Give as you get!
Posted: Fri Aug 31, 2007 10:13 am
Hi Girls:
I enjoy reading a great deal. Rather than just fill my reading time with local news of the day that has already happened, I look for information that can better serve me and direct my life as I see it.
A book titled; University of Success, Og Mandino, Bantam Books, (1982), New York, ISBN 0-553-34535-4(pbk.).
This book is 525 pages, divided into 50 lessons (5 lessons in each of the 10 semesters); The “School of Hard Knocks.”
In one particular lesson I read recently again as usual, (it takes time for me to adopt these ideas into my life), the lesson reminded me of something very important. Lesson 22, “How to get people to help you succeed.”
My spouse was “ranting” about people not wanting to participate in a fund drive for the National Kidney Foundation. One of a ½ million non-profit organizations that are here in the USA, they provide assistance on matters of human kidney transplantation and dialysis for those that are on a waiting list to get a kidney.
I told her that not everyone has the same interests and that people like to give to a charity of their own choosing that they feel benefits them or someone they know and care about. Perfectly understandable I think, that we would do this that way.
My spouse kept at the idea that people just would not contribute even at the corporate level these days. That is when it hit me. Lesson 22!
Robert Conklin, author, teacher, nationally known speaker, and chairman of the board of two companies provides us with some serious insight into this concept.
“You can read all the books, take all the courses, spend thousands of hours pursuing the secrets of affecting the thoughts and behaviors of others, and you will discover it can all be compressed into one sentence.”
“To the degree you give others what they want, they will give you what you want!”
WOW!
“Until you learn this and apply it, people will work against you, they will resist you and do the things that you do not want them to do.”
After telling my spouse this she as usual was ready to stop at the “funny farm” and drop me off for evaluation. But, if you the reader think about it, this little bit of information can be applied as employee/employer or friend/family person. This “give and get (take)” approach has been around a long time. You give me what I want, and I in turn will do the same for you. Of course, there are going to be limits and restrictions. As an employee, you are on time, do a good job, make your deadlines; in return, you get a paycheck. Perhaps as with most people it is never enough. You need more. The employee always needs more and the employer always wants to know; “what are you going to do for me to get it.” And the employee always thinks that they are already giving more than they are getting.
Two points of view! There will always be two points of view!
There are many times when this concept can be applied so do not limit yourself to just what you have read here. Find other applicable situations that you can use this information with. The number is really unlimited for the most part. It is limited to your own creativity and the willingness to apply this idea. I found that out about myself over the years, so I often re-read such ideas to reinforce them into my proactive mode that I am now in. If I want something, really want it, what can I do for you to get it!
Hugs
Danielle Marie
I enjoy reading a great deal. Rather than just fill my reading time with local news of the day that has already happened, I look for information that can better serve me and direct my life as I see it.
A book titled; University of Success, Og Mandino, Bantam Books, (1982), New York, ISBN 0-553-34535-4(pbk.).
This book is 525 pages, divided into 50 lessons (5 lessons in each of the 10 semesters); The “School of Hard Knocks.”
In one particular lesson I read recently again as usual, (it takes time for me to adopt these ideas into my life), the lesson reminded me of something very important. Lesson 22, “How to get people to help you succeed.”
My spouse was “ranting” about people not wanting to participate in a fund drive for the National Kidney Foundation. One of a ½ million non-profit organizations that are here in the USA, they provide assistance on matters of human kidney transplantation and dialysis for those that are on a waiting list to get a kidney.
I told her that not everyone has the same interests and that people like to give to a charity of their own choosing that they feel benefits them or someone they know and care about. Perfectly understandable I think, that we would do this that way.
My spouse kept at the idea that people just would not contribute even at the corporate level these days. That is when it hit me. Lesson 22!
Robert Conklin, author, teacher, nationally known speaker, and chairman of the board of two companies provides us with some serious insight into this concept.
“You can read all the books, take all the courses, spend thousands of hours pursuing the secrets of affecting the thoughts and behaviors of others, and you will discover it can all be compressed into one sentence.”
“To the degree you give others what they want, they will give you what you want!”
WOW!
“Until you learn this and apply it, people will work against you, they will resist you and do the things that you do not want them to do.”
After telling my spouse this she as usual was ready to stop at the “funny farm” and drop me off for evaluation. But, if you the reader think about it, this little bit of information can be applied as employee/employer or friend/family person. This “give and get (take)” approach has been around a long time. You give me what I want, and I in turn will do the same for you. Of course, there are going to be limits and restrictions. As an employee, you are on time, do a good job, make your deadlines; in return, you get a paycheck. Perhaps as with most people it is never enough. You need more. The employee always needs more and the employer always wants to know; “what are you going to do for me to get it.” And the employee always thinks that they are already giving more than they are getting.
Two points of view! There will always be two points of view!
There are many times when this concept can be applied so do not limit yourself to just what you have read here. Find other applicable situations that you can use this information with. The number is really unlimited for the most part. It is limited to your own creativity and the willingness to apply this idea. I found that out about myself over the years, so I often re-read such ideas to reinforce them into my proactive mode that I am now in. If I want something, really want it, what can I do for you to get it!
Hugs
Danielle Marie