Worried about going out for the first time.

[Nicole.Anton]

I have been on a frenzy, ordering things , outfits, the perfect purse etc.

And..I'm ready for my first outing.

However, I'm TERRIFIED!

Any advice?

[Stephenie G]

Nothing to fear sweetie ,just be confident ,smile alot & treat others as you want them to treat you .Have fun still remember my first time ,i was scared but once out of car realized it wasn't as scary as thought & have been having great funs since.So go out & enjoy . Stephenie g

[JoAnnDallas]

First time I went out fully dressed, I was very nervious too. Mabey even a little terrified, but I quickly found out that almost everyone I met did not seem to care how I was dressed or how I looked. If I did make eye contact, I usually got a smile and that was it.
Now my wife and I go out all the time with me dressed. We do our regular Grocery shopping, going to WalMart, and etc. I have even used the Ladies Restroom and changing room with no problem.

Just make sure that your clothes and makeup are age approriate and you will have no problem. The rule of thumb is "Dress not to be noticed" and you will not be noticed. LOL

[TashaM]

I was a bit nervous too, and excited. but I was also with two GG friends. I was not dressed however in a way I would not be noticed. (I do have pics in the gallery how I was dressed). Now if I was by my self . I probably would have been quite terrified. But I am sure everything will be ok for your first outing.

[KimberlyS]

Nicole, being away from home and those you know is a great way to start getting out. My attitude was it did not matter what they thought I would never see them again. Expect some looks, stares, laughs and giggles, but focus on those that just smile and move on, do not seem to care, or do not see you at all. Yes many people are just in their own little world and do not really see those around them or do not care. Focus on enjoying yourself and not on what others think.

Also, IMHO, it is best to pick a public place with a diverse group of people, but not too busy. Like a mall shortly after opening, or on a weekday mid morning or afternoon.

Smile and enjoy yourself.

kim
joe in a skirt

[Anita]

Nicole--
There are a lot of postings about people's first times out, and you can search them out in the Coping for CDs and Fun things section. They generally have titles like "Finally did it!", so they're easy to spot.

You have to find your comfort level. Some people just drive, and don't get out of the car at first.

[Nicole.Anton]

Would you say this is "age appropriate"

I am 32

[Merinda]

Hi Nicole ,

From my own experience , ease in slowly

(1) Drive to an area where you are not known
(2) Find a (safe) park with few people (in daylight hours)
(3) keep a distance from people when you walk through
(4) When you feel confident , walk closer when you pass someone
(5) When you get to the stage of passing someone on the walking track , you'll find the urge to go further , thats when you consider a shopping Mall


Nice dress Nicole , but as JoAnnDallas has said stated , "dress NOT to be noticed" . I would save that dress for a later outing , party , or a future social club meeting with other CDers etc. Best to start off with more bland style of outfit until you gain confidence.
Once you've been out a number of times you tend to wear anything and not care if it draws attention.

[Lydia]

Hi Nicole,

I agree with Merinda. It is a very pretty dress, and I'd love it. But not to wear out - especially when you are just getting adjusted. I wish I were your age, but I am a fair amount older, and try to dress my age. The part of going "out" that I fear most is not being "read", but being ridiculed. So my principle is to blend in, be inconspicuous, and yet not look like many GGs these days in sloppy t-shirts and jeans. A sober colored skirt and blouse is good.

The female parts that an average CD (if there is such a thing) is concerned with are the boobs. The newbie is likely to overdo the front porch, and the makeup as well. You don't want to look like a drag queen or a cheap whore - at least I hope you don't

So, as in all things, moderation is recommended.

In any case, I guarantee you will enjoy it and enjoy the memory.

Hugs,

Lydia

[Stephanie W]

Hi Nicole

Nice dress.......for halloween or a party! Not appropriate for someone looking NOT to get noticed on their first time out. Pick somewhere and go visit in male mode first. Observe how other women are dressed and you will see what is appropriate.

Above all, stay safe and avoid anywhere you wouldn't go in male mode or where most women wouldn't go by themselves.

Stephanie

[Nicole.Anton]

Hi, Merinda -

Well, I've actually went out before, in what was a blouse and jeans. Went to a local town , and had a blast and other than a few weird looks and a giggle . I had a blast.

For the record, thats actually a "corset top" , not a dress - I am considering going to the mall with that shirt and a skirt. I have the whole outfit co-ordinated with red shoes and etc.

I am brave enough to try the mall - and I think I have enough confidence to wear that shirt with a skirt.

I guess I am more or less looking to hear what happened on others first excursions....

[Nicole.Anton]

Hi, Lydia -

I knew about the boobs going in, I have a respectable 46 D going. As for makeup, I'm going light.

[Elizabeth]

Nicole,

Nothing to be afraid of. No one out there has any more right to be there than you. No other person is in charge of setting the standard. But having said that. Case the places you plan on going. See what other women are wearing. While your dress is beautiful and I am sure you look great in it, it's more of a dress that one would wear to a dance or party or some place when you really want to attract attention as a beautiful woman. I doubt your first time out, that is what you are looking for.

Having said all that, hold you head high, remember to smile it disarms people. Men assume they have the right of way, yield it to them. It's exciting and exhilarating. I am sure you are going to have a great time. Remember, it's all about you, not what others would want you to do. You will see, it's easier than you think.

Love always.
Elizabeth

[Nicole.Anton]

Hmm.. well I think the top looks really cute, especially with a pair of jeans.

[SilverLady(SO)]

Hi, Nicole -

I like the top, and know it will look really cute with the right pair of jeans and heels or boots . . . but you'll definitely draw attention wearing that outfit (good, bad, or indifferent), so be prepared. Going to the mall for an outing is not for the faint of heart . . . watch out for packs of teenagers, especially girls, for they can be your worst enemy and 'out' you (ridicule you) in a blink of an eye.

That being said, I hope you have a fun, and safe, outing!

- SL