suspended for wearing dress and heels to school

Post by **DonnaT** » Sun Jun 19, 2011 6:28 am

http://www.nwcn.com/home/high-heels-cha ... 90989.html

Cindy Louise · Post by **Cindy Louise** » Sun Jun 19, 2011 7:09 am

Talk about over reaction by the school. Is it just me or is Mum wearing very 40's style makeup?.....I like it.

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Sun Jun 19, 2011 9:57 am

As someone who is married to a teacher I know that the whole issue of decorum in dress is in reality important. I'm not in favor of making boys wear ties or girls can't wear pants or any of that nonsense. And if someone is transgendered they should wear what is appropriate to what they really are inside and be accorded respect. But heels and a dress on your moms dare are about 1 step away from my friends dared me to wear........whatever. Kids go to school to learn.

Zari

Post by **DonnaT** » Mon Jun 20, 2011 10:57 am

Absaroka wrote:Kids go to school to learn.

Hopefully.

But I don't know of any instance where wearing a dress has hindered one's learning ability.

And I'm not sure how suspending him helped him learn any of his school work the three days he missed.

Kimberly Kael · Post by **Kimberly Kael** » Mon Jun 20, 2011 11:13 am

DonnaT wrote:I don't know of any instance where wearing a dress has hindered one's learning ability.

I can only imagine how unfocused the rest of the classroom would be. You are familiar with teenage boys, yes? The kid in question does come across as deliberately seeking attention, which he almost certainly got and may have continued to play to. I do support his right to express himself, but he also bears a responsibility to minimize the distraction, a responsibility he may not be mature enough to understand.

... and I can definitely think of instances where wearing heels has hindered my learning abilities. I hope the classes he went to before being sent home weren't too far apart!

Anne Bonny · Post by **Anne Bonny** » Mon Jun 20, 2011 10:18 pm

Society is changing but at glacial speed. Actually wearing a Dress and high heels to Junior high is still a very provocative and distracting act which would interfere with the ability of every class he attended to pay attention to the appropriate topic - math, science, history... etc. I remember twenty years ago seeing a guy moving quickly down the hall in full sail so to speak - while secretly envious, this was a junior college, I was not sure why he was in full regalia and have no Idea how his class/classes went - perhaps it was a dare? We have a long long -long long long way to go before males can comfortably dress as they please and be fully accepted with little notice.

Carol Ann · Post by **Carol Ann** » Wed Jun 22, 2011 6:44 am

,
Oh I just had to reply to this one as I have been there and done that.
At the high school I went to we had a day called "senior day", last full day of classes but seniors had that day to themselfs.

You went to class half a day but it was like Holloween all over as only seniors could dress anyway they wanted. My big day to show off my stuff
as I went to school as Carol Ann dolled up from head to foot, dress heels wig and full make up.

Going to class I didn't sit in my regular seat and believe it or not it took the teacher a good while before she figured out the new girl in class was me.

It was fun in the hallways between classes as nobody knew me or payed much attention to me because of all the other crazy walking around.
It was a huge fun day for everyone.

Paula G · Post by **Paula G** » Wed Jun 22, 2011 8:10 am

All very different to my experiences during the 1970s at a Grammar School with pretensions, even in the sixth and upper sixth (final) years Uniform was still enforced in an all male environment. At that time in that school anyone who was different was in trouble, it was bad enough for those of a different colour, I don't think they could have coped with any sexual orientation or gender identification issues.

Things are a lot more relaxed now, at my daughters school I know a some openly gay pupils, who are generally supported by their peers, but there is still a uniform rule which would stop or make very difficult any attempts at cross dressing. I would hope that the School (a Church of England comprehensive) would be supportive of anyone with genuine problems, but it is very difficult for those not involved to realise what the problems are (whoops starting to waffle now)...............

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Fri Jun 24, 2011 2:31 pm

I think Kimberly and Anne Bonny put it quite well.

Zari

Eureka · Post by **Eureka** » Fri Jun 24, 2011 3:33 pm

To think that was just a 10 minute drive from my home town...

Rikki · Post by **Rikki** » Sun Jun 26, 2011 10:04 am

Admire his attitude and love his Mom's look!! Go Retro!!!

Vivian · Post by **Vivian** » Sun Jun 26, 2011 4:54 pm

Carol Ann,

That is a great story about senior day. I am envious you could dress up and some of the other students, and a teacher didn't recognize you. That sounded like so much fun. That made my evening.

Hugs Vivian