JUST JOAN

[JoAnnDallas]

Glasgow Daily Record, UK

JUST JOAN

Was my father-in-law a cross-dresser?

By Joan Burnie on Feb 19, 09 06:05 AM

Q I WAS cleaning out my late father-in-law' s house and found female clothing and make-up.

It wasn't his wife's kind of stuff. She died five years ago and the clothes were not only too large, but not what she wore.

She only used a little face cream, not sparkly eye shadow, false eye lashes, bright red lipstick and pancake make-up.

My father-in-law was a bigot as well as very anti-gay. I can only conclude he was also a cross-dresser. I couldn't stand him.

But my wife worshipped her dad and is devastated by his death so do I tell her?

A I CAN'T think of a single reason why you should even consider telling your wife what you found.

Correction. I can think of one - malice.

So don't do it.

Maybe your late father-in-law was a cross-dresser or had a large lady friend who wore a lot of make-up.

Does it matter? Bigot or otherwise, the man's dead. Let him rest in peace.

[KimberlyS]

Thanks for the post JoAnn. It sound like to me he was a CDer and his hate for what he was and did came out by being a a bigot and very anti-gay.

[DonnaT]

sometimes the old adage "He doth protest too much" is true!

Making arrangements ahead of time, if one has secrets, may be a good idea.

When my Dad died my Mom asked that I be the only one to go through his things.

[Diannna]

I do believe that if he had not told anyone while he was alive, then it should not be told while he has passed on. Besides, you really can't say for sure what he was just because of what you found. I think better left alone.

[Azurielle]

Many people who radically oppose the GLBT are actually just in denial.

I agree with Diannna, though. Don't soil a memory; he arranged to be remembered like he wanted to be remembered.