MISSING

Post by **DonnaT** » Tue Dec 21, 2004 1:50 pm

I wish when members are going to leave the group (this family), or take a hiatus, they would leave a note like Eloise did.

Anybody heard from Virginia lately?

Also, let someone you think you can trust on this forum know how to reach you or a family member should you "disappear"

I've told several people here my identity, and would hope they would check on me if they thought something had happened.

Plus my wife would hopefully sign in and inform everyone, she did join the group, but hasn't posted.

Just a thought.

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Tue Dec 21, 2004 2:37 pm

Donna ,

For the regular posting members its the polite thing to do

Even if your computer goes down you can use a public library or an internet cafe to let others know your status.

If someone has issues with other members and decides to leave I would suggest PMing CJ , Beauty or Sharon if they dont want to make a public announcement.

If you want break , go on holiday , get bored with the forum or whatever its polite to let eveyone know so they dont think something untoward has happened to you

Terri(SO) · Post by **Terri(SO)** » Tue Dec 21, 2004 2:39 pm

Thanks, DonnaT for saying this.
Its true that this is one of the "dangers" of developing friendships in this kind of "anonymous" environment. People go off and may be perfectly fine, living out there in the "real" world happy as clams and some of us can only wonder and worry a little.

Eloise Goth · Post by **Eloise Goth** » Tue Dec 21, 2004 2:48 pm

I too worry when girls vanish from our midsts...my maternal intincts, no doubt.

Jadeanne · Post by **Jadeanne** » Tue Dec 21, 2004 7:07 pm

Hi all,

There have been a few times I have gone on vacations (mostly visiting and staying with relatives/friends) for more than a couple of days and I have PM'd or emailed a moderator/administrator.

My wife is the only one who knows of Jadeanne and we plan to keep it that way for now. I prefer not to take chances on a relative's computer.

This is just my view.

Jadeanne

Anita · Post by **Anita** » Tue Dec 21, 2004 9:14 pm

Hi Donna--
It is a good idea to do this, and who knows? Maybe it will become a standard part of net behavior in the near future.

I was wondering about Julie M the other day. It's been since mid-November for any of her posts. I think Virginia has been more recent than that, but I can't leave this box to check on it. Computer's funny that way some nights.
A

Kristen · Post by **Kristen** » Tue Dec 21, 2004 10:15 pm

Donna, The last post i could find from Virginia was on dec 7th, I have also been concerned about Lorna and Sophie too. I emailed Sophie No answer yet. I will be leaving for a week,I may post from Minnesota, i know I have been a lot less consistent in posting but I do read alot of posts.

Anita ,Did Juile M buy that bar, if she did she's really busy???? But you would think she would brag a bit to us.

.....Merry Christmas to all......Kristen

Carolynn · Post by **Carolynn** » Tue Dec 21, 2004 11:00 pm

Hi all!!!!

I have been in contact with Lorna in the past couple of weeks. She seems pretty much ok, but apparently is no longer comfortable on the forum. I am not sure why, and it is up to her to contact someone if she wishes to discuss it. Julie M is moderating another forum that includes a transsexual page, which is likely a pretty time consuming activity. She seems fine and is proceeding on her course of transition.

Carolynn

Anita · Post by **Anita** » Tue Dec 21, 2004 11:21 pm

Got the notification for Caroline's post, and discovered mine never got here.

I looked up Virginia's last post--Dec. 13th, a little more than a week. Not so unusual, at holiday time.

I thought that Julie M was probably wrapped up with a more transsexual-focused site, and that's what it is. I'd like to hear from her.

I wonder about Kyra. I sent a "where are you?" email several months ago, and never heard anything. She pulled her album from the gallery quite some time ago.

Alexandra · Post by **Alexandra** » Tue Dec 21, 2004 11:25 pm

I think anita is on to something . . . still, the net being what it is has a downside . . . a member's serious illness, an accident, even death are things that may never be known to other members of any given forum, unless a family member or close friend are savvy enough to make the special effort needed to go to a forum they've never been to an make an announcement.

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Tue Dec 21, 2004 11:34 pm

Well folks,

Here I are again swimming against the crowd. A place I have become quite comfortable with these past few years. There are times when one will reach a place where they just need some space to sort things out, and this may come upon them gradually, they may find themselves into it before they realize what has happened.

I have noticed a drop in posts from some of the long time regulars as of late. They don't really owe us anything, and I do not wish to imply that they do. If they choose to disappear that is their right. Welcome to cyber world.

I communicate privately with some of those who no longer post regularly. In short My extended family is being enlarged as a result of my participation on this board. So it all looks pretty good from my perspective.

Holiday Blessings wished for all of you.
Darlene.

Post by **DonnaT** » Tue Dec 21, 2004 11:34 pm

I've seen Lorna post on other sites. Suggested she return here but she didn't respond to me. She's still working, last I heard.

Sophie has been on another site as well, and posted here a couple of times not long past. She finally did manage to go out of the house dressed.

Julie is doing well, started back to work. The bar idea doesn't look like it will be getting off the ground, at least not in Chicago.

Jadeanne, does your wife know of this site?

PMed Virginia on the 10th, last date that I know she was here. Sent another on the 19th, but no response.

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 1:51 am

Hi there,

I like to come and go whenever personally. It's one of the great things about the web.

I didn't ever consider it a courtesy, but to be honest I never thought about anyone really caring that much.

:soapbox:
Anonymity allows us the ability to appear and disappear. I've always been the kind of person that thinks no news is good news.

I realize people can get worried and stuff now though. I'll think about changing my notifications, but I do know if anything ever happened my wife would most likely come here and tell everyone.

I guess I posted because I like others to have the ability to just go and not feel a need to explain. I also guess that's because I like to be able to do that too.

Beauty

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 3:07 am

As I recall Lorna DID notify us that she was leaving the forum , after some problems with family members.

So ! , Sophie went out dressed , I hope she returns to tell us all about it

Jadeanne · Post by **Jadeanne** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 10:13 pm

Hi all,

My wife is loving and supporting, lets me borrow all of her clothes, goes shopping with me and helps me with check sizes and advises. She knows of this forum, but chooses not to participate on line.

I emailed Julie with holiday greetings and she replied on Sunday.

I visited Sophie's website and it looks to me like she is really putting some time and effort in it - lots of pictures and accounts of her milestones, including her going out during the day and including pictures

Jadeanne