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After 46 years I've finially gotten my wife's grudging agreement to allow me to dress at home when I feel the need and not have to wait for her to go visit for the day. I was planning a trip next week and finances are getting too tight for me to go away to spend 3 days as Wendae. I pointed this out to her and said "wouldn't you feel better if I stayed home to be Wendae rather then going away?" She agreed that she would rather have me home and not out running around in drag. So now I can relax when the urge comes over me. Wow!!! That sounds like a full moon is required for me to morph into Wendae! Anyway it's a great relief and another small step towards full freedom of us going out as girl friends.

Wow, congrats Wendae that's got to be a huge relief! It's still pretty early in our relationship that I know my wife isn't comfortable seeing Sara and I always feel guilt going out dressed w/o her. It's a fine line that can get really depressing. I think we would all like our spouses to be more involved in our dressing than they feel comfortable doing.

To have managed 46 years is pretty good going by anyone's standards. That you are still getting to know each other and explore eachothers depths together after that time speaks well for both of you, and for your future together. I know some members enjoy total acceptance by thier partners, but I think most of us wouyld be very pleased to be allowed this level fo freedom, well done both of you.

Congratulations Wendae, but don't get ahead of yourself. Dressing at home is one thing, and getting her to go out with you another.

Remember to go slow. Don't overwhelm her with Wendae too often. Baby steps.

Pace it all girl. Small steps. She may have said yes and it may make logical sense, but the better half still needs a reasonable time to get used to you.

Exactly the same happened to me & I now wear freely at home

I am glad to hear about that, Wendae. That is a big relief for you, I'm sure.

Wendae congratulations on the step forward with your wife. I hope it continues.

Wendae,

I have been married 16 years. My wife accepts my crossdressing and we have fun doing nails and makeup. If you are in love with someone why wouldnt you participate in your significant others activities. I do things with my spouse and her friends, even if It isn't the thing I want to do. I think loyalty and honor are the greatest attributes. What difference does it make if your a cross dresser if you have loyalty and honor, your royalty.

Hugs Vivian

That is a big stride Wendae, one day at time. I am glad to hear that it turned out so well for you and your wife.

Hugs,

Erica

I hope your wife realizes what a patient and reasonable mate she has in you. Perhaps, as you do this a time or two, she'll come to see Wendae as less of a threat, or less of an issue, and come to see that there are positive benefits to this arrangement, for both of you.

Anyway, here's hoping for a positive result with this..

Vivian, many of us have spouses who find it very difficult to come to terms with our need to express our gender diversity (wow that is possibly the most politicaly correct sentence I have ever written). This is a source of sorrow and difficulty for many of us. My own wife is not prepared, at the moment to accept Paula on any level. This does not mean that she does not love me, neither does it mean that she is not caring towrds me, it's just that this is realy hard for some people to come to terms with. There are a lot of us here who through fear of rejection did not tell our SOs about our cross dressing before we wed, now we have to deal with th esituation, it is not always easy, that is why we all say well done Wendae

Paula that is a really well thought out and expressed post.

Zari

Paula,
I was married to my wife for 11 years before I told her I was a cross dresser. She still loves and adores me and we have a bunch of fun activities we can do together that she thought I wouldn't like. I am not making any judgements of anyone elses relationships. Unconditional love isn't affected by what clothes or makeup you wear. If my wife told me she was a serial killer tomorrow, I would go buy a new shovel. (thats a joke)

Hugs Vivian

I am still absoloutly forbidden from being Jean at home, Finally a few years ago realizing the futility, she did concede I could wear panties full time to keep from the silly charade from going on that I was wearing guy undies.