Hey Jeanne,
Your right I am being judgemental. As you said some may be judged by their actions or what they say.
In my experience of the CD/TS family, I have met a five hundred or so Crossdressers and about twenty or so Transexuals.
Of that number, the number of Category (1) people I have met could be counted on one hand. One person in particular frightened me.
In the UK it is common for Gender Group's to vet potential members before divulging the meeting place.
I had to vet one such candidate. I was frightened by his attitude and personality. I had a distinct feeling he was a predator, making out he was a CD'er in order to (I cant decribe the fear I had) meet a genuine Crossdresser.
He was the worst, but there were a few more who used act out being Cd to somehow gain sexual favours with male's or female's they encountered. So to summarise a Cat (1) is full masculine male, using the Cd image for other purposes.
But my scale is how I measure myself, it is based on my feelings only.
By saying I am a (6) now, means that I lean slightly to the feminine side.
I dont feel able to bond with other males, I bond easier with women. I like pretty feminine clothes, perfume etc. My urge to dress is not that strong, not nearly as strong as it was ten years ago, when I reached what I sometimes refer to as my TS Junction.
At that time my friend and confidant Adele chose to have SRS, and I chose to withdraw from the CD/TS social scene and to retain my male identity.
Kerri