A New Theory...

[Joanne T.]

Just saw this thread and was immediately drawn to the replacement theory topic.
I served 12 years in the army, 3 years in Iran training Iranian soldiers, married an Iranian lady against all the beaurocratic odds, divorced eventually then married a Welsh girl and lived relatively happily for 30 years. All very macho living and working.
When we separated and I moved from Spain back to the UK it was only then that I started dressing. As was described earlier, as soon as you realise the enjoyment achieved by female possessions it bursts like a bomb.
I personally believe that my reason for becoming CD at the age of 69 was due entirely to the sudden lack of female company in my life.
There is no recollection of any leanings towards my femme side at any time earlier.
My wife has since returned to UK and we have spent time together, Christmas was spent at her place and she accepted Joanne and even bought pressies for her. It is now mainly a sisterly relationship which I am more than happy with.
So yes I do believe that trauma in its many forms can affect us all in different ways.
Keep posting

Joanne xxxxxx

[Noeleena]

Hi,

Theres no theory about this one, four by two ooops 2 x 4, wacked over your head is for sure going to give you a headache before or after you wake up. try a 6 x 6 thats even better .

Okay In the UK i have friends who went down this rout to figure out what caused them to be the way they are, and the best they could comeup with was the drug's thier Mom's had taken by Dr's scrip for pain releve well my Mom had none and one of my half brothers is 19 years older than i he's all male,

My other half brother older again ill take it he's the same,and no i'v not got any contact with ether,

any way as to being different no meds drugs or toys did not do it, at age 10 i knew what i was / am and thats just a part of what took place at conception and can happen to any one part of nature in its makeup .

I know there are some meds drugs that have changed what would be quite a normal birth yet changes a lot of detail before birth due to Mom's being on meds some months before birth, such as
Themeldihide , agent orange or other mind bending hard drug's and theres more of cause as we know, they came well after i was born,

What i hear a lot is of many not being able to accept thier difference , i never had a concern or issue's many have, so can be quite hard ,

...noeleena...

[Anne Bonny]

Well, since I have relaxed I have stopped thinking about the why's, what is - IS! But environmental toxins - seems like they would be metabolized and no longer effect us after a while. There are some that leave permanent damage to our neurological system, but it does not seem likely that something that would alter hormones temporarily would be permanent long after we are no longer exposed to them. I suppose you are thinking about the possibility of exposure before our brain is fully jelled and set and is still very vulnerable prior to age...6 or so...hum...that is something that needs to be studied, would take years to determine and that we will probably never know. I suppose anything is possible, but I do not think I did a lot of chewing or eating of things like lead paint on my crib like my sister did when teething and she turned out fine. I am weary of speculating further anymore. As any woman I believe they do not think about being women, or feeling like women - just like men they just get up in the morning with no thought at all to being the sex that they are, and no thought about being masculine or feminine - they just "ARE" and there's an end to it and they go about their business.

That we happen to do so, and to feel or sense our gender varies is unique to us and it just is.

[Paulette]

I don't think you'll ever know why. Only that you need to do it, and it feels much better when you accept that you do.

Reading through the introductory posts here and in similar groups I found a great deal of similarity and enough differences to make a hash of any single theory. I have an idea about myself that I've developed over many years, and I accept it as provisionally true. What's much more important is how I see myself and if I accept and like who I am. I'd say that applies to everyone, everywhere, whether they are absolutely vanilla straight or the wildest drag queen or the most invisible trans-person ever.

No matter what else, first you have to like who you are. If you do, the rest can be worked out.

Even the DSM manuals assume this: if it isn't a problem, it isn't a problem. That is, if you're not bothered by it, and it doesn't frighten the children or the horses, it's not a matter for the concern of a shrink.