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I keep dreaming, "Wouldn't it be wonderful" if my wife, who has always been tolerant of my CDing, but never into it; would suddenly say, "Honey, I've been thinking, lately, about your crossdressing, and I'm thinking that you might be kind of cute that way. Can I try dressing you up?"

Then, she would set about selecting a pair of lace trimmed panties, for me, and a bra with breast forms. After that, she would hand me a very pretty lace trimmed slip, plus a pair of nylon hose and a pair of shoes with three inch heels. Then she would find me a beautiful cocktail dress with a fluffy very full skirt. Then, she would say, "Put these things on, and I'll come back and see how you look.

Afterwards, she would have me turn this way and that, and twirl around, to see how I looked. Saying, "Oooo, you are cute in your frilly things," she would apply lipstick to my lips, plus mascara, etc., and a wig. Then, she would put a pretty necklace and matching earrings on me. Then, she would dress in a similar manner, while I watched.

After we were both dressed, we would spend the day flirting with each other, and she would be as unable to keep her hands off of me, as I was to keep mine off of her. We could even put on some soft music, and dance with each other, both of us wearing beautiful party dresses. Then we could have a nice romantic candlelight dinner, and the lovely evening
that would be bound to follow.
Wouldn't it be lovely/"

Had/have that same dream! But like the pagent contestent, I also dream of "world peace."

Maybe some day...........

My wife doesn't want to dress me up but she is a member of my Tri-Ess chapter, goes to TG functions with me, and we do go out together with me dressed.

Oh heck my wife see Carol everyday and no big deal, just everyday living

Im not married, but I long to find the person you describe
Never say never I guess

I think such an open minded and confident woman are rare. The pain in the rejection of trust given when we ask for acceptance may be too much to bear for many to continue searching.

Well - I guess I am one of the lucky ones. My GF accepts my CDing and is very supportive. So - even limited to occasions - sometimes she helps me with selecting my femme style by giving advice about what parts do match by color and style.

Anyway I know and understand your dream, but from my point of view there is a logical conflict in it: your dream is, that she is selecting your outfit - and then your dream is about a specific outfit. OK - it's a dream, but in general - if she is doing the selection, it will be what is in her mind not in yours. Of course in your dream you can't ask her, but give this a conflict a chance to re-think about the style you like to look like.

Sure there is an inner dream and an inner drive with your femme-style. But where does it derive from? Is this your male mind suggesting a style your male mind prefer women to look like? Or is it a female mind thinking about what suits best to the occasion? There is a big difference!!

In fact, the feedback I get from my GF is very valuable. It also changed the way I watch other women. Watching women in all-day situations and other occasions is a good school to find appropriate styles. Especially as your wife does not want to be part of your CDing - so you can't ask for her advice and help.

I guess I should explain that my wife does not come up to me and say, "how about dressing today". She does let me dress anytime I want to and will suggest clothing, shoe, and accessorizes items when we are out together I am in JoAnn mode. As long as I don't dress 7 days a week, she if fine with it all. 2-3 times a week I will go all the way. Now I do underdress almost 7 days a week.

Jabbela you are very right about the conflict within a conflict- even if our wives liked to dress us up they would of course have their own tastes. Although I find that my tastes resemble those of my wife's (not the other way around) more and more.

Zari

My wife accepts the fact that I dress, also. She has said that I can dress anytime I want. She does see me dressed from time to time. But, that's not the same as WANTING me to dress!

My dream is that she should actively WANT to see me dressed in feminine frilly clothes; that she should actively get a kick out of dressing me up in frilly lingerie, or beautiful dresses and evening gowns, for HER OWN PLEASURE, not just to allow me to indulge myself.

Many of the wives who accompany their husbands to Tri-Ess meetings are just indulging their husbands, but would prefer that their husbands not wear dresses, if they had their way. My dream is the impossible dream. It is that my wife would, personally, love to dress me up in pretty feminine things, and that she would do it for her own personal pleasure, not mine. Undoubtedly, though, I would love it, too!

Is there anyone hear who wouldn't love that, too?

Maybe not. I don't like anyone telling me what to wear, and that would probably extend to my wife saying she wanted me to wear a dress-it would probably give me a strong desire to dress male.

Zari

Jean wrote:My dream is the impossible dream. It is that my wife would, personally, love to dress me up in pretty feminine things, and that she would do it for her own personal pleasure, not mine. Undoubtedly, though, I would love it, too!

Hi, Jean -

Alright, it's time for me to play Devil's Advocate!

1. Do you dress your wife up in pretty, feminine things, and do you do it for your own personal pleasure, not hers?

2. Does your wife dress your male alter ego up in his most studly, handsome suit, and does she do it for her own personal pleasure, not yours?

Ah, flipped the tables have I on you! {... spoken in a Yoda voice}


Bottom Line: A person dresses for their own pleasure, not others. If others happen to also take pleasure in that action, then all the better.

If your wife accepts your dressing, especially any time you want to, then you have it made, hon. Most of your 'sisters' here would love to be in your shoes.

- SL

(1) Yes! I used to. Apparently, though, she was very neutral about it.

(2) Yes, again. But, not for her sexual pleasure, per se. She just wanted me to look nice.

Apparently, you are trying to tell me that there is no point in wishful thinking...? I realize, of course, that it's not going to happen the way I would like. Still... Does it do any harm to dream? I'd still LIKE for her to take great pleasure in dressing me up in filly lingerie, etc. I think it would be "womderful." I didn't say that I thought that she either would, or should. I just said, "Wouldn't it be wonderful?"

Amy I lucky that she, at least, doesn't mind that I like to wear panties and slips, etc.? You'd better believe it. I'm well aware that many women won't tolerate it, at all! Yes. I'm very fortunate. But, I can dream, can't I? Don't you?

As to dressing for one's own pleasure....? I'm more inclined to believe that we (and, women more than men, but both men & women) tend to dress to impress our peers first, and ourselves second.

My ex-wife liked us to ware matching nighties to bed. I miss that. My ex-girlfriend used to try and find any chance for me to dress in her outfits. I just told my current girlfriend last year about my CDing. She seems okay with it but sometimes she makes me feel uncomfortable about it. Sometimes she wants me to be open about it, too open sometimes. I don't want my co-workers to know yet. Other times she doesn't want me to even talk about it.

I think wishing your wife/partner to lay out your frilly panties and party dress, then coming back to check you out and do your makeup for you, is very close to a petticoat punishment fantasy. Very lucky if you can get it in your daily life but it's nice to dream.