I usually respond to make a statement and/or to converse wth the other people.
I usually tell a similar situation and what I did and felt and my motives for having done so.
Giving away direct awnsers simply doesn't help anyone grow on the inside, so I let them draw their own conclusions. Besides, most of the time we're helping people with similar issues lurking on the boards who didn't want to expose their problems/questions to us, so no straight-up awnser will quite cut it for all of them.
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Stephanie W
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Cecelia
Nice opening thread! Firstly, welcome and thanks for the thought provoking question. Secondly, I'm glad to hear your holding pattern is beginning to thaw a little. Perhaps it could be categorized as more of a quiet 'rest stop' somewhere way off Broadway where you've been able to collect your thoughts and better deal with your grief away from that proverbial busy NY street. You'll know when the time is right to restart that engine again, so best of luck there.
To answer your question, my main reason for being here (aside from the great friendships) is simply to give back what others have given me. The help I received when I took my first wobbly steps out in heels remains priceless to me. I would have to agree with Donna and Kimberley in that for me, regardless of whether the OP responds or not, just knowing that someone other than the OP might also be helped, makes it worth the effort and is what keeps me coming back. Yes, occasionally the frustration of not being listened or responded to can be annoying, but I always believe it's better to give, and as CJ said, it does allow us the opportunity to maybe get something off our chest or clarify some of our own thoughts if they parallel those of the poster or we happen to share something in common.
Usually, depending on what's going on in my life away from this forum, I try to answer a question as fully as I can and then throw it into the pot, along with the other reposnses and hope what I've said might help move the person along in their life's journey. That advice would invariably be based upon my own personal experiences and what worked for me. I think just listening to what someone has to say is the best compliment you can give them, so occasionally a simple, "I understand what you're saying" can go a long way.
Stephanie
Nice opening thread! Firstly, welcome and thanks for the thought provoking question. Secondly, I'm glad to hear your holding pattern is beginning to thaw a little. Perhaps it could be categorized as more of a quiet 'rest stop' somewhere way off Broadway where you've been able to collect your thoughts and better deal with your grief away from that proverbial busy NY street. You'll know when the time is right to restart that engine again, so best of luck there.
To answer your question, my main reason for being here (aside from the great friendships) is simply to give back what others have given me. The help I received when I took my first wobbly steps out in heels remains priceless to me. I would have to agree with Donna and Kimberley in that for me, regardless of whether the OP responds or not, just knowing that someone other than the OP might also be helped, makes it worth the effort and is what keeps me coming back. Yes, occasionally the frustration of not being listened or responded to can be annoying, but I always believe it's better to give, and as CJ said, it does allow us the opportunity to maybe get something off our chest or clarify some of our own thoughts if they parallel those of the poster or we happen to share something in common.
Usually, depending on what's going on in my life away from this forum, I try to answer a question as fully as I can and then throw it into the pot, along with the other reposnses and hope what I've said might help move the person along in their life's journey. That advice would invariably be based upon my own personal experiences and what worked for me. I think just listening to what someone has to say is the best compliment you can give them, so occasionally a simple, "I understand what you're saying" can go a long way.
Stephanie