spent the day with women

[Absaroka]

I was thinking today of how so often we talk about wanting to be feminine, or more like women, or express this side of ourselves, or something.

My wife is home for the summer as she is a teacher. I work at home although I'm not working that much currently. Today she invited some of her coworkers over. 4 other women, all our age (early 50's) all good friends, all professionals (teachers) with decades of experience and success in teacher each one of them. We sat around and talked for several hours. At one point I thought of these forums and began trying to notice how would this be different if it was men.

First thing that happened was I excused myself a couple of times out of sheer boredom as they were all talking about work- students and coworkers I don't know and that sort of thing. It could have been the same with men.

Other times when the topic was more interesting was talking about our kids, our health, our vacations, and our homes. In each case, had it been a bunch of male teachers I think it would have been similar but not quite the same. Probably on each subject we might have been more reticent. But I don't really know. A far more important variable is that these women have all been coworkers and good friends for at least 10 years each and in some cases far longer.

I am sometimes a bit of a chameleon. I take on the style and attributes of people I like. These are some of my wifes best friends and so I am comfortable with them. Plus some of them are cute, in a mid 50's way. That always gets my attention. Often I think that although I'm married and not looking, a little part of me is always looking for that same female attention or approval or sexual rush I had when I was single.

Later on another man came over, a close family friend. We talked about some of the same things but then talked at length about a musical production he just finished directing. A subject of great interest to us all as my wife is a music teacher and I perform. But most of all, and the main reason of interest being that my daughter was also in the production he directed. The point is however that it didn't feel much different from hanging with the ladies earlier. If I had to think of one difference it would be that the conversation became more analytical about the show. But there was something about hanging with the ladies that simultaneously felt foreign and yet more comfortable. Not quite sure what it's about, but it wasn't about what anyone was wearing-we were all in tee shirts and shorts.

Ab

[Steve]

Women are great to talk with. Sounds like you had fun!

DM