Freedom Day

[Danielle La Belle]

Freedom Day

A rather catchy title if I say so myself…. and I do.

This article has two underlying issues. Each could stand alone by themselves. But, I have chosen to consolidate them so that you the reader can see there similarity.

I was cleaning up as usual around the house and once again took notice of several aspects of my spouse’s inherent predilection to just stuffing things into a drawer or leaving them lay about on the chair in front of the vanity. As well, she enjoys piling them on top of the clothes hamper rather than lifting the lid and putting them inside.

She prides herself on doing this she has told me. But, remembering the many trips to the childhood farm home of my spouse, I remember the same situation only amplified by the fact that there were 6 other children, 5 boys and one girl (the youngest), still living at home in that 900 sq.ft. house built on a table rock slab.

Mom was the culprit. She did not keep house as one might expect living at home on the farm. No she did not work in the fields. She had an outside job away from the home, part time. So, I got to thinking about all of her physical traits and how she did and did not do things from my point of view. That is very important…. My point of view.

I was born and raised in the city, in a rather large 3 story upstate New York styled home with full basement and attic. Frankly, my spouse and I could not have been more different if we had been raised on two different planets. That said, after years of observation and thinking, which I am not sure that I can even claim that as a talent, I realized that my spouse was “acting” like her mother. Oh my God!

Did she learn this first hand growing up? Or was this just in her DNA programming? How can I be an independent observer when suddenly, I became aware of the fact that I too was behaving according to my DNA. Yikes! No wonder social scientists have such a time with the study of human behavior.

Keep in mind that we all criticize at one time or another our spouse and even children I suppose. But it is important to understand that as I have watched very carefully the development and mental growing of my 3 grandchildren, I can see how they have been effected by their DNA and their environment. WOW!

So it should now come as no surprise that I am going to turn to you with my finger raised and pointing in your direction. Perhaps not very polite of me, but none the less, appropriate for this thread. Before you go and play the blame game with the spouse, children, family of relatives, perhaps we need to look at our own mental backyard. Our DNA and social experiences thus far in life.

How can I fairly criticize my spouse’s less than neat behavior when I am only comparing it to “my behavior,” as a point of reference. A very good question indeed Watson! This will require further thinking on my part.

The second entry here has to do with the various topics that are being posted right now on MSN front page. If you read just the titles in each box, you can quickly get a sense that there is something either terribly wrong with us or that someone has chosen to only find things that they can criticize us about, make us paranoid over, create an anxiety attack, or even a heart attack over any number of topics that someone has deemed important.

I have always told my spouse to never use anything from the television as a comparison tool in life. That it is for the most part, programming, predetermined programming. Not life as she often prefers to refer to it. “You can do that, you should be that way, etc.”

Now it is just my observation here that perhaps I “need to get a job.” Many are fond of saying that when someone begins to think too deeply or begins to question their life thus far. Warning! Thinking going on here. Advance at your own risk!

Perhaps if this is something that you can relate to, you as well should consider changing your current habits. We are getting too much information! Too much to think about. Too much to worry about. Too, too, too much information..... useless information!

A man of great experience and wisdom recently called me to thank me for fixing his computer. He told me he never knew about some of the wonderful things that I showed him how to do. The graphs and charts, the video etc. Then he began to chide me for this great information. He was in real estate sales and for the past thirty days or so, he was engrossed in his computer and did not sell any real estate! “It was so easy to just sit behind my desk in the comfort of my office and look at all this wonderful stuff.”

As the sun streams in my office window and I type this, I wonder about myself. I wonder about typing this information. Of what value is it? Am I not just contributing to the already mind boggling amount of statements, articles and word-games (BLOG) that have seemingly captured the nation! Perhaps! I would like to think that in some small way, I have raised the consciousness of my girlfriends on the forum.

Hugs

Danielle Marie

[DonnaT]

My wife's folks are collectors/gatherer. My Dad store stuff in the basement never to be used for anything practical.

My wife and I both carry on where our parents left off. Our son, well, don't get me started.

Must be in the genes.

[Danielle La Belle]

When we seek change, we almost always find it.

When we seek to find ourselves, we only need look in the mirror.

DNA is our safety net to avoid change.

The past is our historical crutch to place blame.

The "now" is what we face everyday. Do something different today and it will change your history.



Hugs

Danielle Marie