Hmm.. something to consider - thats for sure!
I don't really see it as attention grabbing as you all describe - the place I'm going to is in a very large city and its the busiest mall in the city.
I figured I would blend in ,since i've seen all kinds of ages, colours, outfits, at this place. Plus, its outside of my home city.
Now you've really got me thinking - but I don't really have the money to keep buying all different kinds of outfits !
I've already attempted an outing before in a small town, and just went store to store - I have no idea what people thought and generally I didn't feel threatened.
The city I am going to is very diverse and now I'm not going to be totally dis-illusioned and say there are no prejudices towards anyone who would stick out in a crowd - but in the city I live in - a crossdresser would be seen with more contempt,scorn and being "pointed out" than in the City I'm going to venture out to.
And, for the record - I'm wearing flats (I would kill myself in heels - escalator or not!) - Also considering Jeans or Lululemon pants (if you don't know what those are , think Yoga pants) or a skirt.
I really want to feel feminine and I really believe the outfit I've chosen reflects the girl I want to be.
I kind of want the attention but at the same time I am a bit frightened - especially by the strong responses - what to do....
Worried about going out for the first time.
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Well, judging by your responses - I should go a bit more conservative in my dress.
But, I think you've made me all realize that I kind of do want the attention! I really wanted to feel feminine and the flowy-ness of that pretty corset shirt, along with the skirt I bought really makes me feel like a woman. Moreso than a pair of jeans and a blouse.
I've already been there and done that before and sure, it made me feel a bit more female, however I feel the outfit I picked out really helps me transform into the girl I want to be. If people stare etc. well POO on them! I want to go out and have fun - who knows, I might even go hit the bar like you've all suggested - later that day!
But, I think you've made me all realize that I kind of do want the attention! I really wanted to feel feminine and the flowy-ness of that pretty corset shirt, along with the skirt I bought really makes me feel like a woman. Moreso than a pair of jeans and a blouse.
I've already been there and done that before and sure, it made me feel a bit more female, however I feel the outfit I picked out really helps me transform into the girl I want to be. If people stare etc. well POO on them! I want to go out and have fun - who knows, I might even go hit the bar like you've all suggested - later that day!
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Sorry but I guess I have to play "devil's advocate" for a bit. I am not sure what you are trying to accomplish beyond just being seen in public.
What I did for my first outing was to go to an afternoon movie matinee. Here are my reasons for picking that venue. First you get cheap entertainment, but you can park as close or as far from the theater as you want. This gives you the chance to practice your walking (as well as getting in and out of a car). (One thing that I found I had to practice was how to handle my purse getting in and out of the car, but that's another story). Basically the only interaction you have is with the person at the ticket window and (if you are concerned about your voice), just kind of whisper which movie you wish to see. You (usually) walk in and hand your ticket to someone and just SMILE. I would not recommend getting anything to drink unless you are comfortable with using the ladies room.
The theater is dim, it can hide certain flaws, it gives you to opportunity to practice your moves, like taking off and putting on you coat, sitting properly, crossing and uncrossing your legs, etc. As you leave there are usually separate exits and the afternoon matinees are not crowded. The stories I could tell about my excursions to the movies, like the cop who opened the door for me and called me "honey," or the two "ladies" and I use the word loosely who called me "a slut," or the time four GG's came in and not only chose the row I was in but one sat right next to me through the entire movie, "Cold Mountain." Talk about being on your best behavior, or the family that sat next to me and the husband who got elbowed by his wife when he called me "darlin." Anyway, try it! Less pressure and still gets you out, then you can graduate to more "intricate" situation. AND as SL said, stay away from "packs of teenage girls!" Our worst enemy, they read you and they will "eat you alive."
Good luck and let us know what you decide to do and how it went!
Virginia
What I did for my first outing was to go to an afternoon movie matinee. Here are my reasons for picking that venue. First you get cheap entertainment, but you can park as close or as far from the theater as you want. This gives you the chance to practice your walking (as well as getting in and out of a car). (One thing that I found I had to practice was how to handle my purse getting in and out of the car, but that's another story). Basically the only interaction you have is with the person at the ticket window and (if you are concerned about your voice), just kind of whisper which movie you wish to see. You (usually) walk in and hand your ticket to someone and just SMILE. I would not recommend getting anything to drink unless you are comfortable with using the ladies room.
The theater is dim, it can hide certain flaws, it gives you to opportunity to practice your moves, like taking off and putting on you coat, sitting properly, crossing and uncrossing your legs, etc. As you leave there are usually separate exits and the afternoon matinees are not crowded. The stories I could tell about my excursions to the movies, like the cop who opened the door for me and called me "honey," or the two "ladies" and I use the word loosely who called me "a slut," or the time four GG's came in and not only chose the row I was in but one sat right next to me through the entire movie, "Cold Mountain." Talk about being on your best behavior, or the family that sat next to me and the husband who got elbowed by his wife when he called me "darlin." Anyway, try it! Less pressure and still gets you out, then you can graduate to more "intricate" situation. AND as SL said, stay away from "packs of teenage girls!" Our worst enemy, they read you and they will "eat you alive."
Good luck and let us know what you decide to do and how it went!
Virginia
First star to the right, then straight on 'till mornin!
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Well - As I've mentioned - I'll be honest - this isn't my first time.
I've been out before - once on a very short trip . I know what I'm getting into in terms of stares, packs of teenagers etc.
What I really want to do is just go out - as I am - to a place where no one knows me and for a day - Be Someone Else.
I don't want to be me - I want to be Nicole.
I decided this was the way to do it, and this is the way I am going do it.
I am nervous of how I'll be percieved, but at the same time excited about the reactions I'll get.
I've been out before - once on a very short trip . I know what I'm getting into in terms of stares, packs of teenagers etc.
What I really want to do is just go out - as I am - to a place where no one knows me and for a day - Be Someone Else.
I don't want to be me - I want to be Nicole.
I decided this was the way to do it, and this is the way I am going do it.
I am nervous of how I'll be percieved, but at the same time excited about the reactions I'll get.
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The long term members of this forum will remember my starter , "the green school uniform " , I even managed to walk right past the greatest threat , " a group of teenage girls " and they didn't blink an eyelid.
My confidence came from my earlier time as an Androganous person , my hair was long and I wore unisex clothing and that saw many people mistake me for being female.
Because I was so small and I had a face that looked years younger than I was , I set out to prove to myself that I could actually "BE" that person.
I set out and took it slowly as described in my above post , when I was trapped into having to walk past those teenagers I expected the worst , nothing stirred and I went home feeling that I was on cloud nine.
Just be Nicole in your mind and you'll have a great time.
My confidence came from my earlier time as an Androganous person , my hair was long and I wore unisex clothing and that saw many people mistake me for being female.
Because I was so small and I had a face that looked years younger than I was , I set out to prove to myself that I could actually "BE" that person.
I set out and took it slowly as described in my above post , when I was trapped into having to walk past those teenagers I expected the worst , nothing stirred and I went home feeling that I was on cloud nine.
Just be Nicole in your mind and you'll have a great time.
Merinda
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assuming you're probably going to do whatever you want anyway, but that someone else may find this thread.........lol
if i could do it all over again here's what i would do to have an adventure as if you were a gg.
first, assume that people are going to make you out for a genetic guy, they may well not, but assume they will. now get over it. lol
second, go to the place(s) you want to go before hand in drab, and observe the women there.....how are they dressed and how do they comport themselves. where's a good place to park and is it safe and what would i be doing there anyway.......it's always best to have a purpose to be someplace, that is more telling than anything.
third, dress down....if its the mall or a bookshop.....leave the stilts at home and wear comfortable shoes, unless its a nightclub, tone down the make-up too. that top is over the top.
fourth, act with purpose and fake self-confidence if you don't have a lot to begin with, the success of your outing will soon provide you with more, keep the faith on that score.
fifth, be nice, pleasant, smile, make eye-contact, be you regardless of gender - be real on that score, it will make the gender issues fall away a little bit.
sixth, have fun, don't quit until you're having fun!
now, some DON'Ts
don't try to be the sexiest woman on the planet, settle for just being a woman for a few hours of your wonderful life.
don't go to dark spooky places single women wouldn't dream of going.
stay away from drunks and louts.
park in a visible well lighted area.
don't break the law.
good luck! it will be a blast!!
if i could do it all over again here's what i would do to have an adventure as if you were a gg.
first, assume that people are going to make you out for a genetic guy, they may well not, but assume they will. now get over it. lol
second, go to the place(s) you want to go before hand in drab, and observe the women there.....how are they dressed and how do they comport themselves. where's a good place to park and is it safe and what would i be doing there anyway.......it's always best to have a purpose to be someplace, that is more telling than anything.
third, dress down....if its the mall or a bookshop.....leave the stilts at home and wear comfortable shoes, unless its a nightclub, tone down the make-up too. that top is over the top.
fourth, act with purpose and fake self-confidence if you don't have a lot to begin with, the success of your outing will soon provide you with more, keep the faith on that score.
fifth, be nice, pleasant, smile, make eye-contact, be you regardless of gender - be real on that score, it will make the gender issues fall away a little bit.
sixth, have fun, don't quit until you're having fun!
now, some DON'Ts
don't try to be the sexiest woman on the planet, settle for just being a woman for a few hours of your wonderful life.
don't go to dark spooky places single women wouldn't dream of going.
stay away from drunks and louts.
park in a visible well lighted area.
don't break the law.
good luck! it will be a blast!!