What do you usually do when you crossdress?

[KimberlyS]

The most "feminine" thing I like to do is shop. But it could be either for male things, house things, femme things, or most anything. Shopping for femme things may be the thing I enjoy doing most when enfemme or even part femme. But in general I just like going about my normal activities when I CD. But most days I am wearing one or more femme clothing items mixed and matched with my masculine clothes. Like my wife once said, "then you are full time".

I am always the same person no matter how I am dressed. I am always a guy, just sometimes I feel more masculine and sometimes more feminine, but usually a mix. And the feelings do not have to match the clothing.

As for being a leader and opening up you may want to do some more reading on the forum. I think I have more than done that.

With my voice I sing tenor which is a big help on the femme side. For the most part I just lighten up my voice some and try to talk slower. But I find I often do not even do that and just talk in my male voice. There are many GG's with mid range and lower voices.

Not much difference dealing with a Menard's SA than any other SA. I am just shopping so what is the big deal. IMHO being out in public is at least 90% self acceptance and mental attitude that what you are doing is ok to do. The rest is looks. And your self acceptance and attitude will come out in your actions and interactions with others.

[Johanna]

I had a great dialogue with Kimberly last evening. Anyone who has not participated in the chat line should consider doing so. I now better understand Kimberly and should not have been so strident.

I also discounted her desire to "just do it" by going out to shop. I am not as handy with tools, so would not understand the excitement of Menard's. Each to her own!

Apparently, Kimberly and I come from different sides of the crossdresser aisle and I have learned that there is another side to the group.

With all of this said, I still think that, unless pushed, many members are reluctant to talk about their sexuality, although they really want to. This thread has been great in helping me understand different perspectives, which is undoubtedly one of the purposes of the forum.

[NieA]

I wear womens everyday so in a way I do almost everything.

At work im restricted to pants though, they wont let me wear skirts.

Im just lucky 95% of the people in the office are women so that part I believe is pleasant.

PS. I dont swim, I cant and I hate the beach so that specific thing will never be.

[DanteCarrie (FTM)]

I had a great dialogue with Kimberly last evening. Anyone who has not participated in the chat line should consider doing so. I now better understand Kimberly and should not have been so strident.

I also discounted her desire to "just do it" by going out to shop. I am not as handy with tools, so would not understand the excitement of Menard's. Each to her own!

Apparently, Kimberly and I come from different sides of the crossdresser aisle and I have learned that there is another side to the group.

With all of this said, I still think that, unless pushed, many members are reluctant to talk about their sexuality, although they really want to. This thread has been great in helping me understand different perspectives, which is undoubtedly one of the purposes of the forum.

Hey Johanna I totally get where you are coming from at least I think.
I think the desire to CD for me is very sexual. I mean i am not transgendered so for me it is more a sexual thing than this need to be a real boy in everysense.
I find it hard to divorce the different sides of myself sometimes by that i mean my sexual preference, my libido and my masculine tendencies. other times i feel like two seperate people: femme me and boyish me but both are sexual monsters. i get a huge kick out of being dolled up for my partner mainly cas i know it arouses him and I do so like to be dominated and I get a kick out of CDing i know I';; never pass but i feel so powerful and preditory when boyed up or dyked up its awesome.
Of course i can't pass so just look butch girl when CDing so i do normal things. Not as much pressure for a FTM than a MTF unless i went the whole mile and got fake facial hair. Not going to that despite how great i think it would look I'm way too short to be a powerful man alas.

Oh by my boxers stuffed by that i meant well I'm a FTM crossdresser so that would be me creating that delicious package you girls naturally have. Oh the sexual side of my CDing is very much focused on package although I'd never go out stuffed even though no one would notice its just too arousing I'd just masterabte all the time. yeah I'm not ashamed to say it i too masterbate when boyed up.
I think my CDing is both sexual and also i hate to be percieved as femme by other who aren't my partner mainly because of this sense of alienation i feel to typical girly straight women. i fancy them but we are a different species. I feel comfortable and honest when butched up and i'm treated more the way i want. my sexuality does not change when I'm dressed if by that you mean what gender I'm attracted to as I'm bi (with a vast leaning towards women but i do like cock LOL) so always like both.
So yeah i agree some CDs are afraid to talk about the sexual side. so if you ever want to talk about it I'm here LOL.
ALso I don't mow the lawn ever at all too lazy XD
To be honest i thought the sexual side was not discussed on here because it was not allowed and it was deemed offensive so I felt i would be kicked off the site for discusiing sexually related stuff.

[Absaroka]

Johanna I really liked your post. I sometimes wonder just how big the herd of elephants is here.

Okay about me. CDing started as a very, very strong sexual thrill when I was about 8. It remained primarily sexual ( a fetish, pure and simple) for a very long time. Typically I'd get dressed, masturbate, and lose the desire to be dressed.

Oh and if I bought Playboy or something it was an issue devoted to lingerie whenever possible.

Lots of men feel that way. Why else would sexy lingerie be such a big business. And probably the majority of men who like to wear panties once in a while like to jerk off in them. (Okay I probably made a great many people angry with that comment. It's my opinion, although the research I've read seems to support that contention. I think we tend to shy away from that because we feel like it makes us perverts. Plus this website has a very clear agenda of not being explicitly sexual. So all the folks who just want to masturbate into a bra or while wearing a corset get bored here pretty fast and don't come back)

Fast forward from age 8 to my early 50's. All of a sudden I started to CD a lot. Availability was one reason, I was self employed out of the house. But I'd had that availability for many years before I had the desire to take advantage of it.

It didn't take long to discover that if I masturbated while dressed I lost the desire to dress, and because I liked to dress I would wait to masturbate till it was time to change back to guy mode. I suppose I perhaps felt a mild endorphin rush all day while dressed even though I was not physically aroused.

Sexual arousal is a funny thing anyway. Looking at a waterfall can arouse me. Lots of Jungian imagery there, but it's another post.

And now it's 6 years later. Lot's of times I don't feel the need to masturbate while dressed. And if I do, I still like to stay dressed after. I think in the last 6 years I've rewired a few circuits in my brain. My sexual appetite is much different than it was when I was a teenager. I wrote a thread once comparing my sex life then to a feast for a starving boy, and my sex life now as a cup of herbal tea on the porch. As in there is a comfortable feeling that doesn't really need to be acted on so often.

So dressing started sexually and will always have that component. But it has another component, which is one I find very hard to describe.

I'm happy being a guy. I say that because so many people here say they hate being male that I want to be supportive of the folks who don't feel that way. In most ways, I think, I am probably pretty different from the folks here who are transistioning, living life as a woman without transitioning, or want to transition but can't. I'd love a magic pill that could switch me back and forth at will, but if I was suddenly struck female I'd spend all my money to transition back to male.

And yet-I love wearing a dress. Especially outside doing yard work.

I wonder a lot about the folks who talk here like feminine activities are things like shopping. My wife would disagree. She'd tell you breasts are for nursing, not something to have so you can wear a bra.

So there you have my confused post. And my daughter is coming home from school in a half hour. So it's time to take off the shirt, girls tee, panties and bra (nothing else in this heat) and put on the guy shorts and underwear and guys tee.

Besides the bra, what exactly is the difference? It's there, I know that.

Thanks everyone for a great thread.

Zari

[Alizee_Noelle]

Absaroka, I relate to pretty much everything you've said, except one thing. If I suddenly became female, I think I'd come to peace with the idea and make the most of it. Although I'd be a pretty evil butch woman with a nasty lesbian appetite :D

[Rik]

Typically I'd get dressed, masturbate, and lose the desire to be dressed.

It didn't take long to discover that if I masturbated while dressed I lost the desire to dress, and because I liked to dress I would wait to masturbate till it was time to change back to guy mode.

Zari

All of the above is very current for me, and the main thing that is keeping me confused a little, im glad this issue is being discussed!

[Leeza]

In my 20s when I got the ugre to dress it would start off as a piece of fem clothing then 2 pieces and would build til I was fully dressed and in make up. At each stage there would be mastribation then the wanting out of what ever I had on. At that time is was a need to get into fem clothing, mastribate then get out of the fem clothing.

Now it is more a need to wear as much fem as I can and got total fem when I have the oppurinity for as long as I can. If mastridation is involved there is not the need to get out of the fem clothiing.

Leeza

[Gillian]

Zari, You posted a very good discription of how my life has been. Did you crawl inside my mind, or something? It is threads like this that help me feel normal, if there is such a thing. Thank you.

[Absaroka]

I'm glad that post was helpful to some of the folks here, and no disrespect to those for whom this is about something very different.

BTW I find the folks who write about feeling like they are "in the wrong body" to be fascinating. I don't always contribute to those threads since it's a tad out of my experience.

One of the best things about this forum is the self acceptance it promotes even though we have a lot of different reasons for our clothing choices. I am very grateful for that.

Zari

[Bernice]

This is a very interesting thread. The comments about waiting to enjoy self-stimulation until shortly before having to go back in drab resonate strongly with me. I never before thought about why. Then again, neither did a sexual release ever decrease my desire to remain cross-dressed, at least not that I can remember.

I don't absolutely have to crossdress every day, though I usually will if I can. As I near retirement age, I need sexual release much less often. What I do when crossdressed is pretty much what I would do when in drab, except for going out in the world.

Last month I took a 12 day trip where I was unable to crossdress at all. (I'm not counting the occasional few nights sleeping in a nightgown.) That was the hardest part of the trip for me.

Now that my ever having children is a train that has left the station without me, I've no use whatsoever for my testicles.

Hugs,

Bernice

[Dolores(GG)]

hahah no problem babe. its nice to know at least some people in the world feel at least similar to me in each aspect of my weirdness LOL.
As of yet I have met exactly zero other GGs who have a sexuality like mine. although when i say sexuality i refer to my orientation, CDing, fetishness and sex drive and nature of libido. All of those in my case are extremely untypically femme and my sexuality as such touches each part of my life. alienating yet i can't imagine the alternative

Dante, I think you can raise that number to 1. I consider myself both male and female (or genderqueer to be correct) and we have some things in common. I tend to be masculine around woman and boys dressed as women (yum.) I don't really try to dress male, save suspenders and mannerisms perhaps (although I have been wanting a packy for a while...) and tend to be rather fluid between both. Still, I can relate. I have met only one other person who is like me, and she has CD'ed as male. I don't think there are many people like us out there, but there are some.

[Gillian]

The comments in this thread still have me thinking. So much of what others have said could be my own words. My early years were all about masterbation while dressed, and as I have gotten older there has been a slow shift to just underdressing. At the beginning it was difficult to stay dressed "after" in any form as all desire literally drained out of me. As I have grown older I learned to enjoy some of the finer things in life. That sort of slow down and smell the roses. Now the sexual is more of a side issue. There are also times that I wish that I could be just rid of these danglers, yet I would probably lose the sexual desire, and I don't want that. I am fortunate that I have an understanding SO, She doesn't care if I masterbate as long as I save one night a week for her. We have compromised in many areas and it has worked reasonably well for us.

[DanteCarrie (FTM)]

hahah no problem babe. its nice to know at least some people in the world feel at least similar to me in each aspect of my weirdness LOL.
As of yet I have met exactly zero other GGs who have a sexuality like mine. although when i say sexuality i refer to my orientation, CDing, fetishness and sex drive and nature of libido. All of those in my case are extremely untypically femme and my sexuality as such touches each part of my life. alienating yet i can't imagine the alternative

Dante, I think you can raise that number to 1. I consider myself both male and female (or genderqueer to be correct) and we have some things in common. I tend to be masculine around woman and boys dressed as women (yum.) I don't really try to dress male, save suspenders and mannerisms perhaps (although I have been wanting a packy for a while...) and tend to be rather fluid between both. Still, I can relate. I have met only one other person who is like me, and she has CD'ed as male. I don't think there are many people like us out there, but there are some.

its nice to hear I admit. LOL girls in suspenders=very sexy. I consider myself female to be sure not male i like to dress up butch and boyish and pretend to be a boy online as a release but I am female who is often butch and who likes other girls and one man lol with the sex drive of a convicted rapist LOls I like the way you describe yourself you sound like a fun chick especially form what I read in your thread. I like the sound of you. You ever tried wearing men's stuff or wearing dyke chique as someone who identifies as male and female you could find it highly stimulating it also attracts friends of similar persuasions.

[Dolores(GG)]

Dante, I wear leather coats and boots, shaved head. I dont have to go very far to feel butch, even if from the outside others don't perceive that I am trying to crossdress. I have joked that at times I might have thought about becoming a FTM, if as a man I wouldn't go right back to CDing as a woman! Whenever I get dressed up to go out, I always felt like a boy playing with make-up. I don't feel like a woman, but someone playing the role of a woman. Perhaps thats why I relate to the other ladies on the board, and in some was think they are more ladylike than me. Still, I do enjoy that transformation. That elegance of taking on that role. I put on some David Bowie and sing while eyeshadow flies.

I don't know what dyke chique is...you have to enlighten me. I would love to wear some pinstripe suits. I have fedoras and I have a tie I love. I like mixing...and lately thought of trying binding.

Thanks for the compliment though, you sound like a fun one yourself. I'm glad your here- I think we'll have a good time.