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Sorry girls that I have not been here more for you. It has been a rather rocky year or two or three so time is always at a premium it seems. I wll try to improve my contact time in the near future. Things here still need my immediate attention for the most part.


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Danielle Marie
Founding Member...
Hey, that's ME...... weeeeeee....!

I want to thank the Academy for this wonderful award. Thanks Mom and Dad! All my loyal fans, mmmm-muawa... one for you too!!!

I am going to need a larger bonnet!

Someday, I would like to sit down with you and tell you about my recent adventure in Orlando and that contacting you had been discussed, but, well, "rocky" does not quite describe my adventure in the Sunshine State.
Keep the faith, Danielle and I always look forward to your insight.
Love you,
Virginia

Hi Virginia:

Do email me at your leisure. You can get me direct at

swans@mpinet.com

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Danielle Marie

Welcome back Danielle..from another Sunshine State gal
We do what we have to, rocky times here also, but it all works out in the end. And time is one thing you can't buy, so use it wisely. Btw..you forgot to mention that you're gonna work for world peace..think thats required in an acceptance speech.
DeeDee

Hi DeeDee:

The currency of life is time. Rich or poor, everyone gets 24 hours every day to do with as they see fit. Absolutely no doubt about the time. But, and that can be a big but (no not yours dear), not everyone is prepared to accept the responsibility of freedom to do as they see fit. So we get a job and have someone else tell us what to do. Provide us with rules and procedures. It is easier to follow than to lead.

Leaders have an internal flashlight that they use to see in the dark (future). Sometimes they just see shadows of things to come or could be. Other times, leaders have a firm grasp on what it is they are about and what it is they want to do.

I had been a follower all of my life. One day, I woke up and said, "I too can be a leader if only I had someone that would follow me to both define my leadership and give it recognition. This too came to pass and one day I woke up and said, "I think I will just step down from this role of leader and take a rest."

Those that followed me as leader, stopped, waited for me to move and eventually, they found that time was their currency in life and they would have to spend it wisely on their own. I have found that the right answer is the answer that you arrive at, at the time of the moment.

Time is all we have. Everything else is just the monkey on our back, sleeping in our napsack. When you get to the end, the top of the mountain, all you will need is self-identification. Everything else will stay behind.

Ooops! And yes, World Peace!

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Danielle Marie

Danielle,
If time is the currency, then why would one mismanage their value by following someone? There are "leaders" and "followers", of that I will agree. But, there is also another classification that seems to never get it's due, "independents". Those who follow their own path in life. Those that have no time to waste on fruitless endevors. Those that have no need of others to;

"both define my leadership and give it recognition"

. From my readings here in this forum, it would seem there are more independences here than the other two classifications. I would say that I am not the only person here that sings to a different tune; plays to a different drum. Maybe, I've just been in the woods too long and need to get out and socialize with others occasionly. Problem is, I don't always play well with others.
With warm wishes,
Rose

Hi Rose Darn:

I am not sure that I can adequately explain my previous message.

Time is measured by physical means, while value, is something that we intrinsically assign as we see fit.

ie. A ring's total value in content to manufacture plus labor and all related aspects might be $20.00. While we "value" the ring at $1500.00 in the retail market. That would be "what the market will bear" pricing or value.

Some where in the scheme of things are the "independent" people. Those that go it alone. But then, are they alone? Living in the woods, hunting for food etc, they most likely use something that was made by another. It is rare indeed that anyone can be truly independent of anyone else. The knife that you own was most likely made by someone else. The rifle no doubt is manufactured. I have had people tell me of their independence only to be dismayed when someone comes along using "critical thinking" principles and finds that their independence is only in their mind.

Self-reliance is a wonderful thing. But, most likely, it is fleeting. We all use computer components made by another. The list can go on. So while we may beat our drum and sound different, we sound more often like the teenager that professes his independence while accepting everything that supports his exisitence from his immediate family, food, clothing, shelter, education.

You can live in the woods as I do, but, sooner or later, you come out into the world to barter or trade for your very existence in time, money or something of defined value.

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Danielle Marie

Hi Danielle,
Again, I have to agree with you, none of us in this world is what could be considered "self-reliant". As you say, someone else manufactured the tools we use, processed the food we eat, etc. Even a person living alone in this world needs to occasionally find companionship from someone else or we would go a little crazy in the head (such as where I find myself on occasion). But, I was refering to those who lead verse those who follow. And those who choose their own path in life with little or no regard to what others might think or say. To some degree, I find that most all of us here in this forum fall into this independent category. Not meaning that we as individuals don't want or need the company/approval of those we are closest to. We all seek our own level of participation in the society. I really was not questioning the monetary value of our possesions.
By the way, very nice ring. I looked at it on the website you addressed.
With warm wishes
Rose

Hi Rose Darn:

Rose, you scare me! You make me really think. Not just blurt out a few words and be done with it. You make me really think!

Perhaps your time in Alaska has been well spent. That is, perhaps it has been beneficial to your thinking process.

Independent people are more willing to take risks perhaps than others that are more reliant on external agenda and motivation. One thing that I have observed on the forum is that several people are musicians. They seem to relish their independence in the music business. Being "creative" seems to bring that out in some people.

Thank you for the kind remark on the ring. I posted a thread so that others could see it first hand. There are several web sites that offer extensive information about the formation of such a ring and stone arrangement. I have every confidence that it will wear well as it has done so far. I am really impressed with just how "white" the stones appear to be in the sun light. I have only seen close-up one "D" class Diamond when I was at a Jeweler's in Washington, D.C., and it was 2 carats behind a security case on display only.

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Danielle Marie

Good, then I have done my job. To make another think (and myself). You used a phrase that my wife and daughters like to use; "You scare me!" Haha, arn't you glad we are not neighbors. Maybe I'll go live next to Jeanne, or is that more than the east coast can handle.
Rose