Who are you like?

[Diana Michelle]

Another thread here got me to thinking, yes I know dangerous concept!

When your femme side comes out do you see your mother in there? OK maybe not necessarily your mother. It it could be your sister, aunt, grandmother, or some other female relative. I am not necessarily talking physical appearance here though that could be part of it but also I am talking more of actions, traits, things you say, maybe even the your style of clothes.

Personally I see several of my female relatives. Yes my mother is there more in actions and most in the things I do with, for and how I interact with my grandchildren. The other prominent one I see is my aunt. There I see more her attitude and philosophies. Blame it on her I have the "This is me and how I am so deal with it" attitude.

[Anthony Simon]

I definitely see my mother in there (but you know that!). Moreover, at least one other person did. In my twenties, I used to socialise with my brother's first girlfriend and her family. Her sister once said to me she'd been trying to work out who I reminded her of - and it was my mother.

So that echoes my own view of the female part of myself - that it's got my mother's sensibility in there. There were also picture of me playing Titania when I was 9 - and I did think I looked like my mother in them. I'm pretty sure that's internalised (aka nurture).

On the other hand....My sister has a couple of times said I look like her - once when she wanted her neighbours to recognise me when I turned up at her house. And there's truth in that, in that my father and her and me have all had kind of related physiognomies (but I have a square jaw, unlike the other two) - and there's a kind of similar look (only my father had a moustache)....Genetics.

And just to be really confusing....The one person I really loved in my family was my aunt - and I do think I have a mind like hers (?Genetics).

[KimberlyS]

I have been told no matter which mode I am in, I am the same person with the same traits and actions. Yea I get some of my actions and traits from my mother and some from an aunt I worked for. Now when in comes to looks, in male mode I look like my brother but while enfemme I have been told I look like my sister.

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[Sarah Rene]

In a way I look like my mother but definitely my sister. Not that we are twins and she is 11 years older than me but there is a definite family resemblance.

My mother passed away when I was 8 so my memories are limited but I was raised by my sister and I definitely see things in her that I see in me. From the way she does certain things to things we both say. She has always had this habit of kind of twirling her hair when she is thinking and a while ago I was working on a crossword puzzle from the Sunday paper. I was deep in thought when my SO came in the room and said "What you thinking Rachel?" I looked at her and she laughed I was sitting there twirling my hair so I had to be deep in thought.

[Noeleena]

Hi,

I quess I was too independant from age 10 and knew what I was about hated to conform to any one in any way as for clothes hated them that of cause stems form what some stood for, as you,ll know ,

as to looks I,m my own person, was there any likeness to family members later in life I did see a little toward, s...… Ya....well a father......and unfortunately a trait I had and have to work with to stay sane .and closed down. other than that nothing I can see and from photos going back 80 odd years,

looking at your ? a lot deeper for myself in who am I like, I fearlessly had to disown traits that I knew had effected myself and shut that down so nothing could rear its ugly head, and that made me very dependant on just being my self. as I look back I see why I was like I was over the last few years some 30 at least I have just grown into my self for most part I,m happy and content in who I am .

An interesting side would have been what would I have been like had I been a boy, then later a young man I really dread the thought of that, knowing what I know about my self, and the traits that effected me just hate that thought,

what I had to live with was bad enough, a lot of emotions in what I,m trying to write about, very very hard. How I was able to keep it all intact and under control I,m just not even going to try and relate that , I,m not, so I did with out help and not from people, I,ll leave it there,


As a female woman I have grown into myself in ways I never thought could happen and changes with in my body because of my bodys makeup no out side meds or drugs just what was / is with in me, quite lovely as it has been .

Has as they say fashioned who I am. I never saw Oh I have to look like some one else or try and be like them or copy them I would stand well away from others and not be influenced in who they were, I,ll use... The driving force... behind me was pushing me along. i wont say I knew what it was just was WOW this is great.... comes down to was I that different really....yes , and I could live with it.

Who am I like, Hopefully no one is like who I am because the hell they would go though is not worth having to .I got through it all …...AND..... only Just,

Who am I ….Meet me.... and..... you,ll find out, you may even like me.

...noeleena...

[Davita]

When mom saw my pictures, she saw her mom. I dunno; I don't ever remembered mom's mom young enough to have the resemblance. As I was growing up, people that knew me and my older brother used to say I looked like him when he was my age.

As to who am I like? I can sense my mom in me but I also sense dad. I got my color sense from mom and my outwardness from my dad. I'm not sure which one gave me my crazy streak. Both were strong people and I have no fear either. I probably am more like mom than dad.

[Karen Ski]

Was never really close to my mother and about the only thing I see in me that she was is left handed as am I, gee thanks Mom! Unless you are left handed you have no idea of what I am saying here.

I do see a lot of my aunt in me, mom's sister, in action and attitudes. I always looked up to her and she was only 11 tears older than me so in a way we were close. Call it hero worship but it has served me well.

[Emily]

I am so much like my mom! I always have been, but now, it really shows. But my mother also possesses a strength that I don't have. Maybe it's from being a single mother of four, or maybe it's something that most women learn to develop, either way, I am working hard to find that same kind of strength within me.

My sister is confident, determined, career focused and always in style. As far as looks, well, I've been told more than once that I do look like my sister, and OMG... she is beautiful!! Sometimes I too can see the resemblance, but I have a hard time seeing myself as pretty or beautiful. I'm trying to be able to see past the surface and to see the beauty within, it's in there, I know it is!

In terms of looks, styles... it is very much a mixture of the old me (pre-transition), and the new me (heavily inspired by my ex-girlfriend now BFF). She is definitely has own style, but I am in the process of finding my own. One that works for me and one that I can call my own.

No, I don't think I'll ever be exactly like these amazing women, but I am so lucky to have them in my life as inspiration and as role models to look up to and aspire to be like. I am becoming my own woman, but I won't deny that every little bit of guidance helps!