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Hi Girls:

I have been writing on this forum for some time now. I enjoy the banter, the whimsy if you will of others input and demonstrated concern for the forum represented here. We all seem to have a good time for the most part. I try not to take myself or others too seriously. Those that know me well know that I am a firm believer in the concept of “100 years and your gone.” You can struggle with yourself for that time or you can accept yourself and benefit from the duality of the situation. You can use your social talents to benefit others around you, close to you or not. It really is a pretty good opportunity to set aside the “me, myself and I” attitude and do things for others. After all, 100 years and your gone! What do you want to be remembered for?

There are those that live with total disregard for others. The total disregard for any possible afterlife. It is just, “me, myself and I,” till’ the end. That maybe okay for you but not me. I want to contribute to those around me. I want to provide a viewpoint that may not always be welcome, but has value. I just turned 60 years of age and please, no applause, it is not a pretty sight, ha ha LOL.! I honestly know that my age has a great deal to do with my attitude. Experience! Social observation! Experience!

I now understand the folly of not hiring older people. We completely over look their contributions, their extensive knowledge base for that of a young person that is more willing to just do what it is that you want them to do without question or thought. But heavens, lately I have observed these younger managers in a variety of disciplines, sorely lacking in communications skills and social understanding. You see it everyday all around you. The social graces have been completely discarded. If you are on the highway riding a small socially responsible motor bike, you have a target on your back, “kick me, hit me,” with your truck’s over-extended side view mirror. You can collect points or cash rebates they seem to think by the virtue of their actions.

I wrote that my spouse had been fired by an overly zealous manager in her medical business (fortune 500 company). With my input and writing to the company CEO, she has her job back with benefits and back pay. She also now has a new and better job that overseas those that would fire her. In addition, the woman that fired her has been now fired! It took time, but things do catch up with you sooner or later. People are not completely blind as I told my spouse when first beginning the efforts to correct for the wrongful firing. Right will prevail in the end!

Make a choice today to contribute to the growth, education and betterment of the immediate society around you. It really will make a difference.

Hugs

Danielle Marie

HI Danielle,

Glad to see you back, hopefully not just briefly.

I am also glad that your wife got her job returned to her, maybe there is justice in the world somewhere! I know from whence she comes as I was, for lack of a better term, politically assassinated some ten years ago from a job I had had for 25 years. They say the best revenge is continuing to live as if nothing happened. Well for me it actually has gotten better!!!

Look forward to your participation back in our sorority!

Love ya,

Virginia

Hi Virginia:

Thank You!!!

It has been an up hill battle for some time now. I could sit down and write on the forum but I did not think that I had the right words for anyone else. Embroiled in family matters can really take a great deal of efort beyond anything that I had in mind at the time.

My biggest personal problem came when my SIL had to move in with us. For the past 8 years, my computer business did well so that I could be home 1 or 2 days every week as Danielle. Suddenly, all that comes to a screeching halt. Industry takes a dive. New Vista etc makes things more network friendly. Dell and Gateway take a serious hit in the market and start to incorporate my work into theirs so to cover for their losses in market share and sales.

So, I am at home with the SIL everyday as her advisor, consultant, and personal analyst. It can get a little complicated when you throw in alcohol and hydrocodone or oxycodone along with muscle relaxers and the typical anti-depressants. Yikes! It amounts to a death spiral cocktail!

So, we are now on an upswing as she has decided that what she was doing was not such a good idea. Thinking that "drano" might really taste good compared to her present state was the highlight of the day. I knew that this would require serious intervention and the right timing. I was lucky to have the experience and educational training to get her back on the right path. No one can fix such things, just the person that is doing them. She has made a decision to stop the alcohol for now and the pills (she took them for the back surgery in the beginning).

We are now in a "good zone," for now.

BTW, the job. Yes, I am sure that others have had similar circumstances in their life. With the spouse, the company is still trying to put things back, "the undelete key" is needed. No one spends the money to have an "un-fire" program in place. Everything in HR is designed to halp you make a clean exit, not a clean return. So the spouse is beginning to see just how complicated everything was to get this done. It took me 91 days of negotiations from the top down.

I indeed was very fortunate in this particular negotiation. I employed my previous contracting experience and the U.S. Army manual on "advanced negotiations techniques," to help me with the corporate world. Being honest of course also helped a great deal!

Thank you for your concern...

Hugs

Danielle Maire

Hi Danielle,
Its good to hear from you again.It sounds like you have been busy,I hope things settle down a little for you now.Your wisdom here is always appreciated and taken to heart.You are one of the people who made me realize that life is short.I have come a long way in my growth since joining the forum.Thank you and thanks to everyone here.