what people say, the words just sail over your head. So keep in there Merinda don't let them get to you or you'll go crazy. The idea is to make them go crazy.

Love Amelie

[Lorna]

That's great, girls!!

I guess I should thank all of these self-righteous anal retentive people in my life for who I am today.

Without them pissing me off, I would not have had the nerve to turn around and piss THEM off by totally letting go of my inhibitions and saying "To heck with what YOU think!" Hence the quirky, self-expressive gal you see before you today! I guess I have always been a rebel at heart.

[Amelie-Laveau]

YEA!! Lorna!!


Rebel, Rebel You've got your mother in a whirl
She's not sure if your a boy or a girl


Love Amelie

[Merinda]

Thanks girls ,

Lorna-
You show them girl , try this if they give you any trouble.

Amelie-
I've had a similar remark made to me about how I would be a sexual target if I ever went to jail ( hopefully I will never get the chance to find out)

[Marda]

Dear Lorna
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You get crap because you attract crap ... it's one of those cosmic theories of the universe ... parallel with "money attracts money" ... "poverty attracts poverty" ...

Ok ... so you've told us "You ain't gonna take crap from nobody" !!!

But *HAVE YOU TOLD THE UNIVERSE* ???
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Love / Marda

[Lorna]

You get crap because you attract crap ...

Ouch.

[Beauty]

I don't think she meant it that way, but I got to hug you anyway.

Beauty

[Lorna]

I don't think she meant it that way, but I got to hug you anyway.

Beauty

Thanks, hon...

[Marda]

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Tnx Beauty !!!
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Oopsie Lorna ???
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I don't think you *willingly* or *naturally* "attract" crap ... as in *being* or *making yourself* "unappealing" ...

In terms of *cosmic* rules it's like an *energy force* thing ...

Like the Universe has a certain amount of crap to distribute ... and for whatever reason, either you never *let the universe know*, or it never took you seriously, that your doorstep was *not the place for Universal crap* ... (there's another part that suggests the Universe is *testing* you !!!) ...

I say this because ... *I'm working this same stuff out everyday *these very days* ...

I can't for the life of me figure out why with the equivalent of a Phd, a Masters, and an Honours Bachelor in 3 different fields I can't get an interview for a $10 / hr gig ...

meanwhile an illiterate 16 yrold GGirl with fake ID can earn $2000 / wk peeling her panties off for drunks and degenerates ...

For some strange reason *I'm attracting crap* ???

One of these days I'll break through ... in Napolean Hill type words I'll "Tell the Universe" *What I demand of it* in return for passing by and making my contribution* !!!
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That was a *stroke* under your cute little chinney_chin_chin I gave you ... *not* a punch in the nose :-))
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Love / Marda

[Lorna]

Hi Marda, thanks for clarifying.