Are you the "other Woman"

Carol Ann · Post by **Carol Ann** » Mon Jan 10, 2011 7:05 am

Am I the other women?, good question I had to really think about it

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I guess in the long run I am as growing up I never liked being a boy or who I was.

My loving mother understood and done her best to help with this huge problem, so most of mylife I have lived as a girl and women and to this day still live almost full time.

All I can really say it's who I am and what I wanted in life, now like KimberlyS my wife tells me I am still me the person she married no matter the cloths I prefer to wear.

So am I the other women?, I guess so

Gillian · Post by **Gillian** » Mon Jan 10, 2011 11:11 am

I am not sure that narcissism is what would describe what I do. Living my life looking for acceptance has been a long and difficult task. It is hard to tell someone else that you like wearing the clothes of the opposite sex. If you can not find someone that will like you for who you are, then you invent something, or someone. This is a simplistic answer, but self love of narcissism seems more the opposite of someone who has been rejected for most of their life. Being so differnet from the average male tended to lead more toward a self loathing, or hate within me. I think that the turn around for me was when I realised that there were others out in the world just like me. The problem was, was this for real or some fictional mockery? Holywood's mockery of us has not helped. I have said in the past, that we all want to be loved, accepted and respected, and life seems to be spent looking for them. If through all of this an "other woman" got invented, it was for the above reasons. Wouldn't it be nice to find someone who loves, accepts, and respects you. I like to be understood for who I am, and to find anyone real is great, imagined if no one is found would work also. So, how many of us have less need of the "other woman" if we have someone that is loving, accepting, and respecting of us? Please don't label me, I am having enough trouble with the ones I already have.

Anthony Simon · Post by **Anthony Simon** » Mon Jan 10, 2011 3:12 pm

Gillian wrote:I am not sure that narcissism is what would describe what I do. Living my life looking for acceptance has been a long and difficult task. It is hard to tell someone else that you like wearing the clothes of the opposite sex. If you can not find someone that will like you for who you are, then you invent something, or someone. This is a simplistic answer, but self love of narcissism seems more the opposite of someone who has been rejected for most of their life. Being so differnet from the average male tended to lead more toward a self loathing, or hate within me. I think that the turn around for me was when I realised that there were others out in the world just like me. The problem was, was this for real or some fictional mockery? Holywood's mockery of us has not helped. I have said in the past, that we all want to be loved, accepted and respected, and life seems to be spent looking for them. If through all of this an "other woman" got invented, it was for the above reasons. Wouldn't it be nice to find someone who loves, accepts, and respects you. I like to be understood for who I am, and to find anyone real is great, imagined if no one is found would work also. So, how many of us have less need of the "other woman" if we have someone that is loving, accepting, and respecting of us? Please don't label me, I am having enough trouble with the ones I already have.

This rings a bell with me. My dressing up tends to come out of rejections of one form or another. My analyst described it as compensation and I take that as me awarding myself this woman as compensation for the rejection - a way of saying to myself "well I know I'm worth something. No matter what I'm getting from others, **** it, I know it."

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Tue Jan 11, 2011 8:48 am

I've often thought that my CDing increased at the time that it did for a number of reasons. Stuff like the internet and this forum helped me accept it. But I think one of the reasons was that it filled a void in my life that had newly appeared a couple of years earlier. On the other hand, at other void times in my life it didn't do what it did this time.