I'm more and more considering, well rather thinking about considering about attending one of these flings.
I know I'll definitely need to use the buddy system since its the bar/club scene but I was just wondering if
anyone else had any experiences with this sort of thing.
I tend to find gay men tend to dislike us, perhaps because we attract them but in general want nothing to do with them. GGs and lesbians love us, I suppose they see something about themselves in us.
I agree that they are good places to go, even though gay men are not always comfortable with us. Lesbian bars can be very nice, and it's a simple thing to call ahead and ask if they're OK with the idea of you being there. I've never gotten a "no."
My very first outings (nearly decades ago) were at GLBT clubs. The first thing I noticed were men showed no interest in me other than the odd stare. Women on the other hand were friendly and a curious few just wanted to chat. What I also discovered was that straight women sometimes go to these places because they know they aren't likely to get hit on by men, at least that's what a few of them told me.