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Really don't know if its proper to mention it here but i do have a kinky side. I love being a submissive maid and bondage doll- have gone to S&M clubs to satisfy my desires. Does anyone else have these feelings?

I think many have a kinky side. It may or may not be directly related to CDing.

Not those specific ones, but similiar things, yes. I would see it somewhat like Kimberly--I don't think CDs are more prone to these things, necessarily. It's more like if we're exploring one type of boundary, (like gender-related clothing), then we're more likely to accept other parts of ourselves that may not be 'mainstream,' either.

I think what Anita said, that we're more likey to accept "quirks" or variances is so true. We tend to be more open minded about things. And I will tell you, more girls have a maids dress than might admit to it. I do, even though its not something I wear often at all. So, relax, enjoy life....ya only go around once.
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DeeDee

I've been to the Purgatory fetish parties in Charlotte, NC a couple of times. Sometimes it's nice to let my hair down and dress up really freaky, then go to hang out in a place where no one looks at me funny or treats me different because of how I'm dressed. It's not a 24-7 thing for me, though.

Thanks girls It had always been a fantasy of mine to be a submissive french maid so when i had the the chance to be one i took it. My Avtar represents another fantasy of mine to be an Orion slave girl- yes I am a Trekie on top of feminine side .
This is such a wonderful place

I was wondering if your avatar was an Orion. She did look familiar but I never knew she was green until I read it somewhere, I don't see green all that well.

I think that people are right in that in accepting one form of being different we perhaps are more open to others.

There is a lot of literature with a theme of forced feminization, much of it not erotic literature although it may affect some of us, like me, that way. I woulnd't surprise me to learn that this has something to do with some struggle to differentiate ourselves from our mothers when we are young.

When I was a teenager one of the biggest turn ons I had was to stick my foot in a deep mud puddle and then have to struggle to pull it out while the mud clung to it. The symbolism of this ought to be pretty obvious....

Absaroka

i have seen girls mud wrestling and that is a turn on too.

I have a strong desire to be dressed as a French Maid or a Victorian Maid, made to do maid's chores and be punished severely for any negligence in service. I have dressed as maid in a professional makeover service but the other aspects of my fetish were unfortunately not realizable for practical reasons.

Jaye wrote:I've been to the Purgatory fetish parties ... , then go to hang out in a place where no one looks at me funny or treats me different because of how I'm dressed.

Hi Jaye ,

A few years back I was involved with a social group of girls that frequented the BDSM clubs , I didn't participate in the spankings or anything , but the very reason I continued to attend was the fact that the venues were full of macho males that fully acceped us girls .
Sadly those two venues closed up .

Yes I have been a French Maid to a Dom Ms and loved it. Being under the to control of a Dom very exciting for me.

I like latex bondage and can be a sub or dom. It's been many years since I last did any. Wife didn't enjoy it. Even going solo was frowned on. The latex wear is very expensive and so are the toys. I find the smell and feel of latex very erotic. I don't like receiving or giving pain nor humiliation. Now I just surf the sites.

I also was the sub part of a femdom couple and enjoyed it a lot.
I recognized to be submissive in my youth - I do not know if that was related to the beginning of my CD/TG desire - I never thought about it. Anyway it took decades until I was able to bring both desires into my life.

Sometimes I wonder whether there are so many of us who like kink of one sort or other that we outnumber the vanilla people?

In fact are there really vanilla people? Or are we all just happily kinked in some manner we either can or cannot admit to ourselves and/or others?

Gee. What if perversion is nothing more nor less than plain ol' human nature? Just more ways to have fun?

Love, Robyn Katie

Isn't perversion a matter of perspective or would it be what isn't socially acceptable? That opens up a whole can of worms. Anyway if it feels good, do it! As long as no one is harmed. Of course this leaves S&M in question.