Congratulations on maintaining a forum that is frequented by intellegent people, sharing mature, intelligent opinions on a somewhat difficult topic! When I first faced up to my CD'ing a while back - with the full support of my wife - I looked around for information.
I was not impressed, to say the least, until I came across this forum. it is only one I belong to!
You and the other Moderators CD and So are doing a great job! You should feel a geat deal of pride in this site.....
One of the girls said it for me, 'if it ain't broke, don't fix it"!.
Thanks again, and lot's of hugs and kisses for you. The work you are doing on behalf of us all IS appreciated!
Lynne
Why are so many unhappy with the forum?
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Kersten Lee
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Hi All,
I have not had the time nor the need to be here 15 hours a week for sometime now. I'm not mad and yes I miss my friends very much! It is a responsibility for me to provide and must work, (way too many hours of late). I have been more proactive in being a good husband to my wife, recognizing and understanding my failures of the past.
I had been in therapy for a year and a half when I found this place last year Febuary. My therapist recommended I find people like me to relate to, to be more able to know myself. Shannon and Sharon made all this possible for us and me. The thing is none of us are perfect. It is a good goal but unattainable in this life. Sharon and Shannon only showed us they are human from the last spat.
I pretty much agree with Kyra, Jamie Ann, Violet and Beauty in their serious look at this forum. I partially agree with Elizabeth. I am a liberal and always want to error on the side of free communication. I did not know the SO section got hidden. For me I could not disagree more. The wives in the SO section provided for me as much support as Cross-dressers. In no order and please forgive if I cannot remember all who have helped me so much with acceptance of myself and in understanding my wife's feelings. Jasmine, Love, Curly, Kay, Sharon, Marie, Leftyrainbow, Honey and others have talked to me and helped me so much to understand things from the other side. I read the SO section and responded by PM to those to whom I had advice or was asking for help. Every person responded and I had great conversations and sharing. Again I am sorry as there are more who have helped me so much.
CJ, Beauty, Jamie Ann, Kyra, Virginia, Darlene, Alexandra, Anita, Carolyn, Gabi Romano, Rikkiof LA, Danielle La Belle, Marda, Tea-cake and others, (again I am so sorry for those that I omitted), in my beginnings here, saved my life and my soul. I was ready to give up and die. I don't remember anyone telling me to stop whinning, kill myself already, or this or that person has it much worse. Everyone hung with me through about a year of ups and downs and depressions and highs. All of you have been the only family to me, as I had never had a real caring and loving family.
All talked to me about anything which I was bothered or had questions. Childhood abuse issues, religion and spiritual issues, political issues, questions as to our origins, problems in my marriage, problems at work, problems with self esteem, discussions addressing things that happened in my therapy sessions, make-up, breast forms, undergarments, music, movies, television, legal rights, wigs, wife, bedroom and cross-dressing, war, education, shopping, friends, transgenderism, which bathroom to use, hormones, all were open to discussion.
We are a family and a community! The fault I have seen growing is more and more are offended easily by opinions and subject matter. The first solution of late is to hide or to restrict discussion for fear that someone will get upset and or be offended. Some are so entrenched in a belief that open discussion at times has become impossible. Two entrenched individuals start wars.
At some point whatever we may be or how we love to dress, none of us have or know every truth about life or each other.
I believe all of us could have a little more humility and a little less pride. Each one of us will die at some point. Some will be gone and others will live again, each to his own belief. I don't absolutely know what will happen to me. I do know that battles will not count for much either way. The friends that I love and those who love me will decide the value of my life.
All that said, coming here is always coming home to me. There is no other place or family that gives so openly of your hearts as all here!
More Love,
Hugs,
Kersten Lee
I have not had the time nor the need to be here 15 hours a week for sometime now. I'm not mad and yes I miss my friends very much! It is a responsibility for me to provide and must work, (way too many hours of late). I have been more proactive in being a good husband to my wife, recognizing and understanding my failures of the past.
I had been in therapy for a year and a half when I found this place last year Febuary. My therapist recommended I find people like me to relate to, to be more able to know myself. Shannon and Sharon made all this possible for us and me. The thing is none of us are perfect. It is a good goal but unattainable in this life. Sharon and Shannon only showed us they are human from the last spat.
I pretty much agree with Kyra, Jamie Ann, Violet and Beauty in their serious look at this forum. I partially agree with Elizabeth. I am a liberal and always want to error on the side of free communication. I did not know the SO section got hidden. For me I could not disagree more. The wives in the SO section provided for me as much support as Cross-dressers. In no order and please forgive if I cannot remember all who have helped me so much with acceptance of myself and in understanding my wife's feelings. Jasmine, Love, Curly, Kay, Sharon, Marie, Leftyrainbow, Honey and others have talked to me and helped me so much to understand things from the other side. I read the SO section and responded by PM to those to whom I had advice or was asking for help. Every person responded and I had great conversations and sharing. Again I am sorry as there are more who have helped me so much.
CJ, Beauty, Jamie Ann, Kyra, Virginia, Darlene, Alexandra, Anita, Carolyn, Gabi Romano, Rikkiof LA, Danielle La Belle, Marda, Tea-cake and others, (again I am so sorry for those that I omitted), in my beginnings here, saved my life and my soul. I was ready to give up and die. I don't remember anyone telling me to stop whinning, kill myself already, or this or that person has it much worse. Everyone hung with me through about a year of ups and downs and depressions and highs. All of you have been the only family to me, as I had never had a real caring and loving family.
All talked to me about anything which I was bothered or had questions. Childhood abuse issues, religion and spiritual issues, political issues, questions as to our origins, problems in my marriage, problems at work, problems with self esteem, discussions addressing things that happened in my therapy sessions, make-up, breast forms, undergarments, music, movies, television, legal rights, wigs, wife, bedroom and cross-dressing, war, education, shopping, friends, transgenderism, which bathroom to use, hormones, all were open to discussion.
We are a family and a community! The fault I have seen growing is more and more are offended easily by opinions and subject matter. The first solution of late is to hide or to restrict discussion for fear that someone will get upset and or be offended. Some are so entrenched in a belief that open discussion at times has become impossible. Two entrenched individuals start wars.
At some point whatever we may be or how we love to dress, none of us have or know every truth about life or each other.
I believe all of us could have a little more humility and a little less pride. Each one of us will die at some point. Some will be gone and others will live again, each to his own belief. I don't absolutely know what will happen to me. I do know that battles will not count for much either way. The friends that I love and those who love me will decide the value of my life.
All that said, coming here is always coming home to me. There is no other place or family that gives so openly of your hearts as all here!
More Love,
Hugs,
Kersten Lee
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Tristen Cox
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Sorry to bring this back up to the top. Firstly, what's wrong? Not a thing that I can see. As some of you know I'm a moderator at another CD forum, and it's sure nice to take a break for awhile 
I don't see alot of the issues over here that are on the other site. And I think you girls are doing a great job of keeping things intelligent and clean here. So I may not be able to stop in too much but when I do it's a refreshing getaway. Keep up the good work.
*hugs*
Tristen
I don't see alot of the issues over here that are on the other site. And I think you girls are doing a great job of keeping things intelligent and clean here. So I may not be able to stop in too much but when I do it's a refreshing getaway. Keep up the good work.*hugs*
Tristen
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Rikki
- Miss Golden Goddess
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Same here
I agree with Sallee and Geri that this is the BEST cd-forum around. I have gained so much insight from the experiences of others here. And as I make my way through life with this aspect of who I am, it helps to listen to others on that same road.
The thread from the girls who found out about their dad was indeed an eye openner for me. Took a couple steps back that day as I too have 2 daughters. My youngest has a feeling about my passion for fashion but it would still be shocking for her to confim it and that thread told it like it might/could be here.
Keep up good work here,
Rikki
The thread from the girls who found out about their dad was indeed an eye openner for me. Took a couple steps back that day as I too have 2 daughters. My youngest has a feeling about my passion for fashion but it would still be shocking for her to confim it and that thread told it like it might/could be here.
Keep up good work here,
Rikki
Be safe, Be frilled
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Yasky(SO)
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I am relatively new to this forum, but from everything I've seen and responses I've received, I think this place is just GREAT!! I had belonged to another forum for SOs but found it extremely negative and totally UNhelpful. Responses to my queries about how to go about dealing with my CDing hubby were mostly "buck up and accept it". Those responses only sent me deeper into my spiral of uncertainties and discontent. I have to tell you, this forum is so totally different - I've found MUCH help and support and NO negativity whatsoever.
So...all that said, all I can say to Beauty, Sharon, and Shannon: Thank you; Thank you; Thank you!!!
So...all that said, all I can say to Beauty, Sharon, and Shannon: Thank you; Thank you; Thank you!!!
Yasky(SO)
To the world you might be one person, but to one person you just might be the world
To the world you might be one person, but to one person you just might be the world