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Hi All.
After a year or so of going out and doing things a Phyliss, about a month ago my wife told me she was having second thoughts about Phyliss. So taking some advice from many of your post I sat down and wrote my wife a letter, explaining how I felt and how much I really do love her, and that my dressing was not sexual. That I was not going out to pick up dates or have relations with others. After all my intrest in going out is to relax and enjoy good freinds, whether I am out in drab or as Phyliss.
Well after many questions, much talking, and real listening we came to the agreement that it was okay for Phyliss to continue. She still does not wish to go out with me when dressed, and that is okay. I do not want to force her to do something that she does not feel right about. We agreed that I could keep my arms and legs shaved year round, and that I would always be honest with her and let her know when I am going out. So today was my first time out this time of year, so of course I had to find some cassual shoes to wear. The SA was very nice and treated me as any other female customer, and I find a lovely pair of sandles and they were 25% off. To night its is off to the piano bar with some of gurls
I have been dreaming of this day for a couple of years now and here it is. I have to remember though take it slow. Too much Phyliss and my wife may have a change of heart. Catch yall in the chat room

Hi Phyliss,

You're walking a tightrope we all must remember to walk carefully. You handled your crisis splendidly. Congratulations, and may your wife always be so understanding.

We need to remember our beloved SOs can get stretched pretty far in this world where they are bombarded with images of what is acceptably masculine, etc. etc. It's not always easy for them to keep to pledges of acceptance given in the past! So special best wishes and congratulations for her as well.

Love, Robyn Katie

Hi Phyliss,

I understand your wife's position as my wife after 45 years of marriage has ask me not to go out in public anymore but Carol is always welcome around the house day or night.

So as in anything there is give and take and her point of view was people know our truck and besides honey you don't pass that well anymore .

So to keep wearing my heels I said OK love

Slow and steady as she goes. Honesty and Communication are defintely the key. I know there will be issues in the future,but if I follow those two policies I think we will be able to work through them. After all I have nothing to hide.

Good to hear you can carry on, Phyliss.

Hi Phyliss

I am glad you came to a compromise you could both live with - your situation sounds so much like mine.

HUGS