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We are all supposed to stay hunkered sown and keep our distance from others for at least another month. I am curious how all of you are coping and what changes it has made to your lives?

Being retired obviously I do not have to worry about losing a job and as there is still snow on the ground not a lot to do but I admit to looking forward to being out in the yard but that one can still social distance, I admit I was looking forward to gold beginning around the 1st of May but now that remains to be seen. Not that I am a social butterfly I do look forward to have lunch with friends generally weekly but obviously those have not been happening recently.

It really hasn't changed my life that much right now but should it go forward much longer I can see it having some effects which I am not looking forward to but I will cope.

How about the rest of you out there? How are all of you doing in this new reality?

I'm also retired so I don't have to worry about a job. I only really know a half dozen people or so here I don't get out much. Now it's only going out for groceries or to the doctors. I used to play cards with some elder ladies on Thursdays at an assisted living center but that's not happening. My wife and I have to amuse ourselves. We live alone and don't really see many people here. I guess we'll miss what we had but we'll have to persevere. It's still going to be a long couple of months. It's going be hard on everyone. I hope everyone makes it through the coming months.

With the three projects I had before this, one has died, one has gone into suspended animation and I've gone really hard on the third. That sort of intensification has also been happening in my relationship with my brother and sister. Like we're talking on the phone and I seem to be making myself more open.

I used to have the rolling (BBC) TV news on in the background for part of the day. But that's too relentlessly depressing and I've cut it out.

Wife and myself are working from home now on our third week and at least through April. Got a couple of new monitors and shuffled others to have a similar setup to work. We mostly stay home and go to grocery store as needed. I did go into the office one morning to pickup some stuff and quick stop on way home to picked up some things at Target. We have done a few take out food options for some variety. Many of the food places doing takeout, delivery and curbside. Sunday we did take out and went and sat in the car by the river watching people fishing. Would that be dinner and a show?? Movie theater is offering take out popcorn and other treats for a couple of hours. So we got the 13 gallon bag option. Think we are set for a while on popcorn. I am still going to church, but it is pastor and myself doing the live stream for an empty church with pictures taped on the pews.

kimberlys

Evening ,

The basic for myself is okay having no music or dancing to go to and one reinactment group is all on hold as this is the first week in lock down , though I still go for food items not really any different from my normal shopping I would do every two weeks any way as we don't have a bank here I have to travel 25 miles to get to one ether Oamaru or Timaru and really if I don't go next week wont make any different detail I can get on quite well for a month or two, I planed well ahead for such as this ,

and I,m working at home doing jobs that I have again lots of things to do, so I don't just sit on my rear and do nothing,

And of cause my friend next door for a cupper , and check she is okay as does have a few health issue,s , I have a land line and this computer for keeping in touch with our daughter and grandkids and of cause friends, unless of cause down the road or the shopping and a natter with friends .

We have and is not correct 700 go down with the V just most came from over sea,s and some are return.es so in fact we may have about 200 maybe 400 caught it from them, the other point of issue is we should have stopped all flights in to NZ 6 weeks ago the mistake we made was not quick enough,...pity....

Even so as this stage with our population at just over 4 million people having 700 go down is not too bad and one died and not just because of the V there were other health issue,s.

OH...… and OUR Prime Minister is one LOVELY NEAT WOMAN and is doing the BEST she can do,
so never let it be said other wise, She is Lovely...….. and Australia wont her over the ditch ,

...noeleena...

It is funny this subject came up because I was just thinking about that this morning. The first obvious change is I am now working from home like many seeing clients via Skype. But there is more.

The other night I went into the office to download some files to accommodate the new procedure. We had all discussed it via a video conference and made arrangements so each of us was alone. I guess it started with noticing how empty the roads were at 5:00 PM. No rush hour traffic, no long waits at lights, just a very few cars As I pulled in I noticed how empty the visitor lots were at the hospital and how full the employee ones were. I took a canister of wipes and wiping down the door handle and computer keyboard.

After leaving I swung by Shack Shake for a milkshake and to take a couple home. It was about 6:30 by then and I was able to pull right up and order at the drive thru. No lines of people picking up dinner on their way home and obviously the inside was closed.

While those changes seem important and are I got to thinking how I was starting to miss things. The actual interface with people. Those silly conversations you have in the check out line at the grocery store. The chit chat at lunch at the office. Even drawing the short straw at work and having to run out for the carry out order for lunch.

I also see the stress it is placing on my stepdaughter who is 6 now. She can at least go outside and play but she misses her friends, her school, the kids at daycare. Chuck and I have sat down with her and tried to explain all of this to her and the whys she cannot just go a couple of doors down to her friend's place. IMO we did a good job at it but it is a very difficult concept for a 6 year old to wrap their mind around.

I am fortunate in having my husband and step daughter here so I have some human contact on a daily basis but I have to think of all those who live alone and what are they doing. I hope when all this is done we all take time to uncouple form social media and chats and the like and go back to actually seeing friends and family face to face rather than just texting them. My fear is it will just make that the everyday norm and the world will become more disconnected.

Being a homebody anyway, and retired, I just work around the house (a little); and go out for essentials. Not much difference, really.

Only drawback is not being able see the grandkids or my mother in the hospital again. She was out for a couple of weeks then fell and broke her femur.

Obviously the biggest change is working from home. Although I miss the chatter at the office I could grow used to this as it allows me more time to express my femme side and wear clothes I haven't in a long time.

I admit that this period of "social distancing" and self isolating is starting to get me, I do really miss human contact. I miss getting out with friends for a drink or shopping. I miss sitting around the lunchroom at work and the widely varied conversations that take place there, I miss the little get togethers after services on Sunday. I even miss those silly conversations that take place in check out lines. I have friends tell me they are starting to feel the same and I believe we are not the only ones.

Like Donna and a few others above, my life and schedule hasn't really changed at all, work-wise. For the last 35 years I've had my office in my basement with connection to the outside world through copper and coax. Only leaving for brief travel projects until those clients died in the recession of 2008. Now I have just a couple more local customers who I physically interact with only occasionally.

But my being frilled up has come to a halt. Now with wifey home full time and Zoom calls almost all day my opportunities to be femmed up are all but gone. I know, Davita, just "tell her the news!" Ain't gonna happen. I can deal.

Though I've been more or less a hermit type for many years, I am beginning to miss an occasional cocktail with friends or neighbors. Since we're all in the vulnerable age category we've been religious in maintaining our distance. But once it warms a bit a lawn party spread way apart might be in order.

Hope you're all safe and well. Practice safe distancing everyone, I don't want to lose any of you fine friends here. All the best,

Rikki

One can only watch reruns of WKRP in Cincinnati and Taxi so many times so this afternoon decided to rearrange and clean out my dresser drawers. Came across these strange looking torture devices with straps and wires and hooks. I think them call them bras! Someone even told women wear them! What we go through to be beautiful!

Deidre Taylor wrote:Came across these strange looking torture devices with straps and wires and hooks.

The other day my SO mentioned he hadn't seen me wear a skirt or a dress in weeks. I joked that would mean he would expect me to shave my legs. He laughed yes that would be nice and maybe even put a "real" bra on. Not that I have stopped wearing bras but when it is just a day at home him and me I admit it has been more often an easy fitting soft cup or a bralette.

It was nice the next day so I did put on a dress for him even wore heels. I went as far as to pull on some Spanx. Yes I wore a "real" bra, one of what had been until recently my everyday bras which are underwire. No it was not that uncomfortable but the next day it was back to jeans and an easy fitting top with a bralette.

I think back to my working days and how I never thought twice about pulling on pantyhose and slipping into an underwire bra every morning. Not that when I retired I quit wearing bras but I can see how if some have been lazy about it will be in for a shock to the system when they need to start again especially the bustier ones.