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I've been here in Las Vegas for close to 8 months now and I finally feel like I've settled in enough to be more feminine again. While the family I live with is a bit awkward at times, I can't help but feel I can begin my transition. I have certain concerns, but having spent the last however many years (pushing 7 or 8 by now) counting and re-counting the pro's and con's of transitioning I've decided to start working towards going full time femme.

I've got to admit, though, some things still scare the willies out of me, but here goes nothing!


Oh, one other thing, over the years I've gone by Nami, Eureka, Jaxx, and one or two others. So there's the poll above to see what you galls think best fits me (feel free to post any other ideas)! And if you need some help deciding my pics are always up in our gallery!

The name you choose is really quite personal, and using a poll is kinda impersonal. There are some guidelines that your therapist might work with you on.

It is usually best to avoid names that sound like feminized masculine names, so Jackie you should view with caution. If you like it best, the real name would need to be spelled like Jackie Kennedys first name, which I can't recall the correct spelling of right now as it was the French version to go with her birth name of Bouvier.

A good thing to do is to think about the names of your female relatives, especially those that are deceased, so that if you are asked (and it does happen) you can just say your name is in honor of that realtive. Find out a bit about them too, as that can also give you a sense of family connection through the name. Also, some of the older names are really kinda elegant sounding (Julianna, Jeanne (French Joan), etc.), so if you like Julia as a dimunitive, then spell your formal first name Julianna, maybe.

If you have ever asked your mother what you would have been named if you had been born a gg, then consider that name if you like it. Again, it can give you a sense of family continuity. For example, I was actually called Carolynn on my first birth certificate and my mother told me the last part (Lynn) was for my maternal grandmother who passed away 4 years before I was born, and the Carol was to honor her best friend in highschool.

I think Brooklyn would not be that good a name, personally, as it kinda violates the blending that you would likely want to do. Brooklyn is different enough to attract attention, and relates to a geographic area, and people will be asking you if you are from that area, etc.

Lisa, though short is a two syllable name in the way it is pronounced (LeeeSa) and should be a first name, with a short, single syllable second name, i.e. Lisa Ann or Lisa Jane, or some similar thing. Same can be said for Julia, though for some reason a second 2 syllable name like Marie or even Maria, or some such. Lisa seems to be a rather perennially popular name, as does Lucy for Lucille. Barbara got a bad rap from the Barbie doll, as Barbie was a common dimunitive for Barbara, pre Barbie doll.

Look up the popular names right around the year of your birth, which you can find on web search. Think about them. If I recall correctly your age, Lindsey, Erin, Spring and Winter (or Wynter) were among the more popular.

You can look at the meaning and linguistic roots of names, such as Helen which means strength, and its derivitives such as Ellen. Diana or Diane are also good names in that regard.

So do a bit of research and see if you can find a name that fits you. That is one advantage we have, the ability to select a name we like.

Carolynn

Looks like an even race so far. I opted for Lisa.

Choosing our own name is a rare privilege, most just have to put up with whatever their parents decided, or worse, the childhood nickname which stuck.
I suppose the real question is not which name any of us, or indeed you, prefer, but what is your name. I voted for Jennifer, because I have a weakness for Jenny, well I used to have a big weakness for Jenny but that's another story........

I voted for Jennifer...because you look like a Jennifer to me...very scientific I know!

I have not voted as I believe a name is something for each of us to choose for our selves. I wish you the best with whatever name you pick.

I'm not going to vote either. What I will do instead is tell you about about how I came to my name. See http://davita-farley.webs.com/how_to/howname.html. In my discussion, there is a wonderful site you may want to check out, http://babynames.kabalarians.com/.

However you decide to be addressed, it's going to be right. Now I can't say that about your nicknames but they will likely fit too, even if you don't like them.

So what does a Jennifer look like? as I said "I had a big weakness for Jenny", that should have read "I had a big weakness for Jennies.", at one point I was simultaneously dating two girls both called Jenny, one was a tall "statuesque" red head, the other a short brunette, at some point I knew I would have to choose between them, my father made the choice for me, he answered the phone, "oh, it's Jenny, which one?" I did have a bit of explaining to do. I ended up engaged to be married to the other one, having seen her recently I am thankful for a lucky escape. And if she is reading this I'm in trouble again, but I will want to know why she is reading it here!
Sorry I have wandered from the point, which is it's your name, you have to find out what it is.

I know, I know, it's my choice in the end and I don't expect to let a poll control something so important in my life. Though I will certainly take the advice and suggestions into consideration! I wanted to thank you all for letting me know which names you like, I'm still deciding .

My only suggestion is that if you are to transition that you will feel different enough from most other people that you probably don't want a name that perpetuates that. You might want to consider an unremarkable name. But that's just my opinion, who am I to even venture it with a name like Absaroka?

Good luck in all this.

Zari