Yep, there does seem to be a general assumption that we all want to be sexually exploited by men, but then that is the image that is promoted and finds resonance with the web browsing public.
The main reason I am here (as opposed to any other fora) is simply that the salacious is not allowed. We can discuss these matters if we choose, and do it in a seemly manner, t it is not the raison d'etre
Your thoughts, girls?
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Paula G
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Re: Your thoughts, girls?
Paula
Just because you don't believe it, that doesn't mean it's not true
Just because you don't believe it, that doesn't mean it's not true
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Ginny Jones
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Re: Your thoughts, girls?
Fiona
There's a lot in your question - so here are some thoughts:
* In our headlong persuit of dressing / becoming women - how do we deal with the obvious issue of women largely being attracted to men. The more successful at passing we are, the more likely we will receive such attention. When we do, isn't there an obvious affirmation that we are getting it right - I mean who doesn't want to be attractive! There's a whole can of worms there that we have to sort out inside.
* Many people (men and women) associate vulnerability / passivity / gentility with women (though we'll all have a list of female friends that contradict this stereotype). In dressing it seems to me that this kind of comes with the territory. So for example, it is quite possible for some guy to respond to me in this way and miss the fact that I am 6 foot, fourteen stone and likely to brain him if he tries getting physical! How many times have you heard women describing being hounded by some idiot whilst out on a saturday night!
* Dressing is often an expression of ambivalent sexuality - hetrosexual, homosexual - these are broad churches - and the range of individuals that identify in this way is huge. Sexuality is clearly implicated in what we do! How we behave is a choice - but clearly sexuality plays a part.
* Finally, it occurs to me that some men see crossdressers as someone who is ready to break the boundaries (this is self evident) - this makes them attractive for devious reasons.
Juss my ten penneth!
Hugs Ginny xxx
I'm with the others regarding this site - for me it is a safe place to be who I am without getting into all the sexual stuff. If that's what I wanted - I'd go elsewhere.Fiona wrote: Given that almost all studies of cross dressers that have been carried out seem to find that the majority are heterosexual, are some of us girls seen as an easy target?
There's a lot in your question - so here are some thoughts:
* In our headlong persuit of dressing / becoming women - how do we deal with the obvious issue of women largely being attracted to men. The more successful at passing we are, the more likely we will receive such attention. When we do, isn't there an obvious affirmation that we are getting it right - I mean who doesn't want to be attractive! There's a whole can of worms there that we have to sort out inside.
* Many people (men and women) associate vulnerability / passivity / gentility with women (though we'll all have a list of female friends that contradict this stereotype). In dressing it seems to me that this kind of comes with the territory. So for example, it is quite possible for some guy to respond to me in this way and miss the fact that I am 6 foot, fourteen stone and likely to brain him if he tries getting physical! How many times have you heard women describing being hounded by some idiot whilst out on a saturday night!
* Dressing is often an expression of ambivalent sexuality - hetrosexual, homosexual - these are broad churches - and the range of individuals that identify in this way is huge. Sexuality is clearly implicated in what we do! How we behave is a choice - but clearly sexuality plays a part.
* Finally, it occurs to me that some men see crossdressers as someone who is ready to break the boundaries (this is self evident) - this makes them attractive for devious reasons.
Juss my ten penneth!
Hugs Ginny xxx