Well girls I had an interesting experience this Saturday night at an alternative club in Melbourne.
A few of us went to a bar and on to the club at midnight. Both places were a lot of fun and the people at both were accepting and friendly.
Towards the end of the night we were thinking of leaving and I received an offfer from a man to see us safely to our car. This was of course very nice of him but I have to say it felt a little odd to be the vulnerable person needing to be protected by a man.
I might say that he was quite right to offer and I was not offended in any way but it was an odd feeling just the same.
Any similar experiences out there?
Love,
Jan
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Jan,
Yes, I have had similar experiences. I mean not that one exactly, but men holding doors for me and my 18 year old son volunteering to go with me when I go out at night, to the store or other such places, to ensure my safety.
Yes it is a strange feeling to feel vulnerable. Being s large man at 5' 11" and 220-275 lbs for most of my adult life, I have never given much concern to going out at night alone. Basically because no one has much interest in a 270 lbs man. However as crossdressers we become vulnerable to attacks from those who oppose our existance.
I have changed my mindset and am now used to this vulnerability, but it still feels weird/good at times also.
Love always,
Elizabeth
Yes, I have had similar experiences. I mean not that one exactly, but men holding doors for me and my 18 year old son volunteering to go with me when I go out at night, to the store or other such places, to ensure my safety.
Yes it is a strange feeling to feel vulnerable. Being s large man at 5' 11" and 220-275 lbs for most of my adult life, I have never given much concern to going out at night alone. Basically because no one has much interest in a 270 lbs man. However as crossdressers we become vulnerable to attacks from those who oppose our existance.
I have changed my mindset and am now used to this vulnerability, but it still feels weird/good at times also.
Love always,
Elizabeth
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Hi Jan,
Very interesting situation !
Lately, I've been exposed to a more overall aspect of a similar phenomenon typically referred to as "structural vulnerability"
- the concept generally refers to 'anyone who is alone and/or exposed and/or marginalized in mainstream society'
- in simple terms, ie. an 'invisible, apparently down & out street person' who faces extreme poverty and hunger with absolutely no help from anyone; their possible only contacts will be with others in much the same situation
- in some (many?) cases, by simple, passing observation, it will be assumed by onlookers that they are just 'lazy'; others will more "generously" consider them to be mentally ill incorrigibles
To my understanding, as CD's, we are "structurally vulnerable"
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Very interesting situation !
Lately, I've been exposed to a more overall aspect of a similar phenomenon typically referred to as "structural vulnerability"
- the concept generally refers to 'anyone who is alone and/or exposed and/or marginalized in mainstream society'
- in simple terms, ie. an 'invisible, apparently down & out street person' who faces extreme poverty and hunger with absolutely no help from anyone; their possible only contacts will be with others in much the same situation
- in some (many?) cases, by simple, passing observation, it will be assumed by onlookers that they are just 'lazy'; others will more "generously" consider them to be mentally ill incorrigibles
To my understanding, as CD's, we are "structurally vulnerable"
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h's / Marda
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Back in February I went to a particular club for the first time , I was with a great bunch of girls.
At the end of the night all the girls except myself dressed down before leaving , I was escorted back to my car by one of the CD's in male mode.
I will have to get myself a new escort because now this person also drives home dressed , isn't that right JAN!
At the end of the night all the girls except myself dressed down before leaving , I was escorted back to my car by one of the CD's in male mode.
I will have to get myself a new escort because now this person also drives home dressed , isn't that right JAN!
Merinda
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Guilty as charged
Oops this post of yours Merinda slipped by me.
For the girls unfamiliar with our activities Merinda is quite right. Not terribly gentlemanly of me to not escort a nice young lady such as M to her car!
But to give you the full story the first time I drove home in a dress (a two and a half hour trip) I didn't know I would not have the opportunity to change so I had to stop for fuel or I would have run out. What to do? I bit the bullet and put the fuel in and walked into the shop like I had been doing this all my life. The young man of Indian extraction was looking a little confused so I said in a reasonably deep voice " I've been to a party mate" He did the stereotypical huge eyed thing, I kid you not!
Have to say that turned out to be a highlight, one more experience down, fifty five million to go!
Love,
Jan
For the girls unfamiliar with our activities Merinda is quite right. Not terribly gentlemanly of me to not escort a nice young lady such as M to her car!
But to give you the full story the first time I drove home in a dress (a two and a half hour trip) I didn't know I would not have the opportunity to change so I had to stop for fuel or I would have run out. What to do? I bit the bullet and put the fuel in and walked into the shop like I had been doing this all my life. The young man of Indian extraction was looking a little confused so I said in a reasonably deep voice " I've been to a party mate" He did the stereotypical huge eyed thing, I kid you not!
Have to say that turned out to be a highlight, one more experience down, fifty five million to go!
Love,
Jan