Need help

[Genna_Lee]

Ok so I am a 25 year old I have a wife and 2 kids and I love cding but know one close to me knows about it I think my wife is suspicious but I'm not shure how do I ... or what is the best way to tell her about my uther side of myself she doesent know about....

[Ms. Darla]

You need to find a way to let her know sooner than later. Waiting and sneaking around only makes it harder for everyone. You want her trust and support she needs yours first.

[Karren Hutton]

I agree with Ms Darla.. Sooner than later and before you get discovered.. There is no best way to tell.. Everyone reacts differently.. Maybe feel her out to see what's the most probably outcome..

[Kandis]

I have to agree with Karen and Ms. Darla. Remember that the key to a happy relationship/marriage is communication. We must remember that communication is the intake and outflow of information. You must find a way to "feel her out" as to her thoughts about the transgendered lifestyle. Only you can judge what her reaction might be should you just drop the bombshell on her in the following manner;

"Um, honey, can we talk"?
"Sure, what's on your mind"
"Well, I'm a crossdresser, can I borrow that new bra of yours"?

That is probably not the way you want to go about it unless you think it would work, but I do NOT recommend that method at all.

You might try asking some questions that would lead you to other questions that would eventually lead you up to being able to tell her all about Genna_Lee.

Just remember that even if she is accepting from the start, if you move too quickly and at a pace that scares her, things could very well go badly for you in your marriage. You must also have your children to consider as well, if things go bad for you and her, what happens to their life?

[DonnaT]

Check out this thread Sticky: THE OFFICIAL: How to Tell Your Wife - A Manual of Love in the forum Do you know how I feel?


http://crossdressers-haven.com/forums/v ... .php?t=107

[PhylissH]

Hi Genna,,

The other girls are right dont wait to long, if she finds out before you tell her it could be real bad, I know. I waited to long.
Try writing her a very sincere letter explaining your feelings and your love for her, and be honest about your feelings for CDing. Once you find a way to broach the subject and you talk a bit give her the letter. After she reads it be ready for the onslot of questions, some of which you won't have answers for but be honest and do your best. One of the first questions will be if you are Gay, that is a natural reaction since society paints it that way. Good luck, hope it goes well.

[Patti D]

Let topics of like concern come out in conversations when possible to see how she feels about different subjects. Get a feel as to how she reacts to the subject. Still I feel there comes a time to tell, just pray for the answer you want.