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This is for CD's only please. MTF or FTM. Because for a TG/TS it should be the first option.

How do you relate M/F to your CDing?

Male / Female

Masculine / Feminine

A mix of the two. Please explain.

A fetish or sexually driven. M/F really does not matter.

None of the above. Other. Please explain.

UPDATE:

For this post consider Male/Female to be physical body as in how you are able to have sex.

And Masculine/Feminine to be mental and emotional feelings, traits, personalities and even many physical characteristics and traits. And while the general society ties male with masculine and female with feminine, we know that is not always true.

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A lot of the CDers posts talk in terms of Male / Female in their posts. I personally struggled with this for myself until one day it hit me that it was not a male / female thing for me. It was a Masculine / Feminine thing. I was a male and mostly liked being a male. I was not CDing to be a female but I was CDing to align my feminine feelings, traits, and characteristics with the feminine clothes that society taught me growing up that they should be clothed in.

I selected none of the above.

I like my male/masculine side, but the reason I CD can't really be a female or feminine thing, for me, IMHO. Because I don't know why I CD.

I don't want to be feminine and I don't want to be female.

My belief that is that it's a genetic/hormonal thing. Being trans is something I was born with, when I didn't know male or female, masculine or feminine. CDing is the result of being trans, i.e., TG.

Hi Kim,

I voted "none of the above" mainly because I am not sure of the difference between the first two categories.

In my case, I am male and prefer to stay that way. I love women - so much so that I want to emulate them. I can't do it physically, so I do the best I can with clothes. I simply feel more comfortable dressed en femme. Which category would you put me into?

[Aside: One should not end a sentence with a preposition. As Churchill said: "This is the sort of pedantry up with which I will not put."]

Hugs,

Lydia

I voted Masculine / Feminine. For me I like being a male however, when I am dressed I like to feel feminine, smell, look, everything. I used to think it was a sexual thing, but maybe that was because when I was younger and dressed it would be very sexy items and mostly I would take care of things, then change back to male. As I grew older I started dressing because it made me feel complete.

Now I simply want to feel feminine.

OK, I don't really consider myself a cd so i didn't vote, but still,, I don't understand what's being asked here?

Looks like I confused some. I usually mostly only confuse myself.

For this post consider Male/Female to be physical body how you are able to have sex.

And Masculine/Feminine to be mental and emotional feelings, traits, personalities and even many physical characteristics and traits. And while the general society ties male with masculine and female with feminine, we know that is not always true.

I guess I struggled along time with the Male/Female physical body issue. But with all of my research into the human development process I realized that truly only a few things made us a Male or Female. Those were the actual sex organs between our legs. The rest of the physical and mental traits, characteristics and personalities span the whole human race. Yes some were more likely for Males or Females, but not exclusive. These I labeled Masculine and Feminine.

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Sorry for the confusion.

Hi. As much as I would like to live as a woman full time, my male body is just so masculine I could not pass as a woman anymore than flying to the moon. So I have to be content with wearing fem clothes that are not quiet as obvious, more is the pity.

I voted masculine/feminine because when I'm dressed in drab, I'm in my masculine mode. I am also very much masculine when I'm with my SO. My SO knows I dress but is not ready to see me as Jill so I'm always in my masculine mode with her. When I'm dressed, I'm totally feminine in everything but my voice, that's why I think masculine/ feminine suits me best. Luv and Hugs Jill

Well! Maybe I'm a bit confused too. ( I swear I wasn't wearing my blonde wig ) I voted " a bit of each ". I do enjoy being male. When I'm with my buddies, I'm pretty much macho dude, and told, a little bit intimidating.
When in male mode and with the women, my fem side comes out a bit. Now when in fem mode I really like being feminine, but don't mind for a minute to wear shorts and an old blouse with tennies and change the oil in my bike or truck. Is that what you were trying to get?

I CD because the clothes are nice and soft and reflect that side of my personality. And that side of myself is typically branded as feminine.

Diannna, I love your change the oil outfit.

Hi,

I selected the two above. I am male physically/sexually and don't wish to change that.

However, I feel that there are both masculine and feminine aspects to my life, which may be part of why I dress. I was raised masculine, but not macho; number three of seven boys; no girls. We camped, hunted, and fished, played baseball, cowboys and Indians, participated in Boy Scouts, etc.; typical masculine activities. When I was ten, I was diagnosed with aplastic anemia and was instructed to not participate in contact sports. I took up more passive activities and hobbies while my brothers went into sports, wrestling and football, etc..

My dressing started out more as a fetish/sexual thing, but over time has shifted to more of just a feminine aspect. I started dressing at about age eleven and often wished and prayed that I had been born a girl or would awake the next morning as a girl. I sometimes still wish that I had been born female.

I now enjoy the feminine aspect of dressing and presenting myself as feminine as possible. I don't remember such an attraction to the feminine side when I was younger, though I do remember playing house with the girls occasionally at recess in the third or fourth grade. I also remember thinking that girls had it better than boys- nicer clothes and more variety, etc.

I do remember that I was very shy and was more comfortable with girls as just a friend, not a "boy friend". I didn't date much and often wondered how their dresses might look on me. My few girl friends often remarked that I was different from most men. Never did find out what they meant. I presume that it meant I was less macho and more caring or attentive.

My mother had often remarked that she wanted a daughter; that never happened. One Christmas when I was about 30, she showed me a note that had been included in a Christmas card to a friend shortly after my birth. The note indicated that my parents had forgiven me for not being a girl. My cousin told me that my mother felt that I was the prettiest of the boys and should have been a girl. While I don't remember her ever treating me as a girl, there may have been a subconcious link.

After I got married I found myself sitting between the male and female groups at my in-laws. Most of the male talk was about mechanics, trucking, heavy equipment, sports, hunting, fishing, etc., but I found myself tuning in to the women's talk more because the male discussion was not really in my area of interest. Some of the women's discussion was also not my area of interest, but I was still drawn to it more than the men's.

I still have a separation of masculine and feminine aspects. I generally consider myself as masculine and usually present as such. However, there is also the feminine side of me that is wanting to be more evident. I enjoy feminine things and emulating the more feminine aspects of women.

Boy, what a rambling. I don't know why I have a need to express a feminine aspect, but I do. Anyway, that's my thoughts on the subject.

Love,

Alana

Alana,
I know about needing to express your need of the feminine side. I believe most of us do. You keep on expressing and I'll keep reading .

KimberlyS wrote:Diannna, I love your change the oil outfit.

Kimberly stop............... you'll make me blush